Suppose a hypothetical situation:
You are in a professional situation in which you are somewhat of a mentor and develop a friendship with a pupil. As the situation no longer requires your authority, the friendship is able to blossom. Somehow, signals are misinterpreted by both parties and you very quickly decide to reveal that you are romantically interested in the other person. This however, would not be possible, and when she tells you this, and requests to maintain a friendship, you decline in a very polite “I wish you well in life” kind of way.
* If you are shy and she was as well (both parties very inefficient at flirting or detecting such), what signals would she send that would cause you to feel comfortable enough to so quickly confess romantic interest, assuming that she does not think that she sent any such signals?
* If she explained her confusion about your intentions due to your position of authority, would you recoil in humiliation and feel as though you behaved “unprofessional?”
* If there was a powerful and natural connection between you (like kindred spirits, few words need be said to fully understand one another), why would you reject a friendship? True, tis hard to find lovers like that, but equally as hard to find friends like that as well.
* Do you have trouble forcing romantic feelings aside in order to maintain a beneficial friendship?
Side Note: Hmm… perhaps there is danger in a friendship like that. I guess something so natural and effortless would naturally and effortlessly enrapture two souls without heeding to reality. So, guess I am thankful to have intuitively known that somehow. Oh well.
- INTP female trying to think my way around how an INFP male would feel around a complicated situation -