INFPs and sex

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This is a discussion on INFPs and sex within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I'm curious to see other INFPs views on sex. What does sex mean to you exactly? How do you view ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    INFPs and sex

    I'm curious to see other INFPs views on sex.

    What does sex mean to you exactly? How do you view casual sex? Can you enjoy casual sex (or do you think you could enjoy it, if you're a virgin), or is some sort of emotional connection necessary for you to enjoy sex?

    I was reading earlier the "INFP Relationships" section at personalitypage, and saw this, which I felt very identified with:

    Sexually, the INFP is likely to be initially slow to open up to their mates. Once their trust has been earned, the INFP will view sexual intimacy as an opportunity for expressing their deep-seated love and affection. More than the actual sexual act, they will value giving and receiving love and sweet words. With their tendency to enjoy serving others, they may value their mates satisfaction above their own.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    For sex I need an extremely deep and loving bond with the person. With this loving bond I need to have a lifetime commitment meaning marriage. My body is not for just anyone to touch and would never do casual sex. That would make me feel worthless.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I dont think were capable of doing casual sex. We cant doanything without feelings involved. Deep passionated sex is the thing!

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    INFP - The Idealists

    (well I am an INFJ, but i would like dip my finger i) if I am looking somekind of only sexual/physical excitement throught the means of casual sex without any emotional bonding, i rather get paid to have sex (and i dont think that will ever happen) or just watch porn @_@
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    INFP - The Idealists


    When I was younger I had issues with casual sex. I either developed feelings too quick or the other person did and either situation can lead to a bad ending. After getting burned once I stopped trying to "date". I then tried the one night stand phase and other than sharpening my man whore technique didn't really do that much for me. Lets face it, sex during a one night stand is not "usually" mind blowing nor very enlightening, i.e. new experiences or technique acquisition.

    In my late 20's I was able to turn off my natural tendencies to develop an emotional connection yet still enjoy great sex. Good stuff. I was very straightforward about what I wanted and didn't want with the person I was with and this worked for me.

    Promiscuity has an upside in my opinion. You learn what you like, you learn how to please your partners and you can stretch your mind. A triple win situation.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I've had casual sex, but I'd get connected too quickly and end up having my heart broken. Now that I've been in a committed relationship for about a year and a half, I couldn't see myself having casual sex anymore (were I to be single). Although, I don't see the need to wait until I have fallen in love to have sex. If I feel a connection, and it is mutual, I think sex would be a good medium for sharing those feelings with whomever I have those feelings for. In short, sex is great for connecting with others, and each person should be allowed to utilize it however they feel most comfortable.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I've had casual sex, but I'd get connected too quickly and end up having my heart broken.
    If I had casual sex, I knew that's exactly what would happen to me.

    Although, I don't see the need to wait until I have fallen in love to have sex. If I feel a connection, and it is mutual, I think sex would be a good medium for sharing those feelings with whomever I have those feelings for.
    Ditto.
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    i perceive sex (ideally) as a physical manifestation of deep emotional attachment. if that's absent, what's the point?
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I can do casual sex but it'll only be for one night because I don't want to get attached or rather, I don't want them to get attached and hurt them. This also involves a lot of liquor and comes after a long stint of abstinence, btw. (this is because I CAN'T FIND A BLOODY BOYFRIEND). sb. likes me, I don't like them or visa versa. Very frustrating.
    Having said that, I've recently decided that these little "adventures" leave me feeling hollow and...well, slutty.
    I now have a vibrator I have more than "casual" sex with. Does this count?
    Have I shared too much?
    apologies.

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    INFP - The Idealists


    It depends on your value system. Will it go against your value system to have sex with someone you just met? I don't know. You tell me. Most infps don't like casual sex with just anyone because obviously not everyone is going to please you right.....soo...most infps adopt that into their value system. they think to themselves "I want to feel good....whats the best way to make sure that I feel best....well....if I want to feel good during sex...I should wait for someone who will REALLY make me feel good". Or you may say...."I want to feel good....I'm gonna have sex all the time". It depends on you. The choice is yours. Not all infps will have the same opinion...this is purely subjective.


 
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