[Lummex]

Hey, this is my first post!

I was wondering about the compatibility between INFPs and ENFJs. If anyone has any links to websites or information on relationships between them and what not, or even just advice of their own.

I like this guy, an ENFJ, a lot. But of course, given his personality type, he's extremely flirty with everyone. And he genuinely likes most people. He's been such a sweetie to me and a gentleman and all that, but how do I know if he has deeper interest than just a friendship with me?

I really like this guy, he has developed his ENFJ personality beautifully, and he is pretty much the definition of it. I feel so energized socially around him, completely comfortable and like I can talk to him about what's truly on my mind and what makes me tick. I don't want to get too excited and intense about it (like we tend to do, haha), but I've never liked anyone in this way before.

[OrangeAppled]

Oh man...the things those ENFJs do to us poor little INFPs :D . I adore the ENFJ personality also. I made a list of my ideal guy (another thread, another board) and it pretty much read: ENFJ personality traits.

Your question is one I have myself, and I have yet to get a totally satisfying answer. The only consensus among ENFJs is you know you mean more to them than just any person when they open up to you. You might notice that they have a great ability to get people talking and make them open up, but the ENFJ will actually not reveal a lot about him/herself. If they talk to you about anything very personal, there is a good chance they view you as a good friend (or more, if it's romantic). I'm also going to guess that when they like someone, they probably go for it. They are usually pretty confident and not passive in that way (even ones I know who claim they are "shy"). It's hard to know where the flirting ends and real intentions begin though...

I personally feel like the the ENFJ-INFP combo would make a great match. I think that Fe Ni and Fi Ne can be very complementary. But then, few people charm me so quickly and easily as ENFJs. I feel pretty good about how I affect them. I seem to attract a lot of them IRL, and we usually click right away and I become a favorite with them fast. There's various reasons why a romantic relationship has never developed with any of the ENFJ guys I know, but I think if the circumstances were right it would be an ideal match for me.

Oh yeah, and welcome :)

[Lummex]

Thanks! And yeah, I could tell we clicked the moment we met. He seemed to take interest (albeit probably just a friendly one initially) immediately. For some reason I haven't met many other ones that I can remember! I do know one other ENFJ guy, and we also seem to click really well, he takes an unusual interest in me (but he has a gf that he loves a lot, so it's just friendly). I really like ENFJ's!

[OrangeAppled]

Bump - any more comments? Where are all the ENFJs?!!!

[thehigher]

do enfj girl's ask out guys just as easily? ...does anyone know? lol

[SamIAm]

I wish there were more posted on this thread, it is very closely related to my situation.

[satine]

hi there :)

my bf is ENFP, I'm v new to this personality typing so not sure how much difference the P makes in this situation but basically we hit it off instantly and he is not afraid to tell me how much he likes me and wants me :) basically he thinks i'm great!! lucky me!!! also, he told me about his relationship history and if he was with someone that didn't 'feel' right then he ended it...so if he is interested in you then you can be confident that he means it and isn't just saying it to woo you :P

obviously this is only my experience but he is very different to most boys I know/been out with

also, i'd love to know how to type pther people without making them do the test? are there any tips or do i just have to read up more about and practice?! :P

anyway, good luck with your enfj xxxxxx

[Lummex]

I try to type people by reading up on the different types, and also by being aware of what each letter means. I should be careful though, because there's no real way to know unless they take the test themselves. But I mean, this guy is just ENFJ to a tee. I don't see how he could be anything else. With others, it's harder to tell, but I still think I'm somewhat good at guessing. I've guessed right a few times now.

Anyway, just a minor update (nothing too terribly exciting)... since we've been on winter break we've been away and unable to hang out, but I texted him "Merry Xmas" and stuff, and he replied back saying to let him know when I get back so we can hang out. I did get back a week or so ago, but didn't tell him (because I've been feeling a little on the more reclusive side lately, you guys understand... :P). But yesterday he contacted me and asked if I wanted to hang out this week, so I guess that's a good thing! I hope it' not just the ENFJ "be nice to everyone all the time" thing. But I doubt he'd want to hang out if he didn't have some type of interest that went a little deeper than just casual friends. So yeah.. I get to be around a wonderful ENFJ again soon. :D

[ENXJ]

I'm an ENXJ male (but in relationships, I'm very ENFJ-like) with an INFP girlfriend of almost 1 year now =). I will edit-in my full post, but I want to post this now to let you know I WILL post something soon.

Edition:

(I don't have time to proof-read this quazi-massive post because of the time, so be prepared for potential grammatical errors)

First off, my girlfriend lives in VA, and I live in CO - so it IS a long distance relationship. Further, we have not seen each other in the flesh yet =( (we will this coming summer, however). But we DO do webcam (audio & video) almost nightly for hours and hours - it's sufficient to say that I know her better than her Sister does - and her Sister has known her for 18 years.

We met when she watched one of my old videos on youtube, actually; I used to think I was an INFJ, and so I made a video about it (you can see me on the first page of a youtube search =/...the video is from a year ago though). She saw the video, and felt DRIVEN to contact me somehow. For her, that was completely out of character - she had never so much as used a forum before, and the only person she had EVER IMed with was her Dad when he would go on business trips.

She found me on facebook and from that day until 2 or so months later, we talked on IM essentially daily for no less than 2 or 3 hours. There are a lot of details I can go into later if you want, but let's just say she and I were exceedingly compatible in most ways. Then, we started talking on the phone for hours every few nights, until eventually, 90% of our communication was done on the phone. Then, around 8 months or so of knowing her, she and I began using webcam as our main mode of communication - it's stayed that way ever since.

As things currently are, she and I are both extremely happy in our relationship - long ago did we admit openly that we love each other and can easily see ourselves living with each other for the rest of our lives. Politically, spiritually, philosophically, parentally, psychologically, life-goal wise, we see on almost-identical or completely identical levels. We are, in observable, measurable ways, very, very compatible.

Further, our personalities are akin to "Twin Flames/Soul Mates." I am her heroic guardian: I help her work through things that are bothering her (although I do have to pry them out sometimes, heh heh). I inspire her with my philosophical and psychological insight into people and life, she melts my heart with her tenderness, and we both crave each other's drive to marry and have children. Growing up, she and I both felt awkward around our peers, and felt that we could relate much better to adults. These are but SOME of the compatibilities she and I have. And when she and I are in person, I will be her physical protector, as I'm 5'10" and have 10 years of experience in martial arts. She's 5'2" and just about 100 pounds (my pookie =) ). I am a masculine yet emotionally aware man, and she is a soft and gentle feminine woman.

I could write a book about the relationship she and I have, but as I have said above, we are QUITE compatible. One of the main obsticals she and I had to work around was that I am very logically-driven, even though I am quite in touch with my heart. My intellectual-outlook was sometimes awkward for her to adjust to, but she's now really getting used to it & craves that about me. Again, there's endless pages of details I could give about it all, but that is a summary she and I would both agree with (she's actually a member of this forum, but she just hasn't posted yet. Her username is "Whisperella").

There have been many hard times, and many tears shed by the both of us. Neither of us deny that things have seemed shaky at times for various reasons. Regardless, she and I persist through it all - we both have necklaces from the other person that we wear regularly (although her's is a jewel necklace, so she can't wear it at all times). We understand each other in ways that no one else ever has. Of course, many couples say that about their relationship - but I believe it's apparent that she and I truly do. Further, we have both had MUCH contact with each other's entire family. Her little Sister (9) adores me.

On an MBTI-level, she loves my strong Fe, Te, Ti, and Ne abilities (I disregard much of contemporary MBTI function-theory in many ways), and I melt at her Fi and Ni abilities. Most of all though, the fact that we are both Ns, and that I can use my F to match her is EXTREMELY important. I CANNOT stress how important this has been in our relationship. Also, her P-ness has made many conversations happy; sometimes filled with sadness and worry. Over time, we have both adjusted and accommodated.

Because of time constraints (like I mentioned earlier), that's all I can post for now - but I would be glad to give more detail tomorrow if you want =). I can also give you insight into the ENFJ guy.

[thehigher]

Also, her P-ness has made many conversations happy;

Can I be immature for a little bit?

Because of time constraints (like I mentioned earlier), that's all I can post for now - but I would be glad to give more detail tomorrow if you want =). I can also give you insight into the ENFJ guy.

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