[SenhorFrio]

now as INFP we are often to hard on ourselfs and often it is completily unjustifed, but i still can't understand why wheneveri try and tell people abot times ifeel negativilyabout myself they jsut say"no way that's just not true"and htey have literally no understanding of it, even when i put it in context"i feel like such a loser for not talking to her" and evn though i'm acting in a bad way they jsut jump to saying that"no way your so cool"

[lonewolf]

now as INFP we are often to hard on ourselfs and often it is completily unjustifed, but i still can't understand why wheneveri try and tell people abot times ifeel negativilyabout myself they jsut say"no way that's just not true"and htey have literally no understanding of it, even when i put it in context"i feel like such a loser for not talking to her" and evn though i'm acting in a bad way they jsut jump to saying that"no way your so cool"

It sounds like whoever you were talking to didn't really want to delve deeper to understand why it is you feel this way and would rather just make you feel better by simply saying that its not true. Obviously, since I'm an INFP, I know its not that simple, but not everyone knows this.

[obz900]

I might be totally off base here, but I sometimes get the feeling that most people just don't want to talk about emotions. It's almost like they're scared of them in a way. At the first sign that someone is going to talk about their feelings, they get nervous and change the subject. They are completely satisfied with superficial relationships. It's like, we can have fun together but I don't feel comfortable talking about anything important. Annoying as fuck.

[sushi]

It's like, we can have fun together but I don't feel comfortable talking about anything important.

thats pretty much how i live my social life. i hate talking about important stuff to people i usually hang out with. but its not because i just wanna have fun and avoid the deep shit. its just that talking about real emotions and feelings with someone i see all the time or that i have to be with on most days is kinda like closing that gap between me and whoever that person is. and once i close that gap, certain expectations might be made from me, like im expected to understand that person. it's way simpler to not know stuff about people i go to school with or see everyday than know their background stories and daily bullshit because that way im not expected to be a better person around them just coz i know what they're going through. i dont know if this is just me but the way i see it, maybe other people who don't wanna talk about important stuff has this as their reason too.

[WickedQueen]

they have literally no understanding of it, even when i put it in context "i feel like such a loser for not talking to her" and even though i'm acting in a bad way they just jump to saying that "no way your so cool"

May I ask what kind of respond do you expected from them? I suspect you also don't want them to say: "Yeah, you're right. You're a loser," right?

[SenhorFrio]

May I ask what kind of respond do you expected from them? I suspect you also don't want them to say: "Yeah, you're right. You're a loser," right?

well in these kind of cases i'm saying something negative about myself because of what i did or didn't do. i want to hear more of"yeah that is pretty dumb" acknowledgment that changing for the better would remove the negtive feelings

[PinkCynix]

I know how you feel about these situations. Although I'd rather like to hear nothing at all and just vent my emotional frustrations to people instead. That doesn't really make sense to some, and I do realize how selfish it is. I'm working on it through writing. >.> The way I see it is, unless you have a really trusted person who cares much about you and "gets you", there really is no sense in putting yourself down in front of them. Especially if you're not getting the reaction you'd like.
That's just my point of view.

[MrRandom88]

now as INFP we are often to hard on ourselfs and often it is completily unjustifed, but i still can't understand why wheneveri try and tell people abot times ifeel negativilyabout myself they jsut say"no way that's just not true"and htey have literally no understanding of it, even when i put it in context"i feel like such a loser for not talking to her" and evn though i'm acting in a bad way they jsut jump to saying that"no way your so cool"

the majority of guys fear approaching women, myself included. I'll do it when im feelin it, but lots of the time its just not there... That feeling in your stomach before approaching a women...yeah even the best of the best get that :/