[Mereallysmart]

I don't know if anyone else can relate to this, but I never really start liking someone until it starts to seem that they like me. Sometimes I guess I get overly paranoid, thinking a guy might like me when really he was just being friendly. Which is bad, because I tend to fall head over heels and start doing highly unrealistic fantasizing before I realize that I was just paranoid and they're really not interested in me at all. But I read somewhere that INFP's don't show love for others unless the person they're interested in shows that they obviously want to be loved by them. Can anyone relate to this?

[Mereallysmart]

LOL I had the hugest crush on an ESFJ (he never took the test, but he was OBVIOUSLY an ESFJ.) all throughout seventh and eighth grade. It all begun when I started at a new school, and he gave me all sorts of special attention in seventh grade, seeming as if he was trying to sweep me off my feet. I never told anyone. EVER. At the end of eighth grade, I decided I HAD to let him know how I felt cuz we were about to go off to high school and I feared I'd never see him again. I knew that writing was the most comfortable way to express my feelings, so when the teachers announced that each of us had to write a page to each of our classmates talking about their talents and what you like about them, I thought, "Here's my chance!" Here's what I wrote to him:

"Although most of my memories of my first days as a student at this school have nearly faded over time, I'll always remember you asking me, "How's it going for you here so far? Do you like it here?" As bizarre as it may sound, I really appreciated that. I wasn't used to being the new kid; Until seventh grade, I had gone to the same school since kindergarten, but everyone here (especially you) made sure that I felt I belonged here right away.
You're very well-rounded in sports, school work, and the arts. You're a gifted performer and artist-face it. Most of us aren't willing to admit how awed we are by your incredible drawings, by your performances onstage, as a singer and a guitarist. Is there anything you can't do?
Plus, it's so clear you live every second to your fullest. You have such a great enthusiasm for everything you do. (I love your smile, it's almost contagious.:) You refuse to do less than your best on even the simplest things, and you reach out to everyone."

I know, totally obvious, right? I can't imagine what he was thinking when he read this! In person, he knew me as the girl who always gave brief, curt, answers to his questions, who never smiled back at him, who never looked his way in the hall, who obviously hated him. Meanwhile, the same person just so happened to write him an overly friendly letter, and by the way it sounded, I was without a doubt in LOVE with him. I must have really messed with his brain. Haha. Except, I think in the end, he figured out the truth because he knew I was a shy person.
Looking back on this, I can honestly say that I DO regret it, considering I see him a lot more now than I thought I would. We actually ended up being in the same Latin class! AWKWARD! I also somehow became involved with the film crew for the Freshman football team, where he was one of the STAR players. I had no choice but to feature him a LOT. And then my dad urged me to advance in photography by taking photos at one of his band's gigs. Forced against my will, I was giving him tons of spotlight in our high school media, not to mention tons of high def photos of himself. And he probably feels like he knows the reason behind it all.

[HappyThoughts]

I don't know if anyone else can relate to this, but I never really start liking someone until it starts to seem that they like me. Sometimes I guess I get overly paranoid, thinking a guy might like me when really he was just being friendly. Which is bad, because I tend to fall head over heels and start doing highly unrealistic fantasizing before I realize that I was just paranoid and they're really not interested in me at all. Can anyone relate to this?

Man, oh man. A perfect written version of my life . Are you me?!
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[Mereallysmart]

Hahahaha Until MBTI, I thought I was alone on these kind of views! LOL =) But being an INFP, I'm sure you could sum it up just as well. =)

Man, oh man. A perfect written version of my life . Are you me?!
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[Emily Riddle]

I just stare at him from a distance, day dream scenarios that are impossible to happen, and dedicate myself to find out his name and know his interests/information. Hehe.

[rbgj]

I try to be grateful for just being able to feel that kind of noble emotions. Love is beautiful, no matter of circumstance. To not look at it like "possible rejection" or overindulge in romantic fantasies. Trying to just enjoy the fact that I'm feeling love for this human being, and that it ultimately doesn't matter at all if she loves me back or not for the validity of my feelings. A crush is actually a great opportunity to learn something about life and yourself. I'm naturally very grateful if the person I'm crushing on, simply let's me be around them. This is of course under ideal circumstances. In reality, I must admit that it is a lot harder than it sounds. It's not so easy keeping your emotions in check when you're having hormones rushing through every vein of your body. (This is actually the reason why it's generally a good idea to avoid indulging in romantic fantasies. As that's just going to fuel you with even more hormones and further complicate things. Something I had to learn the hard way.)

I don't know if anyone else can relate to this, but I never really start liking someone until it starts to seem that they like me. Sometimes I guess I get overly paranoid, thinking a guy might like me when really he was just being friendly. Which is bad, because I tend to fall head over heels and start doing highly unrealistic fantasizing before I realize that I was just paranoid and they're really not interested in me at all. But I read somewhere that INFP's don't show love for others unless the person they're interested in shows that they obviously want to be loved by them. Can anyone relate to this?

Yes, indeed. I guess I'm just not naturally inclined to assume that people may actually love me. It feels far-fetched, unrealistic. Coincidentally the fact that they seem to like me only makes it harder for me. Because I feel like suddenly there's this pressure for me to reciprocate. It pressures me to extrovert. I can no longer deal with my emotions solely as an introverted process. Which as I am an Fi-dom is my natural inclination. In a way I perceive it as an intrusion. As I have to relinquish control over my feelings. It's a great source of anxiety for me. As well as tremendous joy. It's all very complex and confusing. [I must admit I'm a little bit puzzled regarding your use of the term "paranoid", as it carries negative connotations, but I do get what you mean.]

..guess I had more to say regarding this issue than I originally thought.

[Mereallysmart]

Ahahaha, yeah "paranoid" was not what I meant. "unrealisticly hopeful" or even "desperate" =p could work I guess...
Sadly... I'm dying for something to happen-- dying to be in a relationship. :( I long to be loved hahaha I sound soooooo sappy.

[Apertureconspirator]

Wait. That is my suggestion. I wait not for situations specifically, but inspiration and courage. Then you go for it.

Edit: Lets ignore that terrible punctuation and sentence structure. Wtf is with that perspective switch. Hrm...