I don't know about you, but no matter what someone did to me, if they apologize and really mean it, I have no trouble forgiving them. Someone who recently did something so horrible to me it has affected my financial and emotional security refused to apologize for her actions. I have a right to be so angry at her but I know that if she apologized to me, I would give her a hug and tell her I forgive her. And I would mean it 100%.
But it's the uncaring, unapologetic nature that makes it so I still hate her. Every person I've ever hated has done something horrible to me and refused to see that they were wrong. That hurts me more than what they did and every time someone mentions them, my heart bursts back open and the pain is unbearable. I have so much trouble forgiving people. I think it's because I secretly care for people, as the INFP description says, but I want them to see that their actions are wrong. I don't want horrible things to happen to them when I'm angry at someone. I simply want them to see how they hurt me and feel sorry that it happened and strive to do better. And that's all I want.
What hurts even more is that my best friend is still friends with the person I am talking about so she mentions her and gets mad when I say I still hate her and am having a lot of trouble forgiving her.
Can anyone relate?