First Date Advice: ENFP/INFP

**PeacePassion** · 12-28-2009, 10:29 AM

aw, you two sound really really great together. seems to me like you've got this, you're doing great, just do what you feel is right, flirt more if you feel like it, wait for him to ask you on a second date if you want to and so on :)

Tal · 12-28-2009, 10:40 AM

I agree with the waiting around for a kiss thing. You should call him if he doesn't call you, you may be the woman, but you are the ENFP after all.

**Lilsnowy** · 12-28-2009, 11:17 AM

I think it's great you're taking the risk of meeting someone. You can really pick up on your excitement! Maybe wait to see if he contacts you again and if he doesn't, you can always contact him to see if he's interested in more dating. I would give it a week or more because you never know what his schedule might be like, especially if he plans dates out a week or more in advance.

We ENFPs do bring different 'foods' to the table; he can always say no, but it sounds like he'll say yes. Your txt about the belly dancing was perfect!It's so hard for ENFPs to wait when we like someone! I would try to wait, to give him a chance to call you.

**PeacePassion** · 12-28-2009, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by pinkrasputin

He did a couple of interesting things though. And I don't know what they mean. Maybe someone could clarify. When we got to the restaurant, he said "go in" I'm just going to put my things in the car really quick. I said "okay" and went in. He came back after a minute and said "While I was out at my car I though 'Wow You trust me.' I could have left or something."

Not quite understanding I said, "I do?" He said "Yeah. You didn't worry I was going to take off?". I said, "No. Not at all. And if you I did it would have been okay. I have a ride home (I met him there with my car). Then I also added, "And if you left that would have been all about you. I still wouldn't have worried. I wouldn't make a person stay if they didn't want to stay." So I can't tell if he did the whole senario just to test me or if it was really just a random thought floating in his head once he got to his car and was just worried that he might have made me worry.

He did ask "Did the thought ever even cross your mind?" I said, "No, not at all." Then I cut up any awkwardness by quickly making the joke "Maybe I'm just egotistical that way. Maybe I just think 'why would anyone want to leave me?" He laughed we both laughed.

lol talking to Tal we were thinking that maybe the thought entered his mind because that's what he'd think if you suddenly had to go to your car, or he was afraid YOU'D leave when he went to his car, haha... maybe that's why he wanted you to go inside the restaurant before he actually went back to his car :)

Tal · 12-28-2009, 12:24 PM

I really think you should just be yourself. You need to be clear with him that you're interested. INFP's need clear signs sometimes to have the confidence to make the next move. If you feel like calling him then call. Hell, if you don't want to ask him out, then ask him when HE'S going to ask you out again (thanks Peacepassion :)), that would be clear, and give him an opening to ask you if he's interested.

**PeacePassion** · 12-28-2009, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Tal

I really think you should just be yourself. You need to be clear with him that you're interested. INFP's need clear signs sometimes to have the confidence to make the next move. If you feel like calling him then call. Hell, if you don't want to ask him out, then ask him when HE'S going to ask you out again (thanks Peacepassion :)), that would be clear, and give him an opening to ask you if he's interested.

Yes! I totally agree with all this!
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Rogue Eagle · 12-28-2009, 02:43 PM

INFPs wont initiate kiss most of the time unless they're pretty sure it's a done deal and they wont be smacked down for it.

He sounds pretty interested though.

personally, I've never asked a girl out. It's just too hard, they've all hunted me down >>

edit: except for yesterday wooyeah.

**amanda32** · 12-28-2009, 06:22 PM

His texts sound really cute! He sounds like a cutie all together.
I think you definitely conveyed your interest clearly.
Wait for him to call, it sounds 100% like he will.
I don't think it's a bad sign that he doesn't call often, I read it as nervousness. I don't like to call people between dates and talk on the phone with sb. I barely know -- very difficult and stressful! I get annoyed when they want to talk with me on the phone with me between dates and will actually say, "no" after putting it off as long as possible.
I'd much rather talk to them in person when I can read their facial expression and movements.
I only talk on the phone with people I'm completely comfortable with unless I have to.
It's a really good sign that he texted back. And it sounds like he did it promptly as well.
Another thought is that he might take a little time to absorb the entire date and work up the emotional energy to ask you out again. He might want time to digest and fantasize about it.
I wonder if he's thinking, "where should I take her next..?" even as we speak? Hm...

btw, you seem very funny and likeable. (how do you spell that work? gr...) Already, such a cute couple...

priestess · 12-28-2009, 07:05 PM

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for some reason, when I read this..I imagined this being a date between a more introverted Aron Eckhart and more extroverted Zooey Deschannel.

This is hillarious! I can see that too.

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I also agree with the advice to make yourself a bit scarce. I'm not into playing games either. But I think it's a good idea in general when dating men at first (especially handsome, desirable INFP, lawyers who drive Mercedes). It's enough to go to your head - but too early to call. Best of luck. It sounds like it could really work.

**pinkrasputin** · 12-28-2009, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by NotKevinCostner

for some reason, when I read this..I imagined this being a date between a more introverted Aron Eckhart and more extroverted Zooey Deschannel.

Okay so now I'm going to have to make a comment on this. In some ways the INFP was a little Aron Eckhart-like. Maybe mine was taller. And the Blonde/Brunette thing is right.

But vocally, I think I could give Zooey a run for her money

Oh yeah. I just remembered on our date. The dude looked at everyone who walked by. I did notice he did it with some guys too. Soo perhaps a distraction. But I don't think so. That's a HUGE no, no for me. I'm too ADHD. If a guy's eyes "shift" during conversation, it throws me off. And I can't put up with someone checking others out. Just sayin.......