The use of bad language every 5th word!
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The use of bad language every 5th word!
Arrogance It's annoying when people think they know more and have a heightened sense of importance as if they're better or above it all. It's like I want to say, "I know you think you are important but no, you're not that important."
Bad 1st impressions. Its next to impossible to overwrite that. I usually have my mind made up about someone without them even having to say anything, and the next 5 minutes of conversation tells me everything else I need to know if I am able to tolerate that person.
Undeserved arrogance is something that I can't tolerate in a person. It's one thing if you've accomplished a lot, posses many attributes that put you above others, or are using it as a confidence booster to force yourself to be better, but a person who's arrogant and a loser is irreconcilable in my eyes.
Pretentious people, no matter what their persuasion for being pretentious, If you have that smug sense of superiority because of some cause you believed in since Tuesday, I'll most likely write you off as useless.
As our profile often states I do have a genuine desire to like, and be liked, by almost everyone. Even people who hurt me or behave badly towards me, I will give them the benefit of the doubt and be ready to forgive them and think well of them if they show a better side of themselves to me. At least that is how I used to be when I was much younger... There are some things that people do now which I just can't abide and it leaves me feeling largely unable to enjoy their company and to restrain my feelings of annoyance when I encounter them.
Willful ignorance and narrow-mindedness. I just can't relate to people who's minds are so tunnel-vision, so incapable of abstract thought or alternative thinking. I've seen them when engaged, when confronted with a different idea that may be well-argued, well-reasoned and entirely logical but it's like talking to a brick wall. The lights are out. It's maddening to me. What's even worse is people who choose to be this way, actively refuse to engage their minds with other viewpoints and ignore information and education. Conceit, arrogance, self-assuredness, judgementalism, especially when coupled with the above traits of ignorance makes them even more unbearable. Nothing gets my blood pumping in my ears more than seeing/hearing some self-assured no-nothing talk like they've got it all figured out when they're coming from a position of complete ignorance. Bigots and religious fundamentalists fall under this category, people who are so doggedly enamored with their world view, despite its logical failings and lack of an informed basis, that they wield it proudly and with such smug absolutism there is just no way to have a reasonable conversation with them. Unfortunately the internet is fit to burst with these!
Pretension. If my first gripe could be considered a stereotypically Sensor-based complaint then this one could be the Intuitive equivalent. I absolutely despise pretentiousness, the kind of the "Emperor's New Clothes" variety. Those people so intellectually vain they like to contrive as much ivory-tower garbage into everything they do just to elevate their own egos above the 'masses.' These are the people who watch black and white movies full of abstract imagery at their local art-house theatre then sit around umming and ahhing over the 'themes' and 'metaphors,' patting each other on the backs for their self-conceived 'depth' and intellectual elitism. They're the people who snort and deride anything that doesn't fit within their own self-perpetuated realm of academic smoke and mirrors. They're also the people who love to tell you about the bands they listen to and that you "probably haven't heard of them." This trait is a big part of the 'Hipster' stereotype and is part of why they are maligned so much (though I generally believe it's unfair to paint all 'Hipsters' with this brush.) Don't get me wrong, I enjoy talking themes as much as the next N. But there is a line with just how far one should take this kinda stuff before it just stats sounding stomach-churningly self-important. Especially when the person in question starts being all superior over what is little more than a bunch of subjective ideas with no inherent truth to them at all.
I dont like it when a person is overly pessimistic when im already sensitive about things. I dont want to be in your circle of darkness but if you let me help you thats even better, I'd change my mind about you if you are willing to change something in yourself but if not. I would probably not waste my time. Its a matter of choices.
And once I dont like someone, it can take a while before you can restore me. Why? because either you abused my trust, took me for granted, or lack respect. If you are really serious about your sorry, I will gladly accept it though :) (though, I admit, it might hurt me a while........)
- People who are unsympathetic (they say they don't give an F but they do)
- People who just want attention all for themselves and when you get some attention, for some reason you can get the vibe that they don't like it
- Being to aggressive, cussing, or taking things way too personal
Overall, I just like people who have balance when it comes to giving and receiving. I'm picky with most people. If I get a vibe that this person is not right for me, my intuition is right.