"INFPs are too sensitive! Man up!"
we hear this time and time again. there is some truth to it, for sure. but are we as a group really that incredibly oversensitive? i thought about this as logically as i could, and i've come to the conclusion that it's a combination of INFPs being slightly more sensitive than most, AND a lot of non-INFPs being really insensitive and unaware of their shitty behavior. let's not just blame ourselves, INFPs. if anything, we're too self-deprecating, and we should call shit out for what it is.
i don't know about you, but i've had a lot of experiences in my life where somebody would say something completely unwarranted, rude, and EXTREMELY insensitive. then that asshole gets mad at ME for expressing shock and anger. let me give you these real-life examples:
1) a high school acquaintance asked me to rate her looks, and not to BS the evaluation. i honestly told her that she had average looks that could be enhanced with makeup and better clothes. remember, she asked me sincerely to be honest with her, and i did her the favor. she then proceeds to say that i was absolutely hideous and that i was a sad sack of a human being. maybe she was not expecting my response, but i don't understand how that could lead her to say such a thing. can you? she reacted in a much more explosive and oversensitive way than i ever could, and i'm awfully certain that she was no INFP.
2) there were many so-called friends in the past who would constantly criticize me over a long period, and i would let it go. when i finally spoke up and told them to STFU and watch their mouth, THEY would be the ones getting overemotional by accusing me of being the asshole. some of them would even burst into tears and blubber away that i was lying. O RLY? trying to be rational with them and giving them specific examples of their behavior got me nowhere. in the end somehow I ended up being the douchebag. now i have a very keen radar that detects these types of people, and i stay very far away. no offense, but a lot of XSFJs fall into the category here. my mom does this a lot, and a friend i suspect is an ESFJ acts this way too.
3) people calling me racist names like chink, gook, oriental bastard... and when i told them that they needed to pipe down, they'd say, "You're being too sensitive. It's a joke!" meanwhile they and i both knew that they were not really kidding.
anyway, there are lots of examples, but i'm just giving a few big ones.
all i can say is that there are plenty of occasions where our anger and so-called sensitivity are TOTALLY OKAY.
end rant :)