[SocioApathetic]

I am not asexual but sex is not of particular interest to me. Every now and then, I'd crave a little physical interaction with another person but it's easily overcome. I think perhaps I rationalize it too much. Also, my partners did not make it easy for me to enjoy it. The "cuddling" afterwards would get a little suffocating. I, personally, don't understand how sex immediately translates into emotional intimacy. Maybe people just automatically make that association now. I would even make it explicitly clear to them that I was only interested in what they could provide me physically, and I always had their consent prior to it, but they seemed too willing to try to connect to me over a period of time. It bothered me, because then I had to explain to them again that I wasn't interested in developing a relationship (I hate repeating myself).
I have no preference for a single sex or gender. If a person appeals to me (not really emotionally; mostly intellectually), then it does not matter whether they are male or female. However, at the moment, I can honestly say sex is a mundane thing I think people make too much of a big deal out of. Yes, great, I have a sex drive but it doesn't govern my every thought and action.
I also think marriage to be a doomsday regime. I can't help but feel it's a little pointless, at least for someone like me. I have no disrespect for others who choose to marry. Live and let live, right?

[WolfStar]

I'm curious as to what other INTJs think of relationships and marriage. I, for one, think they've become something they never should have become. It's difficult to say with certainty what I truly feel about this whole subject, but I know for sure that I'm not the least bit interested in either gender, and I'd like to know what other INTJs think about that. Also, if you'd like, you can state your own sexuality and give some insight on the matter (no insulting or provoking statements, please). Keep it clean, and stay on topic. Also, if you have a question for me about why I'm the way I am in my sexual preference, then feel free to ask. (I'll save regrets for later)

I feel as though there's not a whole lot to think about. If you're religious, get married. If you're not, don't. Separation of church and state was supposed to keep things simple like that but I know that's not how it works.

I'm a straight male who enjoys monogamy. What anyone else does is their own business. I personally don't care about marriage in the slightest, but since it comes with tax benefits I'll do it at some point.

[delarocha420]

How old are you?

19... I'll be 20 in a month

I'm curious about your perception if you would like to share.

I was/am largely sexually disinterested until some mystical voodoo happens where I find I care about another person's thoughts and have some kind of emotional feedback loop, happens rarely though. But that whole thing seems to go through cycles and doesn't stay consistent.

I don't associate sex with emotions. That being said, if emotions aren't involved, I'd rather have one fuck buddy than a bunch of one night stands. 1. Because I'm an introvert and I find it really awkward/draining to have to constantly "pick up" people. Flirting is really... ugh. 2. For the obvious reason-- someone you have sex with a lot is going to know which buttons to press, so to speak.

But anyway, I'm pretty new at sex so I guess I'm still kinda awkward about it in general

[Wizardry]

That isn't asexual either. It's probably more demisexual.

I never claimed asexuality, lol. It isn't purely demisexual either because there have been times where a guy's looks alone turned me on and I'd even manage to get him home/somewhere to get the sexy on. Then he'd open his mouth and ruin everything. Other things change too when I got horny enough (usually when under stress) and then stuff becomes random and there is no telling what will happen or what judgments come into play.

I am not asexual but sex is not of particular interest to me. Every now and then, I'd crave a little physical interaction with another person but it's easily overcome. I think perhaps I rationalize it too much. Also, my partners did not make it easy for me to enjoy it. The "cuddling" afterwards would get a little suffocating. I, personally, don't understand how sex immediately translates into emotional intimacy. Maybe people just automatically make that association now. I would even make it explicitly clear to them that I was only interested in what they could provide me physically, and I always had their consent prior to it, but they seemed too willing to try to connect to me over a period of time. It bothered me, because then I had to explain to them again that I wasn't interested in developing a relationship (I hate repeating myself).
I have no preference for a single sex or gender. If a person appeals to me (not really emotionally; mostly intellectually), then it does not matter whether they are male or female. However, at the moment, I can honestly say sex is a mundane thing I think people make too much of a big deal out of. Yes, great, I have a sex drive but it doesn't govern my every thought and action.
I also think marriage to be a doomsday regime. I can't help but feel it's a little pointless, at least for someone like me. I have no disrespect for others who choose to marry. Live and let live, right?

Sex and cuddling like that and under those circumstances was disgusting to me too. Its sort of like when I hear of men who hunt down some porn then get finished doing their man business, they suddenly find the stuff on the screen unappealing and sort of gross so they close the windows out until they go on their next hunt. You can't just shoo people away, usually, when done with them even if you enter into it under the grounds that its just mutual use of bodies for some release. I also think there is a slight glitch to at least my mind in terms of what happens there. When its complete I usually get a bit annoyed they are still there, maybe a bit angry/anxious if they make emotional appeals. I gave up on that though because I don't like hurting people. I'd found one guy who was just as laid back and detached as me but stuff went badly there too because he wanted more.

I don't bond just from sex alone and if it came down to it I'd prefer a good mental connection over the physical. I can take care of my physical needs, lol. I actually do enjoy cuddling with select people so long as there isn't a lot of talking (emotional talking, I can listen to lectures about various topics for hours) and some music for mood. If they aren't select then I get bored and drift in my head and annoyed they are touching me.

[shadowofambivalence]

I consider myself heterosexual, but I rarely feel the need for that sort of human contact and for me to actually feel it I have to be high on ambien, most of the time I just masturbate when i feel a need to.

[MelissaC]

I'm curious as to what other INTJs think of relationships and marriage. I, for one, think they've become something they never should have become. It's difficult to say with certainty what I truly feel about this whole subject, but I know for sure that I'm not the least bit interested in either gender, and I'd like to know what other INTJs think about that. Also, if you'd like, you can state your own sexuality and give some insight on the matter (no insulting or provoking statements, please). Keep it clean, and stay on topic. Also, if you have a question for me about why I'm the way I am in my sexual preference, then feel free to ask. (I'll save regrets for later)

Wait, are we talking about relationships/marriage, or sex? I have wildly divergent views on the two.

I'm heterosexual and highly sexual. As somebody else said, I generally prefer "fuck buddies" simply because I'm not attracted to a man sexually until I'm convinced he's not a complete moron. I guess sex is the main way I escape my own head.

As for relationships/marriage: So long as I have a couple close friends, a nightstand piled with books, a fulfilling career, and occasional (satisfying) sexual trysts...who needs 'em?

[HijackThis]

I am definitely heterosexual, but I have yet to be in a romantic relationship with a girl for a variety of reasons such as my relatively young age and my lack of interest in working to attract a mate. I feel that if I ever wanted to form a relationship with somebody, it should be serious and not merely sexual in nature. Somebody who I would enjoy spending time with. Maybe I'm too much of a perfectionist, but I am waiting until I meet somebody that I am both attracted to physically and can relate to intellectually or emotionally before I move to a steady relationship.

Given that I'm just about to finish high school, this might just be the ramblings of an idealistic kid, so take it for what you will.

[NegaPanda]

There are a plethora of threads about INTJs and their sexual orientation. It's not really a type thing. It's an individual preference. I'm not asexual.

Yes, I realize it's very far-fetched to say that sexuality is based off of personality type, and I highly doubt that. However, I just wanted to see what other INTJs thought about the matter, or if there are any others like me about the whole thing.

[NegaPanda]

wait so you're asexual??
thats really weird. I'm horny like ALL the time. its actually a problem

Yes, I realize being asexual is an aberration, but do you really think I'm weird for it? Plus, it's not like I'm the only asexual person there is.

[NegaPanda]

I consider myself heterosexual, but I rarely feel the need for that sort of human contact and for me to actually feel it I have to be high on ambien, most of the time I just masturbate when i feel a need to.

I appreciate the honesty.