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This is a discussion on 30+ INFPs: Your Advice to Younger INFPs? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Tasnia This is so true. I'm 52...In general, life is sweet and I love being an INFP. ...
So, another post to my cousins, the INFP's. Found this quote from Sitting Bull and thought you'd enjoy it the way I do.
"It is not necessary for eagles to be crows."
Im 31 so I took some bravery juice in the form of rum and decided to post... Im terribly shy to say things because I still dont think people understand me.
Love yourself for the unique extraordinary beauty you are... My girl Ru Paul said it best If you cant love yourself first who the hell else is gonna love you?
On those bad days where you think the world is out to get you, just remember most people have bigger fish to fry than you... your an INFP for gods sake! What could you have done thats so bad... you consider everyone else before yourself usually so why would anyone in their right mind dislike you... and if they do... forget about them you have better people in your life to associate with.
You are the company you keep in most peoples minds, well *bleep* those people Id rather surround myself with fascinating intelligent people over "The cool kids" any day that ends with Y.
Over explaining things to small unimportant people who will most likely ridicule you when you walk away is a waste of your time... You need to listen to what people say about others before you trust them with your inner thoughts and secrets.
We all make mistakes stop dwelling on the could have should have would haves in life and look ahead into the future... Think of what you want for yourself in the now instead of thinking of all the things you wish you could do over.
Forgive yourself, we cant be perfect and nobody lives up to their own ideals. Stop being so damn hard on yourself.
Be yourself, because feeling awkward all the time people notice that and take advantage of your kind heart.
Stop trying to be a square peg if your a star then let yourself shine and sparkle because there arent many people out there like you, burn as bright and hot as you want to let others come to you instead of going to them... the right people will be attracted to you for who you really are.
Learn, Laugh, Live and Love as much as you can... there is no true promise of tomorrow.
It is ok to fall in Love as many times as you can. Sometimes it hurts but there are so many life lessons in each love you have. Not all love is Romantic either I love multiple people at one time and they are all my treasured people even when things arent working out perfectly... I grow out of those times and become a better person. Think of it as Heavenly sandpaper... some people are are a 40 grit and others are a 600 grit... but in the end it turns us into the beautiful unique gems we are :)
Your fanfreakingtastic just how you are... Dont let anyone tell you any less and if you feel you need to change something that makes you unhappy then work on it... but never ever change who you are based on someone elses needs... It usually ends badly with a whole lot of resentment towards the person who asked for such said change in the first place.
ok well thats all Im gonna say for now...
<3 for all my INFP friends!
Nice post. AzNova just make sure not to come off to arrogant. :D There are no small unimportant people.
I'll quote the movie "Limits of control" here: "He who think he’s bigger than the rest, must go to the cemetery. There he will see what life really is. It’s a handful of dust. La vida no vale nada."
That is depressing but also a good reality check when we start thinking about others as unimportant. Just as I'm doing right now. Thanks for helping me figuring that out myself. :P We are all in this together.
This is the most amazing thread. Thanks so much you guys
What I meant by that was the people who want to constantly put you down and use their words to poison or cripple you from being the very best you that you can be. Dont pay those words any mind theres a lot of bitter people in the world who want to tear others down because someone tore them down and they never got over it, so they would rather sow that bitterness into others instead of heal their own hearts.
Victor Frankel would be my answer.
It does not matter what others do, only you control how you respond to the challenges live gives you. If you give in, YOU give in, if you don't, YOU don't. So don't blame the other people who don't want to put you down. They are just checking how far they can go to get what they want. But who doesn't? If you give it to them then that would be you not them making you do it.
This thread really makes me feel at ease with my current situation. I'm 26 and going through a lot of internal turmoil and searching for my true self as well as society conformity to a degree. Balance is always the hardest but this thread gives me hope
This thread is the best thing that I've ever seen.
I'm an INFP, i'm cool with myself, but GOD, YOU'RE here, I'm not alone.
This thread is the mastership of my mind.
And I start a diary today, i swear.
Love you all guys.