INFP guys. Do you find ENTJ women attractive?

**thehigher** · 10-09-2010 12:11 AM

I know I'm supposed to theoretically. But I honestly haven't yet at all. I'm thinking it could be because ENTJ women prolly won't actually act FULL ENTJ because it doesn't match up with gender roles. But maybe not. I just don't really feel that much attraction. I feel much more attraction to ENFJs, INTPs, INFPs, and INTJs. What about you guys?

**refugee** · 10-09-2010 02:30 AM

i don't think I've ever met an ENTJ girl IRL before, I've met some dudes though, and they're pricks.

**Esotere** · 10-09-2010 03:02 AM

Aren't INFJ women supposed to be a good match for INFP guys? I would think that an ENTJ women would just come on too strong and it wouldn't look very becoming to the outside world. There'd be this really strong female personality with a softer male one. It's just...odd. :/ As for me, an INFP female, I wouldn't rule out an ENTJ male. My dad is an ENTJ, so I know how they operate and how to get along with one, but I would hope they have as strong a Feeling side as I do a Thinking side!

**OmarFW** · 10-09-2010 03:10 AM

not really

**Cyberbear** · 10-09-2010 05:09 AM

I'm currently in a relationship with an ENTJ woman. There's a nine years age gap between us (I'm 26, she's 18), but somehow it has worked so far (since late june). I wouldn't have probably paid any attention to her, but once we had to have a long car drive together to a festival and later I saved her ass from a guy hitting on her our relationship got slowly started. I mean we just talked about life all the way there and back and I was like "wow, she's got brains". The essential thing to turn me on. Since we're both involved in punk scene, there was so much in common. At first it was just a fuckbuddies thing, but in a month or even less she was sold. And so was I. ENTJ'ts may look and act like bit bossy loudmouths in groups, but there's always the soft side. They dislike anything fake and INFP's are anything but fake. Since I'm older and more settled down / down to earth due all that I've been through, I offer her some stability. Being her first boyfriend who ain't a fuck-up from the scene ain't so bad deal. And she keeps me feeling young. Since we share common background and many values, there's always something to talk about, plus we really match in bed. Ok, sometimes I feel like an older brother or something (when it comes down to simple advices about life perspectives), but so far things have always worked out between us.

**Staryu** · 11-23-2010 04:36 PM

Originally Posted by Cyberbear

I mean we just talked about life all the way there and back and I was like "wow, she's got brains". The essential thing to turn me on. Since we're both involved in punk scene, there was so much in common. At first it was just a fuckbuddies thing, but in a month or even less she was sold. And so was I. ENTJ'ts may look and act like bit bossy loudmouths in groups, but there's always the soft side. They dislike anything fake and INFP's are anything but fake. Since I'm older and more settled down / down to earth due all that I've been through, I offer her some stability.And she keeps me feeling young. Since we share common background and many values, there's always something to talk about, plus we really match in bed. Ok, sometimes I feel like an older brother or something (when it comes down to simple advices about life perspectives), but so far things have always worked out between us.

ENTJs are not always bossy loudmouths. Besides, what's wrong with being a bit stubborn, somewhat loud, and opinionated? It's called being yourself. And "bossy" is called *taking charge*. If you don't take charge, who else will? If you've got a good idea for a hangout or whatever, planning it is fun.
That's like hating on an INFP guy for being sensitive. I don't like keeping my thoughts to myself.
PS.- the reason im stalking this thread & would like to know the answer to this question is because I like the INFP description..and my *dream guy* corresponds to the characteristics of INFP. Not that I don't love the entire male population, but INFP=sexy.

**AvaAdore** · 11-23-2010 04:51 PM

i have a friend who is an ENTJ
i think if we would've gotten romantically involved with each other it would've worked out great, not perfect, but great nonetheless.

**gaudy316** · 11-23-2010 04:52 PM

At my old job, there was an ENTJ girl. I have learned A LOT from her - setting goals, being responsible, how to act in social settings and around new people, etc. She was very attracted to me because I knew something already about ENTJs (like my dad). I asked her logical riddles, talked about my (far-fetched) dreams, and acted goofy around each other. In the end, though, we decided to be friends. Although she is very physically attractive (she works out every morning around 5 or 6), at that time I wanted someone a bit more girly. And I wasn't too comfortable with interracial dating.

For an INFP male to be with an ENTJ female, I'd say go for it. She will push you and take charge, but really, her intention is to bring out the best in you. And since she's also intuitive, you can definitely share your dreams & aspirations with her and she'll listen, rationalize for you, and support you by giving you short, medium, and longterm goals to work on. Basically, she will be the army general while you are the king.

There's only 1 reason why I think an INFP male & ENTJ female relationship will not work out: if the INFP is very introverted and not open-minded

Be prepared to spend a LOT of energy, and I say that in a good way

Tips:
Give each other riddles
Do wake up every morning early, but with a purpose
Be strictly honest - it's okay, directness (not rudeness) is one of the biggest turn-ons for the ENTJ female
Don't be a slouch - perhaps the biggest turn-off

**gaudy316** · 11-23-2010 04:55 PM

As for my above comment on interracial dating, I want to make this clear: we are both Asians but from different countries. As an INFP, I don't look for quick flings, but rather the long-run wife materials. With my mom constantly in my head, I cannot marry anyone outside my race. Well, I agree due to culture & background.

**Staryu** · 11-23-2010 05:40 PM

Originally Posted by gaudy316

For an INFP male to be with an ENTJ female, I'd say go for it. She will push you and take charge, but really, her intention is to bring out the best in you. And since she's also intuitive, you can definitely share your dreams & aspirations with her and she'll listen, rationalize for you, and support you by giving you short, medium, and longterm goals to work on. Basically, she will be the army general while you are the king.

There's only 1 reason why I think an INFP male & ENTJ female relationship will not work out: if the INFP is very introverted and not open-minded

Be prepared to spend a LOT of energy, and I say that in a good way

Tips:
Give each other riddles
Do wake up every morning early, but with a purpose
Be strictly honest - it's okay, directness (not rudeness) is one of the biggest turn-ons for the ENTJ female
Don't be a slouch - perhaps the biggest turn-off

You hit the nail on the head dude. Well done.