[INFP] How do you deal with people who have little or no empathy?

How do you deal with people who have little or no empathy?

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This is a discussion on How do you deal with people who have little or no empathy? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Does anybody have someone in their life with little or no empathy, that you are able to have a satisfying ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    How do you deal with people who have little or no empathy?

    Does anybody have someone in their life with little or no empathy, that you are able to have a satisfying relationship with? How do you do it? This issue is causing me a huge amount of stress and I don't know what to do. Trying to appeal to their emotional side is (obviously) a dead end.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I'm sad to say my soon to be Ex falls into this category. He is an XSTP and he just cannot understand so much of what I try to convey when I communicate with him. I have just surrendered to the reality that he will never fully understand what I do (and along the lines of your post - he cannot empathize).

    I try to explain things in terms of what he has experienced since that is all he can really comprehend.

    Hope this helps.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I don't deal with them. Sorry for not being more contributive though.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I know some such people. At some point you have to stop expecting more from them than they are able to give. Shake the dust off your clothes and continue on your way.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I avoid them whenever possible. To do otherwise is always a complete disaster for me.
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    I usually just start to annoy them...or do nothing at all, If they're there then they are there, if they're not then they're not - I don't let them get to me.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I think empathy is pretty hard to muster up for some people, if they don't directly understand the situation themselves. I guess I can understand that, but at a certain point if a person can't understand how I'm feeling... it's a bit frustrating.

    I actually know someone like this, who claims to be extremely empathetic or sympathetic, but she's really not. When I've actually opened up to her, she kind of dismisses my feelings. Once she told me it was her way of trying to get me to toughen up. She called it "tough love".

    I wish I had a helpful way to deal with these sorts of people but all I've really done is stop telling her my feelings. Period.
    Our relationship is light and fun and meaningless and it kind of works.

    I'm guessing that's not really an option for you, though. I guess I'd tell them that you need them to be emotionally mature and understand the way you feel and that you'd like for them to see it as valid. I don't know what else you can really do, other than talk to them. Tough situation. :/
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    I ignore them. I avoid them. If I have to say anything to them I keep it at a very minimum.
    Last edited by Rainbow; 12-06-2010 at 04:28 PM.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    No empathy- - I'm picturing Spock. I could learn a lot from Spock and would include him in my circle of friends & contacts if.............. IF, he was non-empathic BUT respectful of other humans. Once respect goes out the window for me or other humans, I am out. I'm empathetic enough to stand by Spock until he starts to make fun of Kirk's paunch.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I couldn't marry someone who was uncapable of loving or caring. My stepdad is cold and unaffected by sadness on telly..etc. Nothing like my ISFP mum. Which is odd. I get upset and distressed by uncaring people.


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