[Gabrielle Johnson]

Has this every happened to you, someone says they love you and you stumble or fight the words to come out.... "It's my dad for f*cks sake"

[refugee]

Apt?

[dann]

i dont get it?

[OrangeAppled]

Yes, I have a hard time with those words... so much so that it can almost feel "painful" to utter them. The vulnerability is rough. Other times it rings hollow as its become rote & then I internally feel a resistance to saying it out of obligation.

[basementbugs]

Yes, I have a hard time with those words... so much so that it can almost feel "painful" to utter them. The vulnerability is rough. Other times it rings hollow as its become rote & then I internally feel a resistance to saying it out of obligation.

Same here. I really don't like the vulnerability... I think the only person I feel fully comfortable saying it to (most of the time, anyway) is my husband.

[AbioticPrime]

So, INFPs fear exposing themselves -- putting their true selves and emotions on the line -- entrusting them to another human being, because they're afraid of being judged, or that the other person won't receive it well, or they'll feel exposed, naked, like they have nothing left.

Am I seeing it wrongly?

[sarek]

I can't get them out of my throat either. The only person with whom its easy is my gf and she gets the full avalanche of I love you's but with everyone else its a highly uncomfortable fight to get the words out.

[Luke]

So, INFPs fear exposing themselves -- putting their true selves and emotions on the line -- entrusting them to another human being, because they're afraid of being judged, or that the other person won't receive it well, or they'll feel exposed, naked, like they have nothing left.

Am I seeing it wrongly?

I know this is true for me. It makes me particularly reserved in social situations because part of me doesn't trust people not to attack me or judge me. This makes me very careful about the things I say. I've been wondering if a large percentage of people easily trust others in social situations, because I often see social situations as being somewhat threatening.

But I haven't experienced this in relationships. I think it's because I trust people who I am in a relationship with more than I trust other people. But I think it can be difficult for people to break through the walls I put up and prove to me that I can trust them enough to let my guard down.

[Neverontime]

To understand how I feel, I have to draw my attention inwards, to express how we feel, we all have turn our attention outwards.
I feel uncomfortable saying how I feel because, in a sense, I'm not feeling it as I'm saying the words so I don't feel it's authentic in the moment even deep down I know it's true.

[Uncouth Angel]

No good ever comes from uttering the dreaded three-word incantation to anyone.