[skylit]

There was a person I dated briefly who was apologetic about the things they did. They meant them but there were repeated apologies without a change in behaviour. So I gave up after a bit and didn't that person back.
This person was crazy, diagnosed as borderline. I knew it was doomed before it started but I wasn't doing anything else at the time so I went along with it ... :)

[Eclipsed]

I can only forgive someone if they are truly sorry, like others said. There is one person that I cannot, and will not forgive. I don't feel any hate or anger towards her, but I don't want to see her ever again. It would be too painful. Even with all the times she's very nearly pushed me over the edge, I can't hate her. Funny, she doesn't even realize what she did to me.

[SwanSonge]

I always forgive as well. The only way I can't forgive someone is if that thing will be a permanent emotional scar.

[Belovodia]

People actually apologise to you? I don't think I've ever had that happen.

But, as I've aged, I developed more of a toughness; so now if someone's being mean,
I see it mostly as their fears, insecurities etc, rather than taking it too personally. But
still, I'll only put up with so much before I door slam

Mostly, if people haven't been too hurtful, I'll just use humour to disarm them.

[Aelthwyn]

I'm like you in that when I know someone is really sorry it's very easy fo forgive them, but when they are not sorry it's a lot harder. Still generally I don't hold grudges anyways because more often than not I can understand why they may have done something and 'rationalize' it from their point of view even if I still think they were wrong, which somehow helps me to forgive. I guess it's realizing that they may not have learned certain lessons, grown, or gained wisdom in that area yet, but that doesn't mean they are a horrible hopeless person overall. I think you're right about caring about others and their personal well-being. I have been hurt badly and forgiven, although I can't say I've had my 'limit's tested' in that regard.

[SwanSonge]

@Aelthwyn I agree with you, grudges are hard to keep because you can just see the other persons perspective and where they were coming from, even if you think theyre being ridiculous and wrong. But sometimes, there is no justification that is humanly possible to think of at all. Not one that is justifiable at least.