Hello, intertubes. Another month, another member of the month: this time it's KindOfBlue06!
He's filled out this questionnaire that you should all read immediately. The picture may not be of him, but in the future he hopes to get a digital camera so that may be replaced with one of him!
What's your real name?
Dennis. Urban Dictionary it and you'll know what I'm all about. ;)
How old are you?
24 at the time of this writing.
What country are you situated in?
Are you single, dating, or married?
Do you have any kids?
No, I'm not at that point in my life yet.
How would you describe yourself in one word?
What is your favorite place to travel to?
New York City! I love everything about it; it's history, it's mythology, it's legacy, it's hustle and bustle fast paced make or break you kind of attitude, and of course the architecture. New York City is where the best of the best go to thrive and compete, and harsher competition makes for better people. I don't care if you're an artist, a businessman, an entrepreneur, a model, or whatever, just being around like minded people in a competitive atmosphere brings out the best in people. It's a beautifull city.
What is your favorite color?
Take a guess. ;)
What is your favorite weather?
I like fall weather. It's cool, and crisp. I also love watching the leaves change color.. I am also very fond of thunderstorms.
What are your favorite books, movies, tv shows, and video games?
Books: Tropic of Cancer, Tropic of Capricorn, Black Spring, Lolita, The Great Gatsby, Treasure Island, Where The Wild Things Are, Think and Grow Rich, How To Win Friends and Influence People, Please Kill Me, Touched With Fire, King Warrior Magician Lover, Wild At Heart, Way Of the Superior Man, Iron John, The Story of O, My Secret Garden, The River of Doubt, The Lost City of Z, Over the Edge of the World, We Die Alone, Miles Davis' Autobiography, Romeo and Juliet, Henry and June, The Artist's Way, Mr. Blue, The Mysticism of Sound and Music, The Road, Man and His Symbols, Time and the Soul, Beyond Good and Evil, The Message of the Sphinx, Supernatural, Fingerprints of the Gods, Mysteries of Mind Space and Time -The Unexplained, The Dictionary, and The Bible.
I also really love short stories, especially anthologies, and Akashic's noir series.
Movies: Fight Club, Vanilla Sky, The Beach, Gladiator, Apocalypto, Jurassic Park, Indiana Jones movies, Nolan's Batman trilogy, The Godfather trilogy, The Lord of the Rings trilogy, A Dangerous Method, Garden of Eden, Bad Santa, Weddings Crashers, Stanley Kubrick films, Woody Allen films, Last Tango in Paris, Diary of a Nymphomaniac, Eros, 9 and 1/2 Weeks, Secretary, The Dreamers, Leaving Las Vegas, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Rocky, Raging Bull, The Fighter, 300, White Cargo, Walk The Line, The Aviator, Where The Wild things Are, Legends of the Fall, and Blue Kaleidoscope.
Tv shows: Mad Men, Game Of Thrones, Californication, Walking Dead, Breaking Bad, The Killing, It's Allways Sunny In Philadelphia, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Louie, Sons Of Anarchy, Boarwalk Empire, Wheel of Fortune, Jeopardy, Morning Express, and anything on CNN and History Channel. And back when they were still airing, Rescue Me, Nip/Tuck, Lights Out, Larry King Live, and Eastbound and Down. Ohh, and guilty pleausres: Keeping Up With the Kardashians and Jersey Shore!!!
Video Games: I grew out of video games when I picked up the guitar, but back in the day I was all about Quake, Duke Nukem 3D, Half-Life, and Silent Hill. I prefer games you can play IRL, like blackjack, chess, beer pong, and duck duck goose.
What are your favorite foods and beverages?
In this order: Water, Canadian Club whiskey on the rocks, CC Manhattan (light vermouth with a lemon instead of a cherry) strawberry milkshake, black coffee (decaf), red wine, IPAs.
New York Strip Steak cooked medium rare, thin crust pizza (the greasier the better!) mostaccioli, eggs, tacos, beef jerkey, fruits and vegetables, spicy foods, and any breakfast food.
What is your favorite animal?
Dog. A dog aint ever gonna fuck you over or cheat you. A dog is loyal to the very end. They do nothing but love. Dogs are amazing.
What kind of music do you enjoy?
I love all kinds except for country, but my favorite genres are jazz, indie, punk, classical, flamenco, and music from the '60s. Some of my favorite artists/ bands are: John Coltrane, Minus The Bear, Miles Davis, Pretty Lights, Sergei Rachmaninoff, Claude Debussy, Rafael Riqueni, Tom Waits, Jay-Z, Lil' Wayne, The Stooges, Jimi Hendrix, Black Flag, and Blink-182.
Do you play or follow any sports?
I'm really only into boxing and baseball (Go Tigers!). In baseball even though it's a team sport, you can shine on your own, and it's one of the hardest sports to play. In boxing, it's just as much mental as it is physical. When you win, you know you've won because you were the best, and you can't blame nobody but yourself if you loose. You don't have a team to fall back on, it's only yourself. I admire that.
What are your favorite websites to visit?
Personality Cafe (DUH!) AboveTop Secret, Google, Youtube, Wikipedia, Two INFPs, Hearts Of Space, chatrooms, some guitar sites, and Typewatch. PM me for the adult ones. ;)
What is your greatest weakness?
Procrastination, and doubt. Half of the time I procrastinate because of doubt. I'm working on these though!
What is your greatest strength?
My perserverence, and my intense passion. My whole life I've allways felt kind of like an underdog, but when people doubted me, it was my passion and desire to go after what I wanted that enabled me to perservere. To succeed in life you have to be passionate about whatever it is you do, and I know that I definitely have the fire in the belly to take me where I want to go.
What motivates you?
Competition, and challenge. Wanting to be the absolute best at whatever I do. Also, perservering through adversity and reading about people who have overcome great odds. I also want to inspire people to become the best person they can be, because I know that their is greatness and beauty in all of us, even if we don't see it in ourselves.
What is your philosophy?
Live life like you're allready dead. Take advantage of life every day. Life goes by so fast, and we get caught up in all the distractions and trivialities, that we often forget that we don't have a lot of time here. Don Juan says that death is our eternal companion. Yet it is our own mortality, that gives purpose and meaning to our lives.
The more you lean into death, the more you lean into life. It is a paradox, but one that is worthy and demanding of our attention. Life is so precious and fragile, and all we can do is make the most of it every day, because you cannot get back yesterday, and tomorrow is only a vision, a dream. All we really have for certain is the present moment, and to live in that moment selfessly, courageously, and fearlessly, is to live from our deepest core, our deepest truth. And in that way, we transcend death because truth is eternal. It is the truth that we live out in that moment that carries us forward and fires us into the deeper mysteries of life.
What are you passionate about?
I'm passionate about music, writing, and public speaking. I want to move people in some way, touch something deep inside them, and those are my preferred methods. Those are the things I am most passionate about, but I try to live a passionate life in general. I've had a few close calls with death, and it's given me a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. I am very grateful to be here, and when I look at all the beauty in the world, it's hard not to be passionate about it.
To me, being passionate means being alive. I am reminded of a quote from St. Ignatious which hangs on my fridge. It says Go and set the world on fire. I think that in order to do that, you have to be on fire yourself; and that is what the world needs -people who are on fire, people who have come alive. People who are living their deepest purpose, facing head on and without fear or shame, both the joys and rigors of life -and blessing others with their very essence.
But to me passion is much more than that too, because it is easy to be passionate about life when everything is going your way, but as we all know life is not allways sunshine and roses. But to be brave during your darkest hour, to love when you are broken, to remain hopeful when you are touching the very depths of your deepest sorrow -that to me is not only living passionately, but living valiantly and admirably as well. Let us remember that they call it The Passion of the Christ for a reason.
By being a passionate person and living a passionate life, I hope to encourage others to discover their own passions, and to live the truly passionate life, however that may be for them.
What kinds of jobs have you had?
My dad owns a bookstore and I've been working there since I was old enough to work. I've also bartended, been an extra in a movie,and volunteered at the Detroit Institute of Arts for a while. I also volunteer as a Graduate Assistant for Dale Carnegie Training. Once you have completed the Dale Carnegie Course, you can come back and help the instructors with the class. I enjoy doing that because I like public speaking and inspiring others through my talks.
What are your pet peeves?
Slow drivers, and slow walkers. People moving my stuff around, people who talk REALLY loud, bartenders pouring weak ass drinks, arrogance, and getting ideas for music but not being able to get to my guitar.
Also, I hate being interrupted from inspiration. I know people may need to talk to me or get shit done, but I can't choose when inspiration hits me either. I'm understanding because I don't want to be rude, but it still iritates me on some level. I'm working on it though!
What are your fears?
Failure. And not living up to my full potential. I also am pretty terrified of worms, becoming paralyzed, getting Alzheimers, spontaneous human combustion, chakras, and kundalini energy.
Who do you look up to?
I had an uncle who was somewhat of a legend to me when I was growing up. He hopped a train at 16 to look for work during the Depression, he flew sucidide misions in WWII, hunted grizzly bears, swam Lake Michigan, just lived a really incredible life. He inspires me to live life to the absolute fullest, to live the life worthy of legend.
I also look up to great men throughout history, guys who changed the game, who were larger than life and lived like kings. Miles Davis, Elvis Presley, Frank Sinatra, Ernest Hemingway, Henry Miller, Teddy Roosevelt, Howard Hughes, Babe Ruth, Mohammad Ali, Joe Louis, Warren Buffet, Hugh Hefner, Lance Armstrong, ect.
Ohhh and Jesus Christ of course!
Do you have any pets?
I have a black short haired minature dachshund named Pepper, and a fish named Fish who I won at a carnival four years ago this June. We are BFFs.
What do you do for fun and relaxation?
I read, play guitar, watch movies, do puzzles, smoke cigars, go to shows, hang out with friends, party, write, workout, study up on things that interest me ect. I especially enjoy just being alone and reflecting on my thoughts and feelings.
How did you get involved with personality typing?
I actually started with horoscopes haha. I got real into that before I found out about Meyers Briggs which seemed a little more sound, but I never really devled into it too much untill I took a test in the Spring of 2011 and came up as INFP. The rest is history.
What is your Myers Briggs personality type?
What is your enneagram type?
3w4 7w6 9w8 sx/so
What's it like to be an INFP Type Three?
Apparently I'm kind of a rare breed, but I feel like it kind of rounds me out. I have the depth, and intensity of the INFP, and the drive and ambition of the Type 3, so in a way they compliment each other and make for a pretty solid mix. It means that I am passionate, sentimental, intense, and dreamy, as well as driven, ambitious, bold, and intensley aware of both my own feelings, and how others percieve me.
I feel as though sometimes they conflict with each other, but when they do, it is a chance for me to learn and grow. In a way it's a sort of balancing act between the drives and motivations and the inherent nature of myself. There is the drive to succeed, but to do it on my terms, and to do it my way. Yet there is also the introspective side that asks the hard questions. What do you want? Where are you going? What are you running from ...and why?
I like who I am. I'd have it no other way.
Do you think the different personality theories give an accurate description of you?
I would say that they do to a point. When I read the descriptions of the INFP, that of being sensitive, loving, introspective, imaginative they all rung true for me. It wasn't untill the past 6 months or so that I started looking seriously at the enneagram. I typed as a 5 repeatedly, but the descriptions didn't match me. So I started talking with some very knowledgeable people, and people who have a pretty good sense of what I'm all about, and they helped me narrow it down between a 4 and a 3. After taking an honest look at what drives me, and what scares me, I concluded that I am a type 3, but with a heavy 4 wing.
Which personality theory do you prefer, and why?
I kind of prefer the enneagram a little more. I like how it is kind of spiritual in a sense, but I also love how dark, raw and unexplored it is. It holds a mirror up to your true self, and shows you how you are. It will not sugarcoat anything, and it deals you the hard facts. It allows you -if you're willing, to get in touch with your dark side, with the ugly parts of yourself. It allows you to know and understand them, and by doing so -to overcome them.
They both have flaws however, in that they are only theories. I cannot be defined or contained by 4 letters of MBTI or 9 types of an enneagram. I think of only 6 letters to carry me forward and define who I am and who I am to become: MYSELF.
Do you use personality typing in the real world?
I do now, but just in my head. As a writer though, I have also used it to develop characters. Knowing how they think, what their motives, fears and desires are helps to make them believable. Also it has helped me understand people better, especially difficult people. I don't see them as adversaries anymore, just people with a different thought process from mine.
Has personality typing helped you in any way?
It helped me to understand myself better. It gave me comfort knowing that I wasn't alone, that there are other people who think and feel the same way as I do. It also made me take an honest look at myself, at my strengths and weaknesses. It helped me understand others as well. It stirred in me a sense of discovery. Discovering my own faults and how to overcome them, as well as discovering how other people view the world, and learning how they think, what drives them and the reason why. It's all very fascinating to me.
Do you prefer to associate yourself with certain types, and why?
Not really, there's good and bad in every type. I take it on a one on one basis. I've been around many different kinds of people my whole life and I've allways found something to like about them. I would't want someone not associating with me based solely on my type so why do it to them you know? When you give people the benefit of the doubt they're bound to surprise you, and often times they exceed your expectation.
How did you initially find your way to PersonalityCafe?
Well I was looking up an aritcle on introverts, and it led me to a Meyers Brigg test. So I took it and came up INFP. After that I started looking up information on INFPs, and it kept leading me here.
What made you join us?
I lurked for about a week and then decided to join because it's such a great place, and I wanted to talk with other INFPs.
If you had to choose your favorite forum on PerC, which would it be?
INFP forum is allways going to be home base for me, but I like other forums too, like Sex and Relationships, Type 3 Forum, Game Forum, and Spam Forum for some good LOL moments. I've also been known to hang around the ENFP, ISFP, and ENTJ forums as well. But PerC is vast, and I want to explore more!
What do you like most about PersonalityCafe?
The diversity of the members. It's like a huge melting pot, and you get to see the world from different perspectives. It really is the place to discover yourself.
Plus you can ask the hard questions like What is the meaning of existence? Is there a God? As well as Why the hell does this turn me on!? And no one will judge you any differently! Also, the Spam Forum has some real nuggets of gold!
What do you dislike most about PersonalityCafe?
Stupid internet drama. Trolls. Arguments. I also become disheartened when people box themselves in. They think that because they are a certain type, they can't develop the traits of another type.
What is the most important thing you've learned here?
Probably the most important thing I've learned here is that the things I thought were weaknesses in me, are actually strengths. I've learned alot about myself, how I work and operate. It's given me clarity. I've also learned alot from people who are different from me. Another member on here also showed me that it is not only okay to be vulnerable, but that it is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Do you have any advice for the community of PersonalityCafe?
Be good to one another. Hang around people who are your polar opposite, because everyone has something to teach you. Be accepting of others who are different from you. And most importantly, don't ever let MBTI or enneagram or anything ever hold you back. They are training wheels, not a crutch. Use them to learn and grow, but realize that you and you alone are the only one who can define you.
If you could have any super power, what would it be?
Hmmm, maybe the ability to say the right thing at the right time without breaking a sweat. Life would be so much easier! Job interviews, dates, cocktail parties, running for office, the possibilities are endless!!!
What do you know now that you wish you'd known five years ago?
That I will see some dark days, but that they will make me a stronger person. To have hope even when the world was going to hell all around me.
What do you believe is your greatest accomplishment at this point?
For pretty much my whole life I've struggled with depression. I think my greatest accomplishment has been fighting it, and perservering through it. Believing in myself when no one believed in me, for finding hope, and seeing a light in the darkness. Summoning that inner strength and coming out a stronger, fiercer person. Some days were pretty rough, and I felt like I couldn't take anymore. But you can allways take a little more. Allways.
So that's what I did. When the chips were down, when I was up against the ropes and when everything seemed hopeless, I entered into my pain. I sat with my sorrow, made it my friend, licked my wounds in a sense. And I allowed it to transform me. I turned inward and allowed God to send me the strength I needed to get through it. My old self passed away, but it was in the black womb of my despair that my new self was born. This quote brought me to tears when I first read it because I resonated so much with it. To this day it still moves me.
In the depths of winter, I finally realized that within me, there lay an invincible summer.
Tell us something about yourself that we don't already know.
All of my organs are on the opposite side of my body.
I have a disability called arthrogryposis on my feet and left arm/hand, but they did surgery when I was real young to make sure I wouldn't need braces or anything. I don't let it bother me though, and it dosen't really hinder me in any way. As long as I can play guitar or throw a punch, I'm fine with it.
I have synesthesia, so I associate numbers with colors, and even give them personalities. This is where personality typing comes in handy! ;) I can also hear colors in music, different keys and tones have different colors for me. So for instance, the number 6 is Blue, and I also associate it with myself. They are also my favorite color and number, so my username works on many levels haha.
When I was in Mexico City as a baby, I was blessed by Mother Teresa. I have baby pictures of me biting on her finger.
I am also a proud Catholic.
I love learning about ancient cultures, the paranormal, and the unexplained.
What is next for you? What are your plans and goals for the future?
There are things that are calling me, and I'm going to answer that calling. First on the agenda is to finish writing this album with my buddy. I will also continue to write and work on mastering the short story, keep pushing my comfort zone, and living a life I will be proud of. On to the next adventure! I don't allways think it, but I realize I'm still a young guy. The great achievements, the great romances, the greatest challenges and opportunities of my life are all ahead of me. The best is yet to come.
Give us your parting words.
Live fearlessly. Love achingly. Take nothing for granted. Let the ones who truly matter in your life -your friends and family, let them know how much you love them because I can guarantee you, they don't hear it enough. Savor every morsel of life, the good and the bad. Allow yourself to revel in life, become intoxicated by it. Know that there is untold measures of strength and greatness in each and every one of you. I hope that someday all of you may know true beauty, triumph, and happiness. Live in the moment, and live it with a full heart.
Thanks to everyone who voted for me, it really is an honor! I'll see you all on the forums, but in the meantime, love one another, and do things I would do! ;) ,./,./,./