[magical_steve]

What I think is quite interesting, is that as a person I'm very tolerant. But there are things that annoy me that probably shouldn't annoy me (I'm not sure I should mention them because then you'll be annoyed with me that it annoys me lol). I'm just wondering what you do about things that annoy you? Either about yourself about other people, about events. Do you act on them? Do you store them up and never tell anyone? Or do you do something more productive?

[telepariah]

I guess it depends. Often I just try to forget them. However, this is a skill that I have not developed very well -- and not for lack of trying. So if I can't let it roll off my back, I will either brood about it or I will say something. If I brood about it, I just feel bad. If I say something, more often than not I will regret it and feel bad. The occasions when doing or saying something actually affect a change are exceedingly rare. I wish I could let it go but that just doesn't seem to be a part of my nature. As a result, I grow more timid and less confident in my ability to influence others.

I'm sure there is something in my delivery of the message that works counter to what I hope to accomplish. I look for it, but have trouble identifying it until well after the fact.

[under skies]

Answering based on a loose definition of "annoyances"--

I'm normally pretty passive/avoidant with things that bother me. It's not completely abnormal for me to have an emotional response to something that's just a little irrational--I get that. Therefore, when I feel like I might respond to something impulsively, instead, I tend to retreat, physically (I'll walk away, if possible) or emotionally (I'll get sort of quiet or suddenly seem less personable).

Sometimes, I just need some time to myself to analyze the situation from several different perspectives. With any distressing situation, I like to try to peel away my own emotions (and bias), so to speak, and discern what various logical responses there might be available to me. I'd much rather approach the situation later with a level head than immediately, when I might do something that I could regret later.

That being said, I usually feel after I've had time to cool off that I've overreacted to whatever's been annoying me. Once I'm in a more neutral state, I typically question why the thing was bothering me and whether the person responsible for it meant for it to bother me. (But if it's going to continue to bother me, I generally try to do something civil about it. Everybody has stuff that just gets under their skin, so don't beat yourself up about something like that.)

[palito34]

I've adopted a new method of dealing with things that annoy me. I've come to terms with the fact that I will never have the guts/awareness to point something out exactly when it happens. So I process it in my mind, figure out WHY it annoys me (root cause is important!), and simply tell the person the next day. I mention it in a non-confrontational way, putting it in the "I feel X" style, not "You did X." I have no regrets in life if I am honest and kind to others - that can't be accomplished by being passive aggressive.

As for things that annoy me about me... Well... There are too many to address, so I just write them off as quirks :)

[unico]

When little things bother me I try to ignore them, but sometimes I do get irritable and have to explain to people what is bothering me (or just give them a general idea that I'm irritated, even if I don't want to tell them why). For major annoyances I usually try to fix the situation so it is no longer annoying -- especially if I can do this without hurting anyone else.

[turnip]

If the annoyance hits a tipping point, I freak out.
One time I was making veggie tacos in the oven, and the wax paper started steaming so I felt really pressured. Then I took the tacos out too early, meaning they weren't fully cooked, which was annoying. Then I bit my cheek REALLY hard because the tacos were too hot and I was trying to eat them because I was hungry. It hurt so badly that my annoyance turned into full blown anger and I went on a hulk rage in my kitchen.

:c