[greatexpectations]

it may help others. i just figured out why i am too abstract for myself to handle. i have over the last half year developed a sort of hate to the outside world.



I can say yes to this:

If the INFP does not learn how to deal with this perceived criticism, the INFP will begin to shut out the incoming information that causes them pain. This is a natural survivalistic technique for the INFP personality.

but only because ever since i started in the new class i was constantly questioned of why i was so strange. because of the others are practically ESTJ and ISTJ personalities. so no wonder why i did that.

that lead to this:

the INFP who exercises this type of self-protection regularly will become more and more unaware of other people's perspectives, and thus more and more isolated from a real understanding of the world that they live in.

and also i can accept the fact that i have developed this:
Depending on how serious the problem is, they may appear to be anything from "a bit eccentric" to "way out there". Many times other people are unable to understand or relate to these people.

if you can see yourself in this you might also be interested in the solutions to these problems. here are the solutions i found valuable:

INFP should try to perceive information objectively, before fitting it into their value system.

i also have to work on this:
They should try to see situations from other people's perspectives, without making personal judgments about the situations or the other people's perspectives. In general, they should work on exercising their iNtuition in a truly Extraverted sense.

my source is from The Personality Page

[UnknownObservantTortoise]

not entirely the same thing, but i was discussing something about isolation from the outside world about an hour ago. same website too. weird... but anyway, i will say that, as i was contemplating that particular INFP-esque defence mechanism, it is like, I believe, both a fortress that protects you from harm and also keeps you from everything that is good, if it isnt already within the fortress walls. the best way to go about it is to tear your fortress down. don't run from the bad things. dont charge at them in blazing anger either. simply let them pass, or get hit full force. it wont hurt forever, anyway. Besides, doing this, opening yourself up will let people talk to you, and by doing that you get a better understanding of them. It worked for me, anyway. I personally have always done the objective evaluation, so i am a slightly different case, i suppose. i cant help with that. And by the way, if you let people get to you, they wont trap you. you ask to take your leave, and you can take it. we all need space. and if anyone tries to take your freedom of time and space, or smothers you with their life, ignore them. its just that simple. I understand and relate, because i went down that road. and i took a U-turn about three years afteerward. took a while, but i got back.

Hope that helped.