[INFP] 30+ INFPs: Your Advice to Younger INFPs?

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This is a discussion on 30+ INFPs: Your Advice to Younger INFPs? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Quite straightforward, really. Anyone who's around the 30 mark or over, could you please give younger INFPs some advice? Some ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    30+ INFPs: Your Advice to Younger INFPs?

    Quite straightforward, really. Anyone who's around the 30 mark or over, could you please give younger INFPs some advice?

    Some example notions might be:

    • What do you wish you knew back then?
    • What do you wish you'd done differently?
    • What would you have liked someone to say to you in your 20s?


    I encourage you to contribute. We all know INFPs need good advice.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I would have liked some encouragement and reassurance, probably.

    I certainly would have liked to have someone there to say things like:


    it's not a race, you have fifty or more years in which to do things

    consensus reality is complete fucking bullshit. always look past it.

    people are intrigued by you, not repelled. but they also recognise the walls you've put up. they don't always need to be up.

    people will come and go, but the most important ones will stay

    you are far, far too smart to have to care what many other people think. and far too authentic.

    the girls you like may often be interesting, intelligent, attractive, and funny, but they will dig you far more than average girls will. doesn't this make perfect sense?!? of course it does!!!

    people will find you challenging in many silly ways, but that's okay. let them deal with their shit. you're a good person, most of the time.

    Learn flamenco ASAP.

    All of the stupid things in the world make perfect sense once you realise they've been artificially imposed by the bastards who own currency.

    Don't Vaccinate. Fuck it. Also, eat organic food.

    Manipulative narcissistic people are not worth it: there are plenty of normal, decent people to hang out with, who will appreciate you a lot more than some self centred idiot.

    Striking up a conversation with someone is actually rather easy.

    Reflect positivity! people respond to this. And if you have to be sad, have a sense of humour about it.

    Most people are like you and want similar things, even if they are istj. You can relate to them on fundamental levels, even if your approaches are somewhat different.

    You can learn from everything: the universe will often provide what is needed to move forward, even if it hurts. Don't lie to yourself. Trust your intuition.

    Anything is possible.

    Ideas are as real as words or actions. Bring it!

    Oh, and you WILL write really good music one day.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Good thread idea. Thumbs up to both of you.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I would also love to see some responses to this as well since I'm curious to have an idea of how I might be later on in life :P
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Above all else, don't care so much what other people think about you. Unless you're out murdering people and pondering societal norms is going to put an end to your blood lust or something... I know it's easier said than done, but make it a mantra. I hear we all talk to ourselves anyway so you might as well put that to good use.

    I turned people away because I couldn't believe that they actually liked me, and I turned down opportunities because I was too worried that people I hadn't even met wouldn't like me.

    Evolve as a person but don't try to be something you're not. Chances are you'll miss the people who would've loved to know the real you.

    Stand up for yourself.

    Yada. I don't want to get bogged down in platitudes so just go easy on yourself.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Just in case this wasn't obvious - this thread is already brilliant. Looking forward to see more!
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by gestalt View Post
    people are intrigued by you, not repelled. but they also recognise the walls you've put up. they don't always need to be up.

    you are far, far too smart to have to care what many other people think. and far too authentic.

    Reflect positivity! people respond to this. And if you have to be sad, have a sense of humour about it.

    You can learn from everything: the universe will often provide what is needed to move forward, even if it hurts. Don't lie to yourself. Trust your intuition.

    Anything is possible.
    These are outstanding.

    Quote Originally Posted by Theodore View Post
    I turned people away because I couldn't believe that they actually liked me, and I turned down opportunities because I was too worried that people I hadn't even met wouldn't like me.
    I did this a lot. It turns out beautiful girls are actually interested sometimes. Some of them want to get to know you. Some of them are really clever. Some will be your best friends or greatest lovers for a day, for a week, or for years.

    Yet the thing which is better than all of that is: some won't even realise this, and you get to be the one that tells them. This is when being an INFP is truly great. It's when you've floated through life perceiving everything in order to, in one moment, completely understand someone and tell them they've made all the difference. It's a wonderful thing to see someone's vulnerability and to love it rather than manipulate it as others often do. As Morrissey put it:

    It's so easy to laugh,
    it's so easy to hate;
    it takes guts to be
    gentle and kind.
    He's right, y'know.

    Quote Originally Posted by sanari View Post
    Good thread idea. Thumbs up to both of you.
    Quote Originally Posted by dormouse View Post
    Just in case this wasn't obvious - this thread is already brilliant. Looking forward to see more!
    Thank you. That's very kind. With all narcissism aside, I truly hope this thread gets more replies. It's so helpful already.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I enjoy reading this, I'm interested in seeing more. Knowledge is power, wisdom is strength. I want as much as both as I can.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by Adasta View Post
    As Morrissey put it:

    He's right, y'know.
    Indeed. Too bad I didn't get into The Smifs until I was well into my 20s. In that spirit:

    -Shyness is nice but don't let shyness stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to.

    -If there's something you'd like to try, just ask. They won't say no, how could they?

    -Don't give valuable time to people who don't care if you live or die.

    -Accept yourself, for heaven's sake.

    -Some girls' mothers... wait, no.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Right off the bat, @gestalt 's post made me tear up D: So relevant to everything I've been feeling lately. Thank you for that. Going to read the rest of them now, and will definitely be bookmarking this thread to check up again later. Such a good idea.
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