[Gummibarchen]

Ramble time.

Someone who is whole, who can be their own person and be recognised as an independent being. Whilst I want the whole roots twisting together thing I do not want to become a single entity, the ideal would be two individuals who have twisted around each other enough times to be seen as one but are still functioning as two individual souls. Connected yes, but not merged into one big lump. Someone who I feel comfortable with when they're peeking into my mind and vice versa. There's a whole load of other stuff but that can be found with almost anyone under the sun provided we were mutually attracted, but feeling completely comfortable, like they're my mind mate ... that's a whole other thing. I don't want someone too similar, I like to be challenged, to be encouraged to grow, to read, to educate myself, and I want someone who feels I give them opportunities to do the same. I don't know. I want to be a "we" with someone, but in order for that to happen we both have to be a "me", whatever "me" is, and we both have to recognise that whilst out love may be intertwined for one another we, as individuals, are not one being. I want compatibility, understanding, but I want difference too.

I just know that if we were two trees i'd want us to be different from each other but growing towards each other. A bit like when two hawthorn buses start winding around each other. They're still two independent trees, but they've grown together, they're stronger together, appear as one, but they still function as two.


I have no idea what I really want, I just know that I want them to accept me as I am, nothing more and nothing less, and in turn I want to accept them for who they are, then together we can live as one but two.



This needs editing. Oh well.

[Absurdist]

I would actually love to find another infp, we are hard to find as it is. I don't want someone who is exactly like me but another infp I feel as if I could share everything with and they'd be able to understand, and visa versa. I guess I want the one in a million girl, but there are ove 6 billion people in this world so I guess theres a few thousand out there for me. However all I need is the one I can truly love and have it returned endlessly.

[vellocent]

Someone logical, smart and funny. It would be great if he accepts me as I accept him. Someone who respects my independence, but also will be there during hard times. I need someone who understands what an emotional disorder is and who accepts it as just another aspect of me. Someone generous, who is good to customer service people. A man who understands Trust, Respect, and Communication and doesn't mind if he has to explain what they mean to him. If he loves to make decisions and be a little domineering, with respect to my independence, that would also be cool. If he is cuddly and kind underneath a cold exterior, that would be nice too.

[refugee]

someone I can share mutual respect and honor

[deli]

I can't tell what I want I only can say what I don't want.

My main problem was that after a time every person I had been together with has started to bore me. I liked all my girlfriends but there was always a point in time from which I felt the relationship was going nowhere :(

[Rez]

I want:

-be comfortable in his own skin

-the person to share with me when it just becomes too much for him

-willing to admit when he wants me not to leave,not just yet

-to look into my eyes then nod as he is leans down on his knee, knelt down to reach the child at eye level to tell the him/her, "lets go play"

-him to be comfortable being happy in his solitude


need:

-to love who he is, who he was yesterday, and what he may become in old age

-to not use self-abuse in any way whether through drugs or any other illegal recreational activities

-to cherish the faith in God whether God means a buddha, avatar, or any other advanced soul spirit living on earth's soil currently


desire

-to hear a hearty laugh out of him, whenever possible, every day if possible

-to swing on swings for as long as we last

-to know that, we were meant to meet, meant to give and take no matter what

-that his views are mine once we confess to our feelings slowly, I will stand by you as your equal, and all I ask is that you do the same with me


Everything else will fall into place

[Superman]

someone who at 19+, would go to a Santa's grotto with me and attempt to blag a photo of both of us on his lap.

[Lemur Leaf]

I answered this in another thread a while ago, so I'm just going to paste it here.

Someone who is similar enough to me that I feel connected to them, but also who is dissimilar enough that I feel I'm not, well, dating myself.

Everything else I look for has probably been stated here somewhere. Mostly I just want someone who can appreciate me for who I am, and who I can appreciate unequivocally. Someone who sees into my soul, and someone whose soul I feel an infinite appreciation for.

I can't define what I'd actually like in a person, though, beyond those abstract points. I think my ideal person would be nothing like I expect, nothing like I can currently comprehend or come up with because I haven't experienced her atmosphere yet.

[Aelthwyn]

I always wanted someone who was:
creative and could really enjoy my creative ideas - someone who would be mutually inspiring.
very cuddly and affectionate, and not mind being that way in public.
optimistic and confident - who would look at our dreams and say 'that's totally possible!'
generally happy and can enjoy childlike fun, appreciating the beauty of the moment
a deep thinker who enjoyed theorizing with me
empathetic and understanding, could read my feelings easily and respond in the best way - and also could share his feelings with me
easy going and not too flustered by things, who didn't get uptight or impatient or irritable
shares my values and dreams
takes good care of me and doesn't mind looking to the practical matters that I dislike bothering with
kind hearted and generous, both to me and others
has high morals
wise and introspective
tactfull (it is too painfull to be around people who make a fool of themselves all the time by being oblivious to other people and what is appropriate)
loves me unconditionally
isn't obsessed with sex.....I find it overrated, cuddling is way better
introverted and doesn't have to be socializing or talking a lot - can just be silent together
open minded and doesn't need everyone to agree with him - can agree to disagree and make room for other people's way of doing things
accepts me and appreciates me for who I am - who will help uphold my self-esteem, gives compliments not criticism
gentle and thoughtfull
respects me as intelligent, capable, good, and creative
shares my humor and can enjoy laughing together
likes to stay up late at night
will never loose his appreciation for childlike joys
is better at finding ways to make things happen than me
gets me out in nature or more active
doesn't like TV
doesn't smoke or enjoy getting drunk
can enjoy being spontaneous but isn't tooo unpredictable


...and I've got him! :D

[MissThink]

Somebody who doesn't need to fill his emptiness with another person presence. But the one who seeks to reveal the both personalities in the way they cannot be revealed separately.