[DDrokenss]

For me, change melancholy to the absurd or surreal and it's spot on.

[Lachesis]

I'd say, I'm somewhat addicted to melancholy. I wouldn't describe it as sadness, as in 'oh no! I'm sad', but as a profound state of consciousness or introspection. It's not a negative feeling.

It's a bit like the difference between being sad for the loss of a friend and wanting to watch a sad film. I mean, once in a while I want to cry my eyes out just to clear my mind, not to hurt myself; and it's ok. I'm attracted all things sad; it's just the way I am.

Melancholy is a strange thing in that way: you want to feel sad in order to feel good.

[Space Cat]

Minus the stereotypes and you get me in the OPs description.

Now put back the sterotypes and forgot what you've just read.
~these are not the droids you are looking for...~

[tribal]

Absolutely! I used to wallow in it a lot back in my twenties but now in my 40s I dont have any time to be melancholy!
My favourite wallowing in it songs from back then...
Nina Simone.. Just like Tom thumbs blues...
(My best friend the doctor,wont even tell me what Ive got..)
Birthday Party.. Ive been contemplating suicide, but it really doesnt suit my style...
Makes no difference. The Band
Gotta go.

[Lachesis]

The happiness of melancholy; thoughts by Susan Cain: Leading@Google: Susan Cain - YouTube

I rewound the youtube link to the spot where she talks about liking the feeling of melancholy. Not very thoroughly though, but I thought it was interesting.

[_selene_]

I feel like I WANT to be melancholy a lot.
I feel like it helps me to be more sensitive to others and assists in creativity.
I just feel that there is this underlying sadness to me all the time and it's okay with me. I don't really go out of my way to make myself happy. Sometimes I wish I could enjoy things more I guess. Maybe I feel like I don't deserve pure happiness?
I don't know it's hard to explain.
What are your thoughts on this? Can anyone else relate?

it sounds like my words echoing to me... yes i can relate.. i'm sure you've heard of Billie Holliday.. to me she is the meloncholy queen i really listen to her a lot it is though as I enjoy feeling this big empty whole on my chest... i don't try hard enough to make myself happy because i really don't believe i diserve it or maybe even need it ( i just want to be left alone) With all honesty i love to be alone.. but i really hate feeling lonely

[_selene_]

[QUOTE=Lachesis;2198877]The happiness of melancholy; thoughts by Susan Cain: Leading@Google: Susan Cain - YouTube

thank you:
I like susan cain