To INFP's what are your different levels of love?

**Bremy** · 05-10-2012 04:18 AM

I honestly feel as if I love most people I meet but I know it's different kinds of love, but I always have a hard time explaining it. Does anyone ever feel the same way?

**Marimeli** · 05-10-2012 05:54 AM

Absolutely. I love LOTS of people. I love my friends, male and female, I love my husband, I love my family, and sometimes I'll be moved by a flash of tender love for a complete stranger that just makes me love humanity in general.

People who tell me "that's not love" irritate me because a) they're invalidating my feelings and b) maybe they just don't know what love is. Other languages have multiple words for it because there are many ways to love people and other creatures. And that's why I hate when people are totally afraid to tell each other they love each other, because really, they already did; their love just changed and grew. Sheesh.

**snowbell** · 05-10-2012 06:16 AM

I personally don't agree with the way people "bandy" love around because to me it's a deep and complex emotion, so it's reserved for close friends, family and romantic interests. Anything apart from that I don't really consider.

I would think long and hard before telling someone that I love them - usually I keep such to myself... Maybe I'm experiencing something else, but I don't love most people I meet and while I appreciate and respect a lot of people, for me love is more... more powerful: something that transcends that. Someone on here said love has the meaning you wish to impart to it, and because I feel love is a powerful and constant emotion, I wish it to be important and one symbol of that is its rarity: it'd not be as powerful if it applied to everyone.

**BlissfulDreams** · 05-10-2012 06:20 AM

In terms of types of love, I have love for fellow human beings (individuals), love for humanity (as a whole), love for animals, love for family members, and love for friends.

**summer solstice** · 05-10-2012 07:37 AM

Different levels? Hmmm. I definitely agree with the idea of different kinds of love, but to me, loving is like zero-sum, allornuthin, and thus doesn't really involve levels. Perhaps there are different degrees to my showing affection, that may be a level thing.

**brendog10** · 05-10-2012 08:37 AM

I feel that love is an individual experience and that even though we (English speakers) only have one word for it there are different ways to feel/experience love.

I don't know how to describe it but I know that I have loved friends, family, my girlfriend, and even acquiescence. some the feeling was the same others felt different.

I think in America and other western countries we get caught up in the idea that love is such a huge feeling that we must question whether we are really feeling it. In the end if you are feeling something that you describe as love then you love something. because unless you are actually crazy you can and should intemperate your feelings however you want. Not be forced to question it based on some societal norm.

After all Love is an amazing feeling. All you need is love. ( I believe this to be true)

Anyway, I know I didn't answer the original question but that's my two cents haha.

**mimesis** · 05-10-2012 12:14 PM

Originally Posted by Bremy

I honestly feel as if I love most people I meet but I know it's different kinds of love, but I always have a hard time explaining it. Does anyone ever feel the same way?

Do you really need to explain it?

**KindOfBlue06** · 05-10-2012 12:59 PM

For me, there is the love of everyone, friends, family, women, beauty, life, ect. That is the first layer.

Then there is the love of family, and true loyal friends, the kind you know will be with you for life, and will have you back thoguh it all. That's the deeper love. It's a different kind of love that love of music, beauty, life ect. It binds you to them. And that is good.

Then, there is Love. You meet a woman, and she turns your world upside down. Soulmate kind of love. I'm not so sure it exists actually, and I'm not so sure it's wise to fall in love. For me, that kind of love is off the menu. Untill a woman comes along to prove to me otherwise, but not just any woman can do that. She'd have to be The One.

**mimesis** · 05-10-2012 01:15 PM

Originally Posted by KindOfBlue06

For me, there is the love of everyone, friends, family, women, beauty, life, ect. That is the first layer.

Then there is the love of family, and true loyal friends, the kind you know will be with you for life, and will have you back thoguh it all. That's the deeper love. It's a different kind of love that love of music, beauty, life ect. It binds you to them. And that is good.

Then, there is Love. You meet a woman, and she turns your world upside down. Soulmate kind of love. I'm not so sure it exists actually, and I'm not so sure it's wise to fall in love. For me, that kind of love is off the menu. Untill a woman comes along to prove to me otherwise, but not just any woman can do that. She'd have to be The One.

What happened to 'loving yourself' ?