From: Parenting Skill-the INTJ Child and Parenting Skill with Myers Briggs!
If your child is INTJ, Introverted with Intuition, Thinking and Judging, parenting skill can be improved by understanding that these INTJ young ones are typically intensely private in their own thoughts kind of kids. And we will get into that in just a moment.
Firstly understand that this page is devoted to helping you as a loving parent or guardian better understand how to use your instinctive nature to improve your parenting skill by nurturing your child.
Your nature and your child’s nature is your personality type and your child’s type as discovered through the Myers Briggs Test. You may or may not be INTJ; but, if your child is INTJ than this page can guide you in developing outstanding parenting skill as you raise and interact with your INTJ child.
You’ll be introduced to several key personality characteristics of the INTJ child and you’ll be given some suggestions as to things to do that will improve parenting skill and help nurture you INTJ child all through life.
We’ll assume that you know your personality type and that your child is INTJ…here we go!!
Some Characteristics of the INTJ Child-Some Behaviors to Look For
- INTJ children are deep, cerebral; these traits can frequently be seen early on
- A INTJ child will frequently appear older than he/she is
- The INTJ child will be detached, alone, observant
- They typically will not warm to strangers easily
- They may develop language at a very early age, (birth to age 4yrs) it can be quite noticeable
- The INTJ child will likely be attracted to events, things rather than to people
- INTJs usually are crazy about books at an early age
- INTJs love to be read to and will learn to read frequently in this fashion
- Your INTJ may appear afraid of nothing
- The INTJ child will probably cry less…their emotions are hidden and they detach from them
- Don’t be surprised if you INTJ is somewhat competitive and comfortable with routing and structure
- Although learning to read early on, don’t be surprised if your INTJ does not engage in talking with others….if they see a logical reason to talk they will, if not, they probably won’t!!
- The pre-school INTJ can be very stubborn if forced to “socialize”
- The INTJ is even tempered, controlled, emotionally distant (controlled within)….so don’t expect many expressions of joy and happiness even though they feel it!
- Most INTJs love writing, art, creative activities learned in school
- They typically love to learn…all thru their life
- Your INTJ may journal, keep a diary without much prompting from you
- Your INTJ is a big-picture, liking theory child
- Most INTJs will enjoy argument and debate in school
- The INTJ child is strongly independent, very much their own person
- As adolescents the INTJ will work hard at defining themselves…they typically may rebel against the norm seeing deeper meaning for them in different life styles
- The INTJ will argue about parental restraint, limits imposed upon them are not accepted easily….they struggle to make their own way logically
Regardless of Your Type Mom and Dad-Here Are Some Things You Can Do to Nurture the INTJ Child and Improve Parenting Skill
- Allow them to be by themselves or with a favorite friend, it is ok
- Do not introduce social situations to them too early…actually don’t do that at all…they will find their own in time
- Understand that they have feelings but feelings for them are buried deep and may not be expressed as much as you might like…try not to be alarmed by this
- Allow them to grow academically, intellectually, provide opportunity for that
- Allow them to have all the creative toys, supplies they want
- Allow them to unwind before delving into their school day
- When time comes to discipline be fair, consistent, if you can Mom and Dad explain logically why you are disciplining them
- Quietly listen to their ideas, allow them to develop their broad ranging, deep, different thoughts
- Understand that your INTJ child will criticize a lot but it is natural for them to do so….don’t take it personally!
In conclusion Mom or Dad, if you are INTJ than most of the above seemed pretty natural; but, if you are not a Intuitive Thinker (NT) than maybe the above can better aid you as you develop you parenting skill. If this helps remember the INTJ is one of the rarest of all the 16 personality types! Less than something like 3-4% of all the people in the world have this type!!