First, a bit of introduction: I am 33 years old, female, married w/four kids. I have NEVER met anyone in real life who is like me. I found this forum by searching for INFP. And I am SO THRILLED to find others like me!! I have read some of the other posts in the forum, and nearly cry every time. After so long feeling that I was alone, I am SO HAPPY to find that I'm not! You are all wonderful.
I have moved around a lot, first with my dad's job, then with my husband's job. Every place I've moved, there has been someone I meet (so far always female - hopefully always female, cuz it'd be awkward for me, otherwise) who is immediately special to me. It's like I've known them forever. One person who energizes me. (Everybody else seems to drain my energy.) I just want to hold them close to me and be with them a lot. I am not gay - and the feelings I have for them are emotional/spiritual, not sexual. But the feelings are uber intense. I try to hide them, cuz I can tell that, with one exception (I would guess she was an ENFJ), they don't feel the same for me. But it tears me apart knowing that I love someone who really couldn't care less that I even exist. I work SO hard on developing a friendship with that person who doesn't put any effort into the relationship, and actually seems kinda bothered that she would be more special to me than other people.
I don't know if I'm making much sense. Does anybody know what I'm talking about? Does anyone know how to cope with something like this?