[WildWinds]

What kinds of traits do you go for in a significant other? What are turn ons/turn offs? Is there a certain MBTI type you seem to be drawn to? Are you looking for a long term commitment or perhaps something less serious?

[Isildin]

If you're talking about a significant other, then definately something serious. I don't think i'd be able to express myself emotionally to someone i'm not sure i can trust. That ofcourse does not mean that she needs to be a very serious person, but i dont think serious people like me all that much anyways ;)

It's actually a pretty hard question, because i've proven myself to be very picky when it comes to girls :P

But the two things that value the most, and probably require in an so, are a sense of humor, and a good amount of tolerance. I once had a huge crush on a girl, until it turned out she couldn't stand asian people. Never in my life have i stopped crushing on someone that fast :P

Turn ons/Turn offs, do you mean like standard ones? or are you asking about something more specific?

[DaEvil1]

I tend to get absorbed by ENFP's. They're just full of energy and they have an imagination about as warped and weird as mine.

Other than that, I tend to gravitate towards lean girls with an unusual but pretty face. It's hard to be any more specific than that though, as beyond that I need to get to knoww the girl on her own merits.

[Nasmoe]

I think me and my SO would have to be very like minded and share the same interests. I also have to be able to be comfortable with them and trust them.

[suicidal_orange]

For me it's definitely all about her views on life - how could I be happy with someone who loves parties and has to be surrounded by people all the time? Or someone who wouldn't appreciate sitting in a field watching animals? Or who's aim in life was to get to the top of the corporate ladder, dumping the children in childcare at the first opportunity? With these shared views in place I open up and trust people much quicker.

Ideally we would share some interests but not all, so we'd have some different experiences to talk about when we were together.

Types? Well the first thing in my list probably rules out most E's and the state of my room would scare many P's let alone J's... I'm not good at typing people but the only people I've had feelings for are "self diagnosed" INFP's. I keep meaning to have a browse of the other type forums to see what the types are like but haven't got round to it yet

Physically there is only one natural thing I dislike - big lips. Other turn offs would include excessive make-up, daily use of hair straighteners before being able to leave the house and meaningless tattoos. Oh and random piercings are usually bad too... Basically natural is the best look

I don't see the point of short term relationships, either it's going to work and will last or it's not so no point starting. Of course it may not work, but thats what happens not what is looked for...

[wanderingone]

mmm.. i agree with the other posters in that i definately don't see the point in short term relationships. i guess i look for someone who's got their feet on the ground because their head is in the clouds i think this makes xNFP a prerequisite, heh.

but yeah, i need a dreamer, and a feeler, someone who can make me dream more and feel more

[snail]

I just want someone I feel perfectly safe opening up to on every possible level, who is never cruel, respects my sensitivity and my eccentricity, values me for my creativity and my uniqueness, and is just as interested in deep bonding as I am. It would be nice if he were superior to me in areas that matter to me, better at things I consider myself good at, but humble enough to admire me for those things too so I won't feel unworthy or insecure with him. Ideally, he would accept me completely without trying to change me into anything else, but also wouldn't requiring me to remain stagnant or to avoid changing when I want to improve myself. He would be intelligent enough that I could talk to him about anything and he would understand, adding his own insights which would be relevant and non-accusatory. He would be comfortable with my uncommon values and lifestyle choices. He would be a vegan, or at least a vegetarian, perhaps nomadic, living outside of the system, a free creature, spontaneous and not disturbed by disorder. Maybe another INFP? *sigh* If only I could find an INFP male who hadn't been corrupted by the trauma of living in a hostile culture with rules that are opposed to his core sense of self, or by all of the rejection that goes along with such things. I hate this world for ruining all of the best men before I can find them.

[rowingineden]

I'm looking for someone who's gonna roll alongside me, someone with the potential to just rock this world, shake it at its very foundation. Gotta laugh, gotta enjoy laugh. Gotta treat me right. I would prefer something solid and long-term.

[Darkestblue]

Easy going, laid back, enjoys the simple things in life. Basically, someone like me. I can't really think of much else. As long as we understand each other and give each other what we need, I'm good.

[Calvaire]

I don't know essentially I need a connection with someone really.
But I guess:

Humor is always Important to me I need someone to make me laugh, even if it's not that hard haha
Kindness
Honesty/Trustworthy
Easy-going
someone that likes animals/kids