[Yann]

1. well i have this problem ... when i manage to pull of some sucess (in career way) ... i dont wanna tell anyone about it ......... thing is everyone around me is pushing on me to do something ... and when i manage to ... i feel lame about telling them, it just feel extra stupid, it feels like boast of it ... well i know that such values are somewhat broken, unbalanced in stupid way, but still i feel stupid about telling someone how good am i that i did something good etc. ... even when they ask me i lie and tell them i dindnt do anything ..... anyone same problem ? ideas ? its somewhat pain in the ass, because parents are still bothering me with questions if iam doing something with my life etc. ... and i am not telling them any sucesses

2. second one is about happiness ... i went out yesterday with some friends and we ended up dancing at a club ... and man it felt so hugely stupid, i really couldn have a fun ... i guess its not only by situation ... although i didnt like the music, nor the overall S-ness in club ... i guess it wasnt that bad ... i couldnt have fun becasue i thought to myself ... this is really silly ... there are so much important things going in world and iam wasting my time here dancing like idiot ... i also thought something like ... i will enjoy it sometime in future, when situation will be different .. but i dunno exactly how ... also i thought to myself after leaving ... gosh there are hundred times better ways to have fun or even music to dance to .. than this remixed MTV bullshit :D ... i guess in the end it falls to same conclusion as every INFP topic ... "Oh man iam so uncompatible!"

[under skies]

I really relate to your first point. I am pretty hard on myself, so I am always striving for something or trying to improve upon something. I don't feel comfortable at all talking about my "successes." I don't ever really enjoy accepting awards. I hate it when my mom brags about me to her friends or coworkers in front of me. It's all incredibly awkward, almost as if I feel everyone else is being too easy on me and giving me recognition I don't deserve.

I relate to your second point, as well. I'm just not interested in that kind of thing, even though most of my friends are. I pretty much feel stupid in those types of situations and like there are a thousand more productive, more interesting things I could be doing. As weird as it is, at the same time, I feel like I should enjoy that kind of thing.

[starflower]

We live in an S world, I think. I've nearly always felt out of place, and now I think I know why. I don't have any other INFP friends. It seems that everything - work or play - is SJ related. And, it seems, SJs like to define the world - and the world accepts their definitions.

I feel like I totally understand both your points. Life's frustrating sometimes, isn't it?

[INFPwn]

I feel kind of lame posting here, because I don't really have much to add except saying that I fully relate to everything you've said. I love my mom, I really do, but I cringe everytime she brags about me to other people when it's totally irrelevant, especially when introducing me. "Btw this is my son, did you know he insert random accomplishment".

And yeah, clubs aren't exactly the most INFP place around, lol. Sigh. Getting drunk and dancing to "da beat". Why the *%#* do people see this as the standard way of socializing during the weekend. I really don't see the attraction. GAH RANT RANT RANT

[MrRandom88]

1. well i have this problem ... when i manage to pull of some sucess (in career way) ... i dont wanna tell anyone about it ......... thing is everyone around me is pushing on me to do something ... and when i manage to ... i feel lame about telling them, it just feel extra stupid, it feels like boast of it ... well i know that such values are somewhat broken, unbalanced in stupid way, but still i feel stupid about telling someone how good am i that i did something good etc. ... even when they ask me i lie and tell them i dindnt do anything ..... anyone same problem ? ideas ? its somewhat pain in the ass, because parents are still bothering me with questions if iam doing something with my life etc. ... and i am not telling them any sucesses

2. second one is about happiness ... i went out yesterday with some friends and we ended up dancing at a club ... and man it felt so hugely stupid, i really couldn have a fun ... i guess its not only by situation ... although i didnt like the music, nor the overall S-ness in club ... i guess it wasnt that bad ... i couldnt have fun becasue i thought to myself ... this is really silly ... there are so much important things going in world and iam wasting my time here dancing like idiot ... i also thought something like ... i will enjoy it sometime in future, when situation will be different .. but i dunno exactly how ... also i thought to myself after leaving ... gosh there are hundred times better ways to have fun or even music to dance to .. than this remixed MTV bullshit :D ... i guess in the end it falls to same conclusion as every INFP topic ... "Oh man iam so uncompatible!"

1. If ya don't mind me asking, what career are you pursuing? I'm currently beating myself up day after day trying to find a damn path for me to follow...its like everything I'm good at just isn't valued in this world that much :S It's like I have the determination and long range vision to become a doctor or engineer or something respectable like that, but when I get down to it anything related to logic just messes with my brain it's quite frustrating.

2. While I do think its kind of silly, I do think that everyone should learn how to have fun wherever they are and just enjoy the moment they are in....BUT, I think the whole club thing is for people who like to hook up with random strangers...atleast that's what the guys go there for haha (and girls always say they go there just to dance HAHA). But whenever I go clubbing its like I get in the building and I feel so out of place and its just really not for me. Trust me, I've tried to get into that scene but it's definitely not for INFP's from what I've seen/heard so far. I think we are better off with a nice, harmonious, quietish environment.