[Cephalonimbus]

Somebody who is trustworthy, kind, good-natured, honest, open-minded, independant and at least reasonably interested/intelligent. Somebody with whom i can share a deep connection, but who will also let me have my alone time. Somebody who brings out the best in me by being supportive and believing in me. Someone who's attractive to me and finds me attractive, who is comfortable being herself and with me being myself.

[roxy]

She is
Intelligent, wise, pure, honest, sincere, brave, attractive, fertile, purposeful, adventurous, has a motherly warmth, has no home, is able to wake up every day walk in one direction and not look back, complete in herself, loving, fierce, protective, free, discriminating, capable of achieving great power but rejects it, treasures her soul, loves her body, sexual but not lustful, soft, warm, beautiful, graceful, firm, strong, sober, playful, happy, aware of big things, illiterate, ... I can go on and on.

If anyone like this exists in the real world they would probably be on the run from "civilization".

[rovin]

Someone who:
-will love me for who i am and not for who she hopes I will be
-has a good heart and soul
-wants to have a deep, meaningful relationship, diving deeper into ourselves than anyone has gone before
-feels like we're the only 2 people that exist in the whole world
-offers the stability and calm for me to feel at ease
-has an independent personality, is very much their own person
-is honest and doesn't play games
-is willing to give me the space for some alone time, and some daydreaming time

Oh, and there should be a good vibe, where we just feel like we sort of fit, and she just gets me.


Yeah, I'm kinda picky

[faeriegal713]

I used to have a list... but I gave up on such things when I realized that I really have no idea what I want or how I would even be able to know that. Especially since so many lists are about very generic and contradictory terms and phrases. Lists limit me, they focus on things that may not be important since the type of person I need in my life now will very likely not be the same three years from now so much as twenty.

Another thing that has started to make wince and shake my head is when I hear people say that they only want someone who accepts them for who they are. Acceptance is good if you don't want any growth, if you expect to stay the same and not change... but where's the fun in that? What sort of life is that? If there is one thing I know I need AND want, it is for the people in my life to challenge me, push me, encourage me, and most importantly of all, not accept less from me than what I can manage. I need to work on pushing people more, being less supportive and more challenging too, but that is what I want: Growth, change, the ability to see where something more can be done, etc.

So, I guess I have a start for my list - someone who is able and willing to challenge and push me and encourage me and not accept less from me than what I am capable of. He's going to have to accept that it will be reciprocal, especially as my courage and self-esteem increase and I'll be able to convince myself that challenging him to be even more is just as acceptable. We'll see what else I come up with as time passes and I have a better idea of what I need to give and what I need to receive to truly be happy.

[wisdom]

I don't keep a written list, but my mental list hasn't changed much over the years (of not finding the right person). I've never been huge on acceptance. One has to be okay as is, but you have a good point. I want a relationship of mutual growth.

[Goosefish]

Someone I could spend forever with.

I tried to write something about this before, another day, and ended up deleting everything.

Somewhere in my toddler years, I caught on to the chose-one-person-to-spend-your-life-with idea, but it was always more of a mandate than a choice to me. My thoughts were something like: "If I have to spend forever with someone, I want it to be you." Sometime in my teen years, I wondered if a person could embody everything you love, but that's not a person; that's an idea. More recently, I realized after an awkward hanging out, "If I can't be open, then there's no point."

The reason why I deleted everything before: I base a lot of my ideas on (a) relationship(s) from my childhood (maybe age 10), not exactly friendship but absolutely no potential for anything romantic. But it wasn't about that. It's all of those hours we sat around trying to decide on something to do, having arguments about who ate more that day or whose fox was better drawn, learning skateboarding and pro-wrestling moves though I'd have no interest otherwise, one of my books sitting on his dresser for months because he said he'd try to read it despite hating books, staying up late talking about troubles that no one else would care enough to listen to, him telling me to shut up and sleep and then starting up a new conversation a few minutes later, shared lives and shared worlds, when who we are other places or to other people doesn't matter, when we're each insecure at times but we always reassure the other, when we count and hoard the hours we get to spend together, when we hide or run away when one of us has to leave not because we think it will work but just to delay the separation, when the thing I fear most in the world is that someday we will grow apart (self-fulfilling prophecy), when forever wouldn't be enough.

[The Great One]

-Someone with a great hourglass physique and a beautiful face.
-Someone who takes care of themselves.
-Someone with a high sex drive.
-Someone with half a brain.
-Someone who is very sexually adventurous.
-Someone with good hygeine.
-Someone in an similar socio-economic class.
-Someone who is not abusive.
-Someone who is mentally stable.
-Someone shom I get along with and is fun to be around.

[Rose of Sharon]

She is
Intelligent, wise, pure, honest, sincere, brave, attractive, fertile, purposeful, adventurous, has a motherly warmth, has no home, is able to wake up every day walk in one direction and not look back, complete in herself, loving, fierce, protective, free, discriminating, capable of achieving great power but rejects it, treasures her soul, loves her body, sexual but not lustful, soft, warm, beautiful, graceful, firm, strong, sober, playful, happy, aware of big things, illiterate, ... I can go on and on.

If anyone like this exists in the real world they would probably be on the run from "civilization".

Sounds great... but did you mean literate?

[Stolen]

Someone who doesn't wave off my verbal tangents while saying "get to the point!" Getting there IS the point. I need someone who can enjoy the scenery of deep, winding conversation. Too often people become bored of a topic just as I'm getting revved up about it. You cannot break new ground by only scratching the surface, and I want someone willing to blow the lid off both reality and illusion with me (and who realizes the fine line between such terms). Someone whose web of thought is weaved by both logic and emotion - the atheist who understands the divinity of Darwinism, or feels spiritual whilst contemplating gravity.

I am having difficulty in my finding of that die-hard romantic scientist...

[wisdom]

Taking turns going on tangents is a new experience for me. It's fun, but only if there is a ton of time to talk. That seems a clue to me that I'm talking with the right person. "Die-hard romantic scientist" - that's great :) For me, maybe I'd change it to "social scientist."