[KindOfBlue06]

I'm afraid of not being good enough, not measuring up, not having what it takes ect. and also of being called out as a fake.

I allways feel that whatever I do, there's alwlays someone better, more dedicated, more agressive, more determined, someone with more heart. And if I lose heart ..all I have is my heart. My heart and my balls. I fight through it every day, between feelings of confidence and doubt. And it is so exhausting, so isolating at times.

I guess the best and only way to get through it is to pursue relentlessly towards my dreams. To swim upstream in a sense -against what people say I can't or shouldn't do. But it's so hard when the only one you trust, really trust is yourself, and even then you doubt sometimes.

[sparkle9]

@Candid Apple
I read all of the posts so far and i'm a bit surprised about your answer.
I think of INFPs being extremely anxious about different things like failure, rejection, not finding meaning in life, not being good enough etc.
But you seem to have faced almost all your fears and it doesn't sound as if you would get new fears - how do you do that?
And you said that you realized your fears.. do you also mean that you fought them or do you just accept them and live with it?

[Candid Apple]

i have most certainly NOT faced all my fears yet, so perhaps i was a bit too brash. everything i've met so far in life have all had a basis in some deep seated fear i've held, most of which are mentioned by numerous other INFP's as well. disassociation, rejection, not measuring up, etc., have all been a harsh reality i've been living under for the past couple years. i'm a bit of a pariah in the small town i live in and most people take me with a grain of salt in what i have to say (i really suck at small talk and exchanging pleasantries), so this couples with rejection and the mentality i find myself under usually has me doubting myself and my capabilities severely. i know i'm not as low as i think of myself a lot of the times, same with being so unsociable that i should just be ignored, and having such fears met in real life sort of forces me to just trudge through them and get on with the next day as pleasantly as i can.

a lot of folks around the small town i had used to live in (i just recently moved out) never knew what to make of me, and this perception of me continues no matter where i go. people just don't know what to make of me. and while they question this i look into myself and on some days cut myself down and on others just live life normally so far as an INFP is concerned.

I think of INFPs being extremely anxious about different things like failure, rejection, not finding meaning in life, not being good enough etc.

me too, and i'm still this way. but it's no longer a fear in the sense that i DON'T want it to happen and that i wouldn't be able to cope. i'm still relatively young, and by no means have i faced everything there is to face. but i realize that a lot of the time the fears i've had were quickly washed away once such mentioned were enacted.

hmm. i dunno. i'm not fearless per se, but i'm not dreading conflict either. or painful questionings.

[ronnie]

Funny, I was just having this conversation with a friend yesterday. Many of the repeated mentions are ones I can identify with - fear of abandonment, etc., but the more I thought about it - I think my biggest fear is fear of success. Like - if I was really successful in my business, I'd have to work harder, and interact more with people. Both of which I would loathe, by the way. Maybe it is more due to immaturity - even though I'm an old fart...