This is a discussion on Social Anxiety? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Does any one here have S.A.D? Ive realized that social anxiety played a role in me becoming introverted. I couldnt ...
Does any one here have S.A.D?
Ive realized that social anxiety played a role in me becoming introverted.
I couldnt be more social if I wanted to cause I fail at conversations, even ones that have interest in.
The worst feeling being lonely but even worser that if I tried not to be I get bitch slapped by S.A and put in a corner.. No matter how many clips I dump in this fucker it wont go away.
I enjoy being introverted.
I hate being forced against my will.
Sometimes, I really and truly wish I was one of those bubbly, extroverted types I see all the time. I also struggle with social anxiety/phobias. I want more than anything for people to enjoy my company - for them to like me, and to care. I'm always afraid I'll say the wrong thing, or I won't know how to appeal to the interests of people of certain personalities. I fear that whenever I open my mouth, it's to mope. I feel very unfulfilled, because I want people to care about me and I want people to know that I care about them, and very much so. I want to impress them and be a benevolent person in their lives. But I'm terrified of what mistakes I might make, and the power these people that I admire and care for have over me. And so I usually stand in corners and keep my mouth shut in social situations, and only partially because I'm just not that talkative of a person.
Me too. *hugs* (if they're still in style)Originally Posted by CruxClaire
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Stuff's kind of a joke to God in a sense, which is good, because then I don't take it too personally or anything. Ain't no one's fault and no one saying you've got to get it right. But you end up trying anyway I guess because you like it and want more despite how it throws you around. :)
I completely understand, and live through that everyday as you do.
I just went to warm up some food in the kitchen where my family was and my mind went blank I was looking down, my dad said something and I mumbled words that I had to repeat about 3 times. Just warming up food in the microwave for 3 minutes seems like an unessessary challenge. Im in my room now so my heart beat is returning to normal.
Lol im pathetic.
So been there, dude. I have to repeat stuff ALL THE TIME to people because I won't speak loudly enough for them even though it seems like they should be able to hear me. And I'll just repeat what I said at the same volume almost because it just takes so much extra energy to speak louder, even though I have no problem with it if the person is farther away.
Growing up with my family, I had a hard time looking my dad in the eye. He'd yell at me for mumbling to the floor sometimes and especially if I wasn't facing him.
I have G.A.D but social anxiety is apart of it for me.
Somehow it's gotten a lot better this year for me,but there were times
that I couldn't go get my mail because I was afraid someone would be outside
and I was basically stuck in my house for a year.
I still can't do things and find certain things really hard
like paying for groceries,getting changed in a dressing room,
talking to strangers on the phone,going to the customer service line,
walking into a room that is crowded.
Like I said it's gotten better, once in awhile though
I could be sitting somewhere fine at first and then start to have a
panic attack when I really realize how many people are in a room etc.
You just spoke for me. I believed too, that I had SAD and I was even diagnosed of GAD and agoraphobia. But these days I no longer put a label to what it is, because I think it has been holding me back.
I have only been able to imagine such things in my head, like going out to people with a friendly smile and start an immediate conversation with those that aren't close to me. But I was never able to do that for real. In reality, I am always looking at others from a distance. So many people have told me to speak up more, this girl only smiles a lot but hardly ever speaks and if she ever does, everyone's surprised like it's a miracle! I can never blame them. I have been pretty pathetic on my own, pitying myself for being the way I am and have kept sitting in my comfort zone, hoping someone will notice and reach out to me and take me out of it. For years I've been wanting to change at least for the better, because at my current state I am not happy, and it's definitely not the way I wanna remain to be for the rest of my life. I am sure I can become more than I am from before. What other people say to me no longer matters now regarding who I am, but it should depend on me and who I wanna be. Often times I wanna crawl out of my shell and just become better, in a way or another, I have been able to but I know like most people with this kind of problem, I eventually crawl back into my comfort zone because I am afraid of the social situations that I wish I can take part of with a better self, although I want to be a part of it. Gradually all these years I have changed a bit with all the courage I've mustered, but I have a long way to go. I won't give up!
I have these same difficulties too - well, to name a few. I especially had trouble when someone invites me out for an event, I quickly think about the event will be a crowded one and there will be many people I might not know and I might even be left on my own. Even those online requests that you need to RSVP, I would end up not giving a response when I am stuck with these thoughts although the event itself seems interesting.
O.O interesting i tend to be a loud-mouth/weird person and gradually fall into silent mode if ppl don't react positively to it. O.o srsly maybe i'm just an enfp with problems. No problems with taking to strangers one on 1 either, i can come off as a very confident and happy person.
I do suffer a bit from it, and it really annoys me. When I talk about it and try to make sense it seems completely irrational, but when the time comes it takes control of me. I'm not so much afraid to interact with people I know as I'm afraid of "outside" in general, strangers and their stares and their presence... It's not like they have any good reason to be negative towards me but I can't help it when those feelings emerge. When I meet new people I'm shy and uncomfortable, but at least not generally afraid to speak. The most annoying thing is that I don't do activities that I'd love to because I feel this way and while it would help to find friends to go together it's not possible for other reasons.
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