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This is a discussion on Decisions!!! UGH within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Longdove Yeah, no disrespect to the salad, but I'm going with the pizza any chance I get. ...
haha im the same way, my answer is- whatever u want
I am awful at decisions, both big and small. Conversations between my INFP boyfriend and I were hilarious.
"Shall we go to the hookah bar for dinner?"
"Anything you want, dear."
"Unless you want to go elsewhere? Didn't you want pizza?"
"Well it doesn't matter where we go."
"Are you sure? cause we can go get pizza if you like."
"Or we can go to the hookah bar if YOU like."
"So what do we do?"
"Umm, I don't know. You decide?"
"Well, I'm okay with anything. It's really up to you."
"Well okay. Anything is fine by me."
Also, my mother (INFJ) will wait patiently till I decide what I want for breakfast.
"French toast or grilled cheese?"
"Umm, what are you making?"
"French toast for your father but I don't want to have to make it for you and then you waste it."
"I'll have french toast I guess. Whatever he's having."
"You can make some grilled cheese toast for yourself otherwise."
"Okay, I'll do that I guess."
"So do you still want me to keep french toast out?"
"Umm okay, whatever dad is having."
This thread is cute, and I can relate to a certain extent. For me it more about what do I want to do with my free time because I have so many interests. Do I play my ukulele or my archtop? Do I go running or skating? Clean the floors now or later? uh... that's easy... later.
But you have to admit this is what is called a first world problem.
That's why I like to go to those restaurants that don't ask you a million questions about what you want on your food. It's like, "You're the restaurant guy, you are supposed to know what tastes good. Not me!"
I like going to wedding receptions because you get what is on your plate and that's it. Or when you go to someone's house for dinner, or your mom cooks you something. That's what you're eating. No choices. Works for me!
If given the option of having any type of professional person follow you around your whole life and perform some specific service for you, I would totally pick a personal chef. "Just make me anything that tastes good. Thanks" End of discussion!
yeah, total first world problem. heh
It's interesting to hear the other responses -- because I always know what I would rather have (pizza or salad [pizza!], purple or yellow [yellow], shopping or park [shopping]). I would be okay with either, but from past experiences it's easy to make an educated guess as to which I would be happier with. And even if I haven't tried one of the options, it's easy for me to visualize how it would turn out and choose the option that would make me happiest (And if I go back to try the other option, I never end up as satisfied. Maybe that's psychological?). It's always the big decisions that I tend to guess on, because I don't have as many former experiences. Or maybe I'm just pickier than most INFPs.
Last edited by kyliecarefree; 03-14-2012 at 01:12 PM.
I have been reading these postings and laughing hysterically! Honestly, I didn't realize that this problem had anything to do with my personality type. Apparently I was wrong. I hate making decisions, which is one reason I hated driving for years. You have to constantly be making decisions about which lane to be in. I usually solve the problem by just staying in the slow lane--which drives my husband bananas. (He passes everything on the road.)
This excursion has been so much fun!!! Thank you all so much for sharing so honestly how you feel. I've never heard anyone admit this before. I stand in awe. It feels so good to KNOW there are others out there who share my decision making skills!
I don't think poor decision-making skills is an INFP trait alone. I think NPs in general share it. Have you SEEN an INTP who makes a quick decision? Most of them labour to make a decision in the first place and then sit around obsessing about whether it was right or wrong. And that's not even for the big life altering decisions. I had an INTP boyfriend who used to become stressed out everytime he went to a supermarket because there were so many choices out there.