I was just thinking through the ways fi approaches other people. I know I have a huge emphasis on understanding other peoples boundaries, particularly on the issue of space (intellectual, emotional and physical). I always feel like i'm prying if I ask people personal questions. And i'm very conscious of effecting people; for good or bad. Unlike fe, i'm very hesitant to effect peoples emotions, feelings or thoughts, even for good. I feel very uncomfortable doing so because I feel as if they are not mine to move or touch, and indeed crossing into their space would be 'manipulation' as it were (even if it were for positive or negative purposes). Stepping into someones personal space gives you a lot of power, and I don't like having it.
Sometimes the selfish card is thrown for this reason. I apparently care too much about 'myself' to care for other people. But that is not the case even if it externally looks like that. I simply think peoples internal world's and personal spaces are not mine to touch and that I am averse to causing a negative response, so in turn I give other people a lot of space. I would rather not respond, than to negatively respond, you know? I would rather have them think i'm too self absorbed than to touch what I see as being their sacred world. The desire not to cross boundaries of other people seems to be a defining point of how I approach other people, because I can always see these boundaries of individuals very definitively.