[Paragon]

No, not the book. The book was pretty good and I enjoyed it.

But sometimes I feel... invisible. It feels like no one notices me. Women regularly overlook me, I get less recognition in group projects even if I do a good amount of work, and no one sees me as a leader, even though I've proven that I can be effective at it. My boss at work yells at me for not being busy enough. Sometimes, I can be doing just as much work as the next person, and he'll yell at me for not looking busy enough. No matter what I do, I always get the short end of the stick in recognition in terms of family, work, and school. I don't understand.

Can anyone relate to this feeling?

[SpaceAble]

You're not invisible here

[Paragon]

You're not invisible here

?!?!?!?
I don't understand. It's fairly nebulous as to what you're trying to get across.

It's just that I've had a history of being overlooked and quite frankly I'm getting tired of it.

[INFPJackie]

Maybe its because of who you are or because you're unlucky. Perhaps your mean and no one cares to pay attention to you. That's life. I'm never overlooked because i always find ways to get attention.

[EctoplasmicGoo]

I present myself as a person to be listened too. I don't say things very often. But when i do, i feel like they're heard.

It's all about your style, i mean i'm not sure how old you are, when i was in high school i felt invisible. Now that i'm not in high school, i've defined myself as what i want to be. I make myself look good, by dressing good. As much as people don't want to admit it, the way we visually present ourselves to the world has just as much impact on people as our verbal presence. Make yourself look good, smell good, all that, women will not overlook you, and people will respect you. If you look and feel good, everything will follow suit.

For me it's staying in the good mental state that i just can't grasp. I wouldn't say i'm invisible, but rather an enigma to everyone around me.
Huh, as much as i don't want to admit it, the amount i speak to people has an impact on me. Grr this is getting me too deep, things i know that i know, but never actually say.

[FaveteLinguis]

But sometimes I feel... invisible. It feels like no one notices me. Women regularly overlook me, I get less recognition in group projects even if I do a good amount of work, and no one sees me as a leader, even though I've proven that I can be effective at it. My boss at work yells at me for not being busy enough. Sometimes, I can be doing just as much work as the next person, and he'll yell at me for not looking busy enough. No matter what I do, I always get the short end of the stick in recognition in terms of family, work, and school. I don't understand.

Can anyone relate to this feeling?

Eh, I used to feel this way back in high school, but here's a couple of thoughts.

Women-Ah, the nefarious other gender, their interest can always be so blatant as the titanic or as subtle as a breeze prancing among the trees. Smile and laugh at the absurdity. [Not meant to be offensive, it applies to males too...Just some tongue in cheek humor]

Leadership-This is not the same as management, don't confuse the two. Leadership is an art of inspiring others to accomplish a goal.

Work-Sometimes appearance is everything, and your boss probably worships this ideology on his knees with fervent prayer while mumbling incoherent chants. I wouldn't sweat it.

Honestly though, is there something you do to make yourself overlooked? Such as being very standoffish, not smiling, or having trouble relating to others? Sometimes we'll have to critically look at ourselves for an answer.

[Ormazd]

Lol, I thought I was in the INTP forum for a moment "What are all these INFPs doing here? IT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE! "


I often feel overlooked/ignored. Much of this is my fault, I'm exceedingly quiet, calm, soft, gentle, I like the corners of rooms, etc etc. I truly do not make very much noise when I am behaving naturally. I'm learning to be a bit louder and more forceful/assertive when I want to be noticed, it's tough though, since it goes against my grain quite strongly.

[RabbitHeart]

I feel the same way half of the time. Especially at an old job where I did all the work and the younger girls all giggled and flirted with busboys. That was probably due to the fact that I didn't cause drama or pull attention toward myself. Sometimes humility can be overlooked in our society.

I feel this way at school sometimes and then someone talks to me, pulls me out of my pit of self-analysis, daydreams and over thinking and tries to strike up conversation. I dodge their attempts politely because I'm too busy thinking about it.

I find it slightly amusing and maybe you're like me. Maybe we just don't put ourselves out there because we think too much.

As far as women go, you just have to be confident and yourself. Honestly. Don't try to attract all women, just the ones that are right for you and similar to you. They'll appreciate you.

[Soupwizard]

I feel invisible all of the time, too. I think a big part of it is that I have a very soft voice and people tend to not notice me when I'm trying to talk to them. I'll be "Oh hey, -Insert name here-...' and start to tell them a story, and then they'll walk away and I'll realize that they had no idea I was there.
A few days ago, I was just trying to wish someone a happy birthday, and even though I was standing directly in front of him, waving and shouting "Happy Birthday!" he just looked right past me and started talking to the person behind me, not appearing to see me at all. And it's not just that one person, either. It's almost everyone.
So yes, I can totally relate.

[Paragon]

Thank you for all the replies so far. I really appreciate your concern. I'm feeling better already.