[skogprinsessa]

Today my friends were talking about which male celebrities they think are hot. One friend asked who I liked and I honestly couldn't think of anyone. I am very rarely attracted to someone without knowing them personally. When I see guys on tv I feel absolutely nothing toward them. My friend thought I was nuts for saying this. It seems instinctual for girls to think guys are "hot" at first sight but I can't relate to this at all...the visual aspect alone just doesn't do it for me. Even if I think a guy is attractive, I would never use the word hot...I'm very uncomfortable with the word because I guess I don't completely understand what it means...I'm much more tuned in to personality than appearance I guess. Is this abnormal? Can anyone relate?

[vel]

Yes I can relate. I had some girlfriends in past who would hook up with somebody "because he is cute" and totally overlook a bunch of other qualities of that person. I always thought that was quite weird, but since they seemed to be in majority I came to believe that this was the norm and that I was the weird one instead.

I do have a favourite celebrity though. I just kind of appreciate the beauty of a person like you would appreciate a beautiful work of art and it doesn't want me to dream about that person or fantasize about any relationship.

[prettyhowtown]

I can relate. I usually find someone more physically attractive once I get to know them personally. I have developed a number of crushes this way, including the crush that led to my marriage. I am only really attracted to celebrities who have a certain mystique about them (Johnny Depp, Cillian Murphy...my he-man crush is Robert Downey Jr.), and usually only during a certain time of the month. ;)

[susurration]

Today my friends were talking about which male celebrities they think are hot. One friend asked who I liked and I honestly couldn't think of anyone. I am very rarely attracted to someone without knowing them personally. When I see guys on tv I feel absolutely nothing toward them. My friend thought I was nuts for saying this. It seems instinctual for girls to think guys are "hot" at first sight but I can't relate to this at all...the visual aspect alone just doesn't do it for me. Even if I think a guy is attractive, I would never use the word hot...I'm very uncomfortable with the world because I guess I don't completely understand what it means...I'm much more tuned in to personality than appearance I guess. Is this abnormal? Can anyone relate?

Alright, I was a little tipsy when I first wrote here :\

*edits response out*

Basically.. I agree.

[SVALP]

Today my friends were talking about which male celebrities they think are hot. One friend asked who I liked and I honestly couldn't think of anyone. I am very rarely attracted to someone without knowing them personally. When I see guys on tv I feel absolutely nothing toward them. My friend thought I was nuts for saying this. It seems instinctual for girls to think guys are "hot" at first sight but I can't relate to this at all...the visual aspect alone just doesn't do it for me. Even if I think a guy is attractive, I would never use the word hot...I'm very uncomfortable with the world because I guess I don't completely understand what it means...I'm much more tuned in to personality than appearance I guess. Is this abnormal? Can anyone relate?

Male INFP here, but I can relate (actually, most people here probably will). I can't feel completely attracted to someone just based on the physical component, and not only do I need to be attracted to their personalities, but I also need some sort of connection between me and them. I can definitely recognize it when I see a "hawt chick", anyway, and I can feel a tad of attraction just based on that, although I've come to realize that that usually happens when my intuition catches something about them as persons based on something about their physical appearance.

[Amelie]

I honestly couldn't think of anyone. I am very rarely attracted to someone without knowing them personally. When I see guys on tv I feel absolutely nothing toward them. My friend thought I was nuts for saying this. It seems instinctual for girls to think guys are "hot" at first sight but I can't relate to this at all...the visual aspect alone just doesn't do it for me. Even if I think a guy is attractive, I would never use the word hot...I'm very uncomfortable with the world because I guess I don't completely understand what it means...I'm much more tuned in to personality than appearance I guess. Is this abnormal? Can anyone relate?

I can definitely relate! This situation happens to me all the time- people think i'm so weird! when someone asks me who my celebrity crush is I can never think of anyone. When someone asks me who my real-life crush is I can never think of anyone just based on appearance either- I either really really like someone, or i'm indifferent. I don't get random crushes on people I don't have a connection with.

As far as Hott guys go... Yeah, I have respect for someone who takes care of their body. But I don't see the point in getting involved with someone simply because of physical attraction... i just like nice guys =) bad boys really hold so appeal- personality trumps all [kindness is a beautiful thing].

[Blueguardian]

While I agree, actually strongly about my attractions to be not superficial in nature... I will disregard this aspect for now, and focus on this "hot" topic alone.

I do not tend to find actors, or otherwise famous people to be "hot."
I can find cloths or suggestive body languages to be however.

To me a "hot" person is generally a peer of mine... perhaps a fellow college student I pass by while walking to class? I think this is because while, I don't know them, I can at least see them as "real" in their own right. People I see on tv... have a more fake feel to them. I may not be explaining that correctly... honestly, I think this is the first time I have tried to formulate this contradiction I have into words... None the less, I do not find "Hotness" to be dependent on anything else but looks. I find attractiveness (when used for people) on the other hand, to be more inclusive... as in the liking of the whole person in front of me not just the wrapping. (In my mental dictionary, "Hot" refers to physical looks that turn me on physically. A very shallow and incomplete concept in my opinion.)

[MissyMaroon]

Not INFP, but whatever.

Well, of course I find people or random people physically attractive. It doesn't exactly blow me away, but I "know" they're what society would deem attractive, or even what would fit my personal preferences. BUT, like I said, it wouldn't blow me away or anything, haha.

As for people I get to know, or even famous people whose talents and charisma just capture me whole, then yeah I'm like woo hoo. Like a favorite actor, or a favorite musician, for example.

[skogprinsessa]

Alright, I was a little tipsy when I first wrote here :\

*edits response out*

Basically.. I agree.

Haha...
I'm curious to see what you wrote!

[cardinalfire]

I like saying girls are hot, in a sense of 'oh she is prur-ty', doesn't mean I would try to hit on them. I do need to have physical attraction there too, I can't love or get intimate with someone just based on personality alone, though it is an integral part. In fact one problem I run into is seeing loads of hot girls and yet none that match me in personality.