[Acey]

I cant help but feel like an alien towards others. I just feel different then them in every way and that is why i can rarely relate to them. But is this really true? or is it just a belief that is completely false? If i feel like i am different than others on the basis that my personality is different and that i have different beliefs (and this is probable as INFP's make up such a small percentage of the population), then that would mean i should feel a sense of belonging among other INFP's and in the INFP forums because we share similarities and perhaps, we can share a deep connection with others on this forum that has not been experienced with other types.

But if i still don't share a sense of belonging, then maybe it's all just in my head that i really am so different.

We all see similarities in each other, but does that move us any closer together? Or do our feelings of being too different still exist?




excuse my run-on sentences, too lazy to proof read. also dont think i made much sense. need coffee

[lycanized]

I don't get it when people feel so different, but they think they're the only ones who are different. Or when INFPs feel that they are different or unique, but no one else is. That is in your head.

The truth is that everyone is different and unique...no one can be put into a box. But only some people are ultra aware of these boxes or these social norms...or these cookie cutter images of what they should be. Some of these people see that they themselves cannot be put into these boxes, but they think that everyone else can, and others see these boxes as totally obsolete figments of the imagination that no one can be put into...that's the sector I fall into...that's why I hate stereotypes so much...

But the reason why I say that everyone is unique is because I think that people are too complex for there to be a standard for what is normal...and you're not gonna be able to totally relate to anyone, not even other INFPs. There is way too much to human beings to be able to use MBTI to explain us completely.

This idea of everyone being different is also why I am so interested in humans...it's why everyone is interesting and why I want to know so much about them...


Sorry for the rambling...

[Pop Crimes]

The thing is there is nothing very unique about being unique because everyone is unique. That's why I try VERY hard to be even MORE unique! FTW!!!

[xannfir]

Sometimes I feel like an alien, sure. Someone I used to know told me something. He told me that everyone is their own entire universe(inside their body, made of so many hundreds of billions of things), but all in all... we are merely specks of dust floating on a larger speck of dust in the middle of the universe. How much different can one speck of dust be when compared to another?

[lirulin]

Do you know your enneagram? Check out four.

[sarek]

A little paraphrase: All people are unique. Its just that some are more unique than others. Who can put a number on uniqueness? Is that some kind of statistic? A uniqueness Quotient?

Having said that, I know very few people who think like me. And perhaps my measure of differentness from the mainstream INFP group is in my tendency to vacillate between Thinking and Feeling a lot.

[Calvaire]

I always feel like an outcast or somehting on here....

[whisperycat]

I was a long time member on a Yahoo INFP list and that's where I realised that just because other people might get the same MBTI test result as you, that didn't mean they were in any way like you. In fact with INFPs in particular (I can't and won't speak for any other MBTI type) I think it's all about personal value systems. When (as an INFP) your inner value system matches another INFPs value system then communication can be quite easy. But trying to interact with an INFP who's value system is totally opposite to your own, or radically different, it's like meeting a totally incomprehensible space alien. Being of the same MBTI type doesn't in any way mean that you will feel some sort of connection to other people sharing your type.

[prettyhowtown]

I don't feel unique... I just feel like an alien. I feel like I just don't fit in; not unique, just that there's something wrong with me. Probably the greatest problem I've had recently is the fact that people don't understand my motivations for things... nor do they care. I'm learning not to care what other people think, but it's difficult. At any rate, I don't feel unique or special. I feel like a square peg.

[Flute]

It really depends. When it comes to how I interact (or don't interact, a lot of the time) with people, I do feel like most INFPs have the same struggles I have and interact in similar ways. So in that aspect I do feel like I really fit with INFPs.

But like someone else said, INFPs are driven by and have such strong value systems that it's really difficult when I meet someone who has a different one. Because I've thought long and hard about mine and I imagine they've thought long and hard about theirs, I get confused as to how we came to separate conclusions. So even though we're both INFPs, they are kind of incomprehensible to me. Even being INFP, it's hard to get inside the head of a different INFP, because I know what it's like in there. I don't know that I could navigate another INFP's thoughts - I can barely navigate my own!