This is a discussion on An INFP and her views on friendship. within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Dotti600 Hi, I'm new here. I just realized this about myself and I'm guessing that a lot ...
I mean, I can't related directly because I'm not an INFP. But I do know that if you want it to work/it's meant to work, it can happen. You just have to use the time you spend away from that person in order to process things, like what they really mean to you and who they really are as a person. Chances are, you'll find what drew you to them in the first place and reconnect with a leveler head.
Keep studying the mbti and I am sure those grudges will gradually become empathy muscle.
I give people the cold-shoulder without entirely realizing it, anyways. It's just my reaction when a friendship starts to kind of suck or annoy me or loose all of its thunder or whatever. I'm also bad at keeping in contact with friends; I'll hang out with them and then not text or message or anything for two weeks and text them and ask them if they wanna go hang out again, which they don't ever say anything about, but it probably is annoying and weird to them.
I don't do anything on purpose, though. lol. It just sorta happens.
I tell people how they are pissing me off. They piss me off due to their non progressive ideas and actions. Things that hold them back from being better people and realizing who they are and what they want. To hold it back, is to hold back my own progress and the endless flow of my own thoughts. It's as if I can't move forward unless I express in some way.
I do that with my extrovert friends. :P I'll be hanging out with them that day and once I'm going home they're like "call/text me!" and I'm like "okay" and don't talk to them ever until the next time we hang out. I'm scared that I'll bother them if I ever do try to talk to them ^_^; They're always talking to their other extrovert friends, why should I interupt them?