Completely agree with the OP and also OmarFW.
I can empathize with being confused about who you are since being an INFP male means life is a lot more different and confusing for you than the rest of the male herd, but I don't have much respect for people who whine without wanting to take any action to change the things they don't like in their life. Too often I see other INFPs afraid of being critical on one another much to the detriment of the person needing help. Rather than simply comforting and enabling, I think giving pragmatic solutions are a better approach and I like all the advice given in this thread so far.
I think INFP men actually have an advantage when they are confident about how to use our natural people talents. I thought OmarFW nailed it when he said many girls dig Fi if you have the confidence to use it. I feel like I have a gigantic advantage over most men.