[niki]

sometimes I just feel that I don't belong in this "real world",..I'm such a "head in the clouds" person and NOT a 'practical' person,..which is unfortunately everything this so-called "real world" really needed



how many of you here can relate very much with what I'm saying here?
and how do you handle it daily?
by 'grinding' through it?..like a machine?..
or by 'creating' your own reality, or even an alternate reality of yours?
by escaping frequently?..

*sigh*..this real world can be way too dull, uninspiring, bland, and 'dry' for my vivid imaginations...
it's like I can't relate to almost everything "real" in this real world anymore.
I want to fly into another world or dimension, or even enter into my very vivid & imaginative 'dream world',
but I am always limited by a thing called Reality...sigh..
I'm just tired sometimes...to keep living like this...
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[Wanderlust94]

I have never been able to deal with it. I've always done my best to live life on my own terms. I do usually daydream to escape, but I'm afraid it'll be coming to an end soon. I don't know what I want to do with my life and I could relate to your earlier post about those options. In fact I am in the same boat. My dad wants me to work with him but I want to become a musician. I have never and will never "grind through it like a machine". That's just out of the question for me. People tend to hate me because I appear lazy, but they usually compliment me once they read my poetry or actually take the time to know me. I know none of this is really advice but I can relate to you extremely well.

[susurration]

Why not make it interesting and valuable to you? make it meaningful and enriching?

I think there are so many beautiful things in everyday life... and you can do so many things to make this so. You can randomly help someone, observe people in the park, lay outside late at night looking up at the stars, laugh when you are angry and see what happens, do something unplanned and spontaneous or completely silly, get a sponsor child or volunteer in the afternoons after work or school with animals or community groups, go for a really long walk and meditate....

The smallest activity like reaffirming your values on a piece of paper can give your life value too.

[Mooselord911]

The "real world" doesn't really have a niche for dreamy people-unless you get really lucky. I live in a town where everyone is very pragmatic and hardworking and logical. And i feel like there is something wrong with me.

To get through it? I usually daydream, and then grind for the things that really count. I just get by that way. But I've become fine with my grades not being perfect. I wasn't planning on being a doctor or anything

[493dreamer]

I am a dreamer and also a very dissociative person. The world almost never seems real to me, and I also don't feel real (derealization and depersonalization).
All I can say is, keep coping. I stopped being able to consistently cope with the reality outside my room and am now in a big hole of depression that I don't know if I can get out of.

IMO, you can live in reality and in fantasy land. Who's to say what's real anyway? Are my vision not real because they are not tangible? They are real enough for me.

Forgive me if this is unwelcome, but I wonder if you are somewhat projecting your internal state into your concept of reality/the world outside your head. I once saw the world as a place of wonder, and I know it still is - but my internal state makes me see the world as cold, dull, flat, lifeless, etc.

I find that all I need is ONE thing to hold on to, and I can function. One idea, one dream, one hope, one person, something. If I don't have that, I become unproductive, cynical, lazy(er) - and eventually suicidal and extremely self destructive.

Be well.

[LucasM]

I find that a lot of my life is lived by serendipity. Just by living my life, I'll do something or see or find something that just makes my day priceless. If it weren't for these 'moments' life could be very dreary indeed. Firm plans are my nemesis. Of course, that is just me.

edit: by firm plans, I do not mean having goal/direction in life, which are more guidelines than a rigid outline of living which I meant in this post

[PrinceinExile]

Has gotten pretty good at creating a fantasy where I fit into this reality. if a bit awkwardly. Grinding along like a machine isn't that bad once you get a hang of it. You just end up being totally different outside work.

[Ethereal Warrior]

I aim as best as I can to bring my reality and my fantasy together. I bridge the gap using whatever means I can...meditation, video games, D&D recently, even just immersing yourself in a good book now and again.
As for the daily 'grind,' I don't think I'll ever fit into that until I find something I really love doing.

[Philosophaser Song Boy]

I feel like I do not belong to this life. We seek education to make money and survive in an economy... that is such a lame life concept. Money and economy should not have a fraction of the significance that they actually have. I do not want to submit to this world, there has to be another way.

[Apollo Celestio]

Even we logical people need to dream to survive. Think of it that way.. it's your livelihood after all.