Womanizers' Biggest Target- Us.

**ForsakenMe** · 10-20-2010 10:34 AM

We are known to be sensitive, romantic, idealistic, and willing to go the whole 9 yards to please the ones we like or love. Because of this, womanizers, players, and manwh0res make us their biggest targets. This also goes for the male INFPs who are continually stepped on by female (or male if bi/gay) players. We are also known to be weak (PLEASE!) to such people, and they will gladly take advantage of us and then leave us in the dust, or at the very least, abuse us or cheat on us. Because we "deserve" it for being who we are. They say and do the right things and we eat it up, not knowing they aren't genuine.

How do you deal with such low lives? Any heartbreaking experiences?

**abitsilly** · 10-20-2010 10:36 AM

I feel your pain.

**Aßbiscuits** · 10-20-2010 10:44 AM

Can't say I agree.

Womanizers don't look for characteristics, they also like challenges, strokes their egos. So if an INFP is, as you say, easy to get because of the reasons you mentioned, they won't see it as a challenge.

Womanizers like hot women and think they can get anyone, so they won't limit themselves to one type of girl. Extra points if she's popular or high up in the social chain. Makes him (or in rare cases her) look better.

**ForsakenMe** · 10-20-2010 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by assbiscuits

Can't say I agree.

Womanizers don't look for characteristics, they also like challenges, strokes their egos. So if an INFP is, as you say, easy to get because of the reasons you mentioned, they won't see it as a challenge.

Womanizers like hot women and think they can get anyone, so they won't limit themselves to one type of girl. Extra points if she's popular or high up in the social chain. Makes him (or in rare cases her) look better.

If they want a challenge, then yes, I agree with the type of girl they would chase after.
I was talking about when they want an easier and weaker target... Then it could be either us or the INFJs.

**Aßbiscuits** · 10-20-2010 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by ForsakenMe

If they want a challenge, then yes, I agree with the type of girl they would chase after.
I was talking about when they want an easier and weaker target... Then it could be either us or the INFJs.

I'd go for an ESFP, ISFJ or ISFP.

INFPs and INFJs seem cold at first and too mature. They're more the type to stop someone from being a womanizer.

**Rayne** · 10-20-2010 10:59 AM

I've had one not even proper girlfriend in school. So I can hardly empathise. I usually see douche bags coming anwyays. I don't feel like I'm a naive person.

**ForsakenMe** · 10-20-2010 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by assbiscuits

I'd go for an ESFP, ISFJ or ISFP.

INFPs and INFJs seem cold at first and too mature. They're more the type to stop someone from being a womanizer.

Maybe the ones who are smart about who the players are and how to spot one... But for those who can't or haven't experienced by being hurt by one...

Anyway, I don't personally know any ENTJs who would be interested in us, even just to play with our feelings.

But thank you anyway for your input!

**Rainbow** · 10-20-2010 11:49 AM

I know when I'm dealing with a womanizer of some sort. Thing is, I'm so gentle loving and giving, all I want to do is help everyone by giving them what they want (within reason, I mean I wouldn't kill someone for someone). If I am being used by a man in a relationship, I knew before it began that he was going to do that with me.
It's fine as long as I am not in danger. Seeing others happy and enjoying their life is all that is important to me.

**Raichan** · 10-20-2010 01:07 PM

I'm outwardly spontaneous and I appear 'flighty' sometimes..but people who know me well enough are aware that I am very value oriented and observant at the core. I used to be taken advantage of easily because I've been sensitive and I get guilty easily, but now I'm firmer.

**under skies** · 10-20-2010 01:35 PM

I'm sorry, but I can't say I agree, either, that, in general, INFPs are that naïve and, consequently, "targets" for these kinds of people. If anything, I think you make yourself a target by focusing on what you want to see rather than being a little more realistic. And I think this can happen to anyone, especially if there's something you want to see badly enough, so I don't see it as being specifically an INFx weakness.

I have not had an experience like the one(s) described, so I can't be of much help. It just seems to me like the only solution is to "live and learn," and have a little more respect for yourself. You deserve better.

(My apologies, really, if I've offended anyone. I didn't mean any of this to sound harsh or cruel. I just felt like it needed to be said.)