[ForsakenMe]

As I sit here, I realize that a lot of times in my past, I let people come and emotionally sat on me and took advantage of me in every possible chances they can take. Sometimes I would be mean back, of course... But, I felt like, it wasn't THAT effective against them, you know? Like it didn't hurt them back, or made you look better than them... And in the end, you lost out on so many chances to prove yourself and the world that you are not one to mess around with.

I can't count how many times I've had people knock me down a few pegs with my self-esteem and how many times they really punched me in the stomach with their harsh words. It's not just words... Sometimes it's cruel actions on their parts. And I sit here and regret never standing up for myself effectively and made them pay for what they've done to me.

But it's too late. These people are all gone now. INFPs are known to be, well... Soft-spoken, "too nice", never wanting to cause a riff. Many times I like to speak out about my true opinions but then people get mad at me, and then I feel bad and it sometimes makes me wonder if maybe, maybe in this society, people in general DO NOT like folks with a strong stance on certain things...



So instead, I get left a lot by people whom I really cherished. Friends would leave me for new, "stronger" friends, friends who are more louder, brash, aggressive in every way, and in a word... Fun. My first boyfriend forgot about me in 3 weeks flat after our long-term relationship ended with a new girl who is everything every men wanted... A strong, independent woman who knows what she wants and will take it because what she wants, she WILL get it.

I'm mumbling too much now, but... INFPs, were there ever any moments in life where you wished you could have effectively stood up for yourself and could have told the other person off from hurting you anymore?

[timeless]

INFPs are known to be, well... Soft-spoken, "too nice", never wanting to cause a riff. Many times I like to speak out about my true opinions but then people get mad at me, and then I feel bad and it sometimes makes me wonder if maybe, maybe in this society, people in general DO NOT like folks with a strong stance on certain things...

I'm not like that. But then again, I generally don't care what people think of me so that's not an influence in how I act.

[EctoplasmicGoo]

Most definitely in high school, i was just that kid who was really quite. Didn't really talk to anyone, but when i tried to talk to people it always felt so wrong. I think because i wasn't really interested in anything they had to say, and that's not my fault, and it's not their fault. However, the people that i did perceive as having common interests as me were complete and total assholes, so i was sort of chastised for being myself. Because like you said i didn't really stand up for myself, i didn't know how. Junior year was horrible for me, this annoying ass kid, one of those kids who picked on me because he thought it made him cool/funny would relentlessly give me shit. Being the quite kid and these being my only perceived "friends" i put up with it. One day i snapped and went all cooky crazy, obviously it wasn't taken seriously because i was just "that kid." Because of all that, I've had a really hard time being myself with people in my present day social life. So connecting with people is really hard for me.

But that was high school, I've grown a little older, and a LOT wiser. And I'd like to think I'm taking steps at getting rid of those negative attributes of not being myself. I've got a job, there's a girl i like, that I'm trying(more in my head) to get to like me back, and generally things are sort of in the middle stage I'd say. I've gotten over the depression, now I'm just trying to keep my sanity and liveliness about me, which is hard because I'm always alone. Oh well. I'm a very optimistic person so i know things will change for the better if I'm conscious of the actions i take.
If there's one thing i learned from my high school experience though, it's that I've grown to treat everyone the same, Everyone has potential. From the homeless man i talked to, more openly than anyone I've ever met, to the president of the united states, everyone to me is a good person, it's impossible for me to NOT be understanding of differences.
Generally now i don't really take things from people, i allow my personality of acceptance to trump over their negative attitudes, so people respect me for sticking to my values at least i think. I don't take shit, but i counteract it with logic, peacefulness, and understanding.

/life story.

[Acey]

Everyday i wish i could be stronger but not so i can stand up for myself. I just want to not let it get to me.

[Chelsey]

I can stand up for other people but it's hard standing up for me. Sometimes I can, though.

There was a time where I was in a relationship...ish thing and it was kind of emotionally abusive and I wish I could have had more of a backbone. I think I learned from it, though. I wouldn't tolerate that again.

[ForsakenMe]

Thanks for the posts, everyone!

I can stand up for other people but it's hard standing up for me. Sometimes I can, though.

There was a time where I was in a relationship...ish thing and it was kind of emotionally abusive and I wish I could have had more of a backbone. I think I learned from it, though. I wouldn't tolerate that again.

I hear you. I've been in MANY different types of emotionally abusive relationships... I didn't have, like you said, the backbone to stand up for myself and in the end, it got me where I am; More depressed and just bitter about the human race sometimes.

I hope you heal from that relationship.

[Chelsey]

Thanks for the posts, everyone!



I hear you. I've been in MANY different types of emotionally abusive relationships... I didn't have, like you said, the backbone to stand up for myself and in the end, it got me where I am; More depressed and just bitter about the human race sometimes.

I hope you heal from that relationship.

It took a while. I'm more bitter at that person rather than the entire human race, though. I'm depressed about the human race for other reasons. lol.

[Raichan]

I wish I could have stood up to my psycho ex and his bitch in the far past (I'm not who I was in the past anymore anyway)

If I could turn back time, I would give those two wack jobs some cold ice. Yeaa

[Shorttail]

I think I deserve every beating I have taken. Every piece of injustice will eventually forge the sword I am to drive forward.

[Maiden]

Mainly, in high school, I had several opportunities to stand up for myself but I did not at all. Although, when I was in middle school, when a girl was unkind to me, I attempted to stand up for myself, but it did not work at all. When I look back, I wish that I did stand up for myself more in order to let people know who I truly am, not what they perceived me to be.