[m2dgg]

My wife got me into Dexter a couple seasons ago and I love it! For those of you who don't know, it's about a dude, named Dexter, who is a serial killer. The catch is that he had this great foster father who taught him to control his urges to kill before he ever killed a human and only to use them on bad people, like murderers, etc, who got through the cracks of the justice system.



Throughout the show though, it's all about how he leads this secret life. He eventually has a wife and baby and the whole time he's juggling this side of his life with his other side where he's secretly killing people. He never feels like he fits in and I dare say he feels guilty that he has this secret life that he can't share with anyone.

Throughout the show, I have felt a strong connection with him because I've ALWAYS felt like I was wearing a mask. When I'm at work and people are getting up in my biznass, I'm like "you f**k! You don't know who I really am! I'm an intelligent, artistic genius rock star and I just want people to understand me!" I have to be fought and I have to fight because that's what people do in my business(it seems) and when they seem like it's a normal part of life, I'm secretly torn up by it and extremely stressed out by it.

I kind of think that a lot of people identify with him and that's why it's such a successful show. But I like to fantasize that I'm the only one who understands him and I like to think that INFPs are especially on his level since we really understand being in a world where we don't feel we belong.

Thoughts?

[rowingineden]

I probably would be Dexter, if I had made different choices. My biological father may have been a psychopath, and I remember all my life feeling like I was fighting against a darker nature, a compulsion to hurt people (which was usually focused on some sense of justice). I just never stopped fighting it, never indulged it.

Dexter's adoptive father really pisses me off because he tells Dexter that he's a monster, he has no soul, he's going to be a killer, and there's nothing that can be done about that. I don't believe that, and it's partially because that wasn't true for me.

[Stillwater]

I relate to the dual sided nature and see what you're saying. I'm admittedly different around my parents, relatives and the upper management in my company. I don't feel like they'll ever know the real me, but that's ok.

I sometimes put myself in his shoes when watching Dexter, like everyone does. But I know I'd be fairly different in a few respects. For instance when he has his target saran wrapped on the table, he gives a little condemning speech, lets them see their victims pics and then he proceeds to plunge the knife in. I know I'd wind up sitting there with the killers for hours, talking to them like Woody Allen, asking them how they could do what they did and why, then ask about their home life and their parents etc. I'd be slowly pacing around the table, unfocused eyes off into space, contemplating what they have to say. Almost like some crazy freudian psychiatrist who offs his patients once he's figured them out and the session comes to an end.

[Sily]

Dexter: No.

I do have fantasies tho... that I am as quick and as *genius* (hehe) as Dr. Gregory House. Now... there's a character I love! Or Sue Sylvester of Glee. lol.. I love watching both on TV.

[peterbreter]

I relate with how they portray his introverted side most of all. How he completely fakes being nice or interested to the outside world, but he is only dealing with his inner struggle or pending issues. I felt like that in a job where I worked with a bunch of shallow minded people(most notably a die hard Sarah Palin fan)

Other than that, not really. His main issue seems to be finding things that make him FEEL and give him a rush and that he's actually alive. That's like the opposite of me. I get strong waves of emotions just glancing outside for a few seconds on certain days.

[Rez]

He is a dream

his character seems so reliable to us INFP's

because he enforces what we want out of life: need to belong

[lycanized]

He see's himself as a monster...someone who's not human. He puts on his own mask because he knows most people won't accept that part of him that he calls a monster. He wants someone who doesn't view that dark side of him as inhuman.

[Shorttail]

It sounds interesting. I often wonder how other monsters maintain their existence without destroying themselves. Not that it's in any way guaranteed to be realistic, but other points of view are always welcome. I think I'll give it a try, though I'm more interested in stories of wolfherds among sheep and shepherds.

[ForsakenMe]

I love the man but I'm nothing like him in terms of the whole... serial killer thing.

The only thing I get about him is his need to feel belonged in this world. To feel and be normal. I felt like that too many times and it breaks my heart everytime he talks about it.

[iinnffpp]

i identify with his need to fake it all the time and to fit in as best as he can. but his killing nature, lol no way.