[soulsearch]

I really don't have a type. I'll give pretty much anyone a chance, but I definitely like this a lot:



and this...





Thing is, though, that I'm not immediately attracted to someone just because they're physically attractive. Honestly, I don't even notice that unless I'm looking for it. There's a guy at my work that all of the girls just drool over, and I never really thought about the fact that he was attractive until someone pointed it out to me.

The reason I like Alex and Jake so much is because of the roles I've seen them play.

I find Jake pretty attractive from what I've seen of him too.

[minerva83]

well, in junior high I fell in love with Thom Yorke. to me he was the perfect specimen lazy eye and all. my friends liked Hanson and BSB and I just didn't get it. now I see the perfect specimen as Maynard James Keenan but I still have a soft spot for Thom of course. funny that your screen name is Rather Unusual because that's actually how I like them. I think you're an attractive guy as well but I too know about body dysmorphia as I struggle with it myself.

anyways buff doesn't do it for me. however, I have no complaints regarding Reznor and Henry Rollins, but then again they aren't the typical buff guys now, are they?

[OrangeAppled]

You know why I think females place less emphasis on physical attraction in a relationship? Because they have fuck all to choose from.

I don't think there are less good-looking men than women, I just think women spend more time/effort/money in grooming themselves to be attractive because there is more emphasis placed on their looks. Many men just don't groom well; they have bad haircuts & unflattering clothes, but would never date a woman who does. Funny thing is, most men actually require a lot less spit & polish than women to look good, so I'd argue they are actually the better looking gender (as is the case with most animals ).

So my question to girls. What is your ideal guy in terms of physical attraction? Yes, personality is priority and all that shit, but I think we've all gathered that by now. In an ideal scenario, describe what you'd love PHYSICALLY in a guy.

IDEALLY (since this is what I think the OP wants):
- Lean body type, nice legs (no short, stocky or knobby legs), proportioned well, natural muscle tone, not really buff but not bony, good shoulders, a cute butt
- Taller than me, but not awkwardly tall. Let's say 5'9-6'2 or so (I'm 5'8). If I was shorter this would be even more of a non-issue though.
- I've always had a thing for blond hair. But curly brown hair is really cute also. This is not very important though. Having a hair style that suits him is probably more important (when it comes to physical attraction)
- I usually like coloring on the lighter end of the spectrum (hence the blond preference), but race/ethnicity is not really a factor
- Nice eyes, vivid color (any color; it's more about shade), nice shape & setting, not too small or too close set, expressiveness
- I admit I like prettier faces on men, but not cookie cutter. An interesting feature or something a bit quirky about the face is better than too perfect
- A style of dress/grooming that suites him. Knows how to dress his body. I'll take simple over flamboyant, but some attention to detail is good.
- Smells good


My adorable boyfriend looks almost NOTHING like that . I think I've only been on a date once with a guy who fit that description.... I'm not one to get hung up on physical ideals when it comes to attraction. It's more of a visceral reaction to their whole person than deconstructing their appearance in comparison to a checklist.

[RabbitHeart]

I tend to like guys who look like they forget to shave. And really, the main thing I've noticed is I can't find a guy attractive if he doesn't have a nice smile. (This doesn't mean perfect teeth, or anything. Just a personal preference.) Beyond that, semi-nerdy.

I tend to be attracted to guys that look like they act interesting. It's all part of a package. I don't see a guy with a pretty face and hope that he has a decent personality. I get a vibe about their whole demeanor, through their eyes, smile and mannerisms and I'm attracted to that.

[rainbowchelle]

Honestly, to me physical attraction doesn't matter at all.
I know it isn't the answer you're looking for, but really, good looking people make no difference to me.

But anyway, I like tall guys who have a smart and kind look on their faces. :}

--Edit--
And I really dislike buff guys.
I prefer the slim, or slightly chubby ones.

--Edit again--
but appearance is only a detail, and it should reflect who you are inside.

I agree 100% with this post. I really don't place too much emphasis on what a guy looks like. If he's a jerk, I don't want to be with him no matter what he looks like. That being said, I'm kind of tall so I want a guy who is also tall, otherwise I feel like an ugly amazon woman. Also, I like people in general who look different. Cookie cutter dudes do not appeal to me. But that's about it.

Guys who are exercise fanatics are just not my type. I know they're not all the same, but the ones that I've run into are incredibly superficial and loud, so that's kind of made me automatically shy away from people like that. The good thing is that they're easy to spot. Just look for the obnoxious douche making derogatory remarks who looks like he's on steroids.*

Now when it comes to personality....I could write a book on my ideal guy personality-wise Lucky for me, my sig o has about 95% of the list :)

*Sorry for the horrible generalization, I couldn't help myself. I really, really dislike those kind of people, although I know that we all have our places in this crazy world.

[hippiel0ve]

Tall- preferably 5'10-6'3 and up. (I am 5'7 and could never see myself with someone the same height or shorter than me)
Dark hair and Dark eyes, with an exotical look. Has to have bold yet soft features and could be described as beautiful if needed.


Most of the guys I am attracted to have a middle eastern look to them despite race. I like skinny guys, or well built men. Being extremely muscular is not for me but I will take it.
Nice teeth is a must as well

[lothweneriniel]

Yea but I'm thinking more along the lines of intimacy. It would be nice to feel wanted by women physically as well as emotionally, else I'd just feel uncomfortable around her. Otherwise you may as well be lesbian or celibate.

If I am attracted to a guy based on intellectual/emotional/personality standards it is still a physical attraction. I still "want" them. I even come to find physical things about them attractive. It all blends together.

I can appreciate that a guy looks good, but there is no attraction in that alone. Sometimes when someone has an adorable personality and a look that goes with it that increases the initial attraction though.

[gemofgreen]

Ooooh, pictures. It's much easier to say what I like/dislike in particular instances, like when I see a photograph. See, Jake is cute, but most of those other guys I don't find particularly attractive. Ripped stomachs and big arms kind of make me want to puke. I like guys with a little bit of flab on them. I also tend to look much, much more at faces than at bodies, though I do prefer someone around 5'8 or 5'9 to about 6'0.

Now I want to post photos too! I love:
Robin Pecknold, from Fleet Foxes.
Leonardo DiCaprio.
Johnny Depp.
Heath Ledger was incredibly attractive.
Slightly too pretty and perfect-looking for me, but Chace Crawford has the most beautiful eyes.

^It should be noted that I've seen these guys in movies, and respect their work, or really am obsessed with his band, in Pecknold's case. So it is not ALL purely based on their looks (except for Crawford - he's not the best actor but he is sooo beautiful in front of a video camera...)

[Soar337]

the only thing i have a problem with is them being shorter than me and small hands/feet! But if I loved them I suppose this wouldn't be an issue

[gemofgreen]

Shoot, don't want to hijack this thread but forgot someone BEAUTIFUL:
Enrique Iglesias! Ok I'm done.