[FallenofTrack]

Do you sometimes feel like you are being interrogated and that you're personal space has been intruded on when someone asks you a normal, harmless question or comment? For example, in college, I had a friend who would always point something out about me. If I got a new pair of shoes, she would say "oh you got a new pair of shoes" and then tell me her opinion of them. Well, I'm sure to a lot of people this would just seem normal. But for some reason, I felt like I was being interrogated and that my personal space was being invaded. I don't know why I felt that way. It might have something to do with the fact that I don't usually make casual remarks like that about other people and thier appearance of whatever the case may be. I guess I feel like it's none of my business. So for example, if someone I know gets a new hairstyle, I most likely won't make a comment about it, whether I feel like the hairstyle looks nice or not. I usually just keep my opinion to myself.

[refugee]

Do you sometimes feel like you are being interrogated and that you're personal space has been intruded on when someone asks you a normal, harmless question or comment? For example, in college, I had a friend who would always point something out about me. If I got a new pair of shoes, she would say "oh you got a new pair of shoes" and then tell me her opinion of them. Well, I'm sure to a lot of people this would just seem normal. But for some reason, I felt like I was being interrogated and that my personal space was being invaded. I don't know why I felt that way. It might have something to do with the fact that I don't usually make casual remarks like that about other people and thier appearance of whatever the case may be. I guess I feel like it's none of my business. So for example, if someone I know gets a new hairstyle, I most likely won't make a comment about it, whether I feel like the hairstyle looks nice or not. I usually just keep my opinion to myself.

Yes, this happens quite frequently to me. I suppose it's due to the fact that we place high importance on our unique individualistic characteristics. We don't want others to intrude on what we consider to be our own unique, private world.

[SenhorFrio]

i feel very anxious when people question me, and i don't know how to respond to that kinda stuff at all

[bobdaduck]

Deep seated fear of being judged... When they say you're bad, it hurts. When they say you're good, you either don't believe them or don't know how to respond.

Bleh.

[Linda123]

This sounds so similar to how i feel.
I very, very rarely pay compliments to people regarding appearance or even their home improvements etc, and when i do it doesn't feel right somehow. Its as though I'm saying them only because i can see that the person concerned is expecting/hoping for a compliment and so i say the words but it almost feels embarrassing, though no where near as embarrassing as when the compliment is paid to me. I cringe when I'm paid a compliment and 99% of the time i don't even say thanks lol, not because I'm rude but usually because I'm struggling for a reply that will hide my discomfort and funnily enough the word thanks just never feels appropriate when someones just made me feel uncomfortable.

[Medea]

Everytime I have a conversation with my brother I get this feeling. We frequently have fights over it.

[PorlockVisitor]

I get this feeling when people ask, "What are you doing?"
Not over chat or on the phone, but if I'm sitting there alone thinking and ask me what I'm doing I'm almost offended.
OR!! What's the WORST is when they ask me what I'm thinking.
Gahhhhh. If I wanted you to KNOW what I was thinking, clearly I'd already be telling you about it. If I'm not, it probably wouldn't interest you anyway.
The times where I actually have shared I usually get this reaction: "Oh.... uh, okay," as if I made them really uncomfortable by telling them what was on my mind.

But as far as the "Oh you got a new pair of shoes" thing goes, I actually appreciate it because it means I don't have to worry about coming up with something interesting to talk about. I feel like it relieves a lot of pressure.

[Atenza Coltheart]

Yeah, I do. When I get questioned, or something of the sort I immediately see it as "Oh, another person that doesn't understand. This'll be fun." And that's when I get annoyed and irritated, and lose my words, because my emotions for the situation are inexplicable.

[lycanized]

^^You should at least give the person a chance xD

But yes! I really don't like to share a lot about myself with my family or anyone...they probably think I'm fucking retarded, but whatever...

I'm trying to get out of that, because I hate being so private...

[Cyberbear]

I get this feeling when people ask, "What are you doing?"
Not over chat or on the phone, but if I'm sitting there alone thinking and ask me what I'm doing I'm almost offended.
OR!! What's the WORST is when they ask me what I'm thinking.
Gahhhhh. If I wanted you to KNOW what I was thinking, clearly I'd already be telling you about it. If I'm not, it probably wouldn't interest you anyway.
The times where I actually have shared I usually get this reaction: "Oh.... uh, okay," as if I made them really uncomfortable by telling them what was on my mind.

But as far as the "Oh you got a new pair of shoes" thing goes, I actually appreciate it because it means I don't have to worry about coming up with something interesting to talk about. I feel like it relieves a lot of pressure.

"What's up?" is my favourite as well. Especially on the phone, then I feel like being controlled. For example if either my mom or some particular friends call me during the obvious work hours and they'll start a conversation with "Hi, what's up?" then I feel like "You moron, it's Wednesday, it's two o'clock, of course I'm working!". And in a situation you described I feel like being caught with doing something wrong. I've had so many conflicts because of my "What's up?" dislike.