[HonourThyCat]

I'd rather be underestimated then overestimated.



I like the element of surprise

[Faustus]

hahaha, oh this thread really strikes home. I've been underestimated to the point that when people assume they know me, and I then prove them wrong, they either are genuinely surprised, or call me "two-faced". so....yea.

[obz900]

I am constantly underestimated by every person I meet. I doubt even my best friends see that much potential in me. It pisses me off and makes me depressed.

[nikkii]

I'd rather be underestimated then overestimated.

I like the element of surprise

I would like a middle ground. It annoying when people think that everytime you good at something they can do it better.

[nikkii]

Yeah, exactly. People can't just assume someone's capabilities simply by looking at the person. At one place I worked, the offie manager once told me that the reason she didn't give me a lot of tasks to do was because it seemed like I wasn't eager enough and I seemed disinterested. That ticked me off because it just really clued me in on how people perceive me and make assumptions. I don't expect a pat on the back for everything that I do, but I would like to be respected for what I know and my capabilities.

I'm sorry, Its the same with me. It seems even the people close to don't get it sometimes I just have to laugh because I dont think anyone ever will.

In writing this comment, a movie came to mind starring Christian Slater and Marissa Tomei, called Untamed Heart. In one scene of the movie, big mouthed Rosie Perez describes Slater's character as dumb and stupid simply because he doesn't say much.

Seems llike a movie I would really like.

[refugee]

yeah this happens to me all the time.
I am slowly coming to grips with the fact that this is my fate (there i go in my martyr phase again lol)
I am also realizing that most people don't give a fuck about me, so I will stop worrying about them. From now on, I'll only go to those who need/want me.

[Thinker96]

sometimes its good sometimes its bad to be underestimated...i remember my high school counselor was helping me pick colleges to apply to and i picked a few i liked like : Monmouth, Penn State etc...and when i said those 2..she paused and gave me a look and said "maybe you should try to apply to ones that fit you" . now im not stupid and i know what she meant by it...that bitch....annyway lol, it filled me with great pleasure when i told her i got into all the colleges i applied to, shoulda seen the look on her face!

other than that, people usually think i cant do or achieve things (which is many times the reason for how low my confidence is w/ myself)...and occasionally ppl tell me "omg u drink and u smoke pot?? whaat?? but ur so innocent!" that makes me laugh

[nikkii]

yeah this happens to me all the time.
I am slowly coming to grips with the fact that this is my fate (there i go in my martyr phase again lol)
I am also realizing that most people don't give a fuck about me, so I will stop worrying about them. From now on, I'll only go to those who need/want me.

I was going through this phase a couple months ago.

[supermarionbros]

I hate being underestimated. Around many people that I know, I am often known to be "slow," or "submissive," or the "good girl type." I'm not physically strong, and I am a pretty tolerant and generous person, so I'm pretty much a pacifist... unless someone/something really pisses me off.

I guess this is an INFP thing, however, the good thing about being underestimated is that you can surprise others--that you are more than what other people expect you to be. So when people say stuff like, "OHH MARION, I never knew you were like that" or something like that, I'll just be like, "yeah, I'm more than that."

[nikkii]

sometimes its good sometimes its bad to be underestimated...i remember my high school counselor was helping me pick colleges to apply to and i picked a few i liked like : Monmouth, Penn State etc...and when i said those 2..she paused and gave me a look and said "maybe you should try to apply to ones that fit you" . now im not stupid and i know what she meant by it...that bitch....annyway lol, it filled me with great pleasure when i told her i got into all the colleges i applied to, shoulda seen the look on her face!

I would have loved to see that.

other than that, people usually think i cant do or achieve things (which is many times the reason for how low my confidence is w/ myself)...and occasionally ppl tell me "omg u drink and u smoke pot?? whaat?? but ur so innocent!" that makes me laugh

lol, same here.