[Kalifatidess]

I hate not to have control over my personality, when I see others, I feel they are almost all the time genuine people, they dont try to pretend to be something or act different. Now thats my perspective of others... What do others perspective of me/us look like?

My general view of my own personality is that I get reserved when Im shy, and I often forget how to act with people Ive known for years, I could even get reserved and insecure in front of my own mother.



I dont know anything about anything right now

Anyone with ideas?

[Kevinaswell]

You pretty much hit the nail on the head yourself--it's an insecurity issue.

Although these issues are incredibly irritating and stressful to cope with, they are definitely not uncommon :) So it's good you aren't alone! You came to a good place, a lot of the INFP's here are pretty experienced with developing their insecurities...

[brians]

Genuine, kind, caring, innocent at heart, and somewhat lost. Most I have known have retreated into themselves as a defensive mechanism from difficulties in dealing with the world at large and its uncaring ways. I love their company especially the ones who have developed some skill of dealing with conflict and negativity, the more sensitive ones are also a joy but can be tiring due to the constant eggshell walking that needs to be done to keep miscommunications at a minimum. I can be somewhat blunt so the feeling not always mutual :(

[gloosle]

I personally think that lots of other types are the ones who aren't genuine. while a lot of my views, likes, styles are influenced by my friends. I know so many people that are influenced by the current style or what the popular thing to like and act is. I'm not like that at all and I follow my own path. Granted I do put up a mask a lot but I feel like a lot of other people are completely fake.

Most people probably view me as a quiet person who pipes up every now and then for a witty comment or a question. Those that I hang out but arent' close friends with think i'm an extroverted goofball who is never serious and a blast to be around. I know this for fact as that's how they usually describe me. My close friends probably see me as a weirdo as I have states of very extrovertedness and then I retreat into a hole. I live at the "social house" with 4 extroverted dudes. So people are always coming and going. And I put forth little or no effort to entertain those people and I keep to myself usually and at first I bet they view me as awkward. but they all eventually start to enjoy quite a bit and I usually get a new "friendship".

So my point on that rant is in general peeps prolly see me as a quiet weirdo.

[ethylester]

I only know one other INFP and since I can't accurately describe how other people see me, I can say that my INFP friend comes off as very wise and innocent. She can look at you with her huge eyes and look right into your mind. She's very receptive to genuine attempts at conversation but can put up walls once the conversation seems too forced or she feels crowded. She comes up with hilarious and off the wall comments but doesn't speak at length unless she can tell she has your undivided attention. She can joke around but can also get serious at the blink of an eye. She freely admits that she is a sensitive person and can feel hurt by others easily. She has deep compassion for people and can easily tear up when hearing or telling a sad story. She doesn't quite fit in with everyone else and it seems her efforts to include herself go unnoticed by others. If you show that you are interested in her, she will also become interested in you. Long periods of time can go by without contact but when you finally see each other again, she's right there, receptive and ready to spend time with you. She's awesome, I really like her.

[Kalifatidess]

So my point on that rant is in general peeps prolly see me as a quiet weirdo.

I know the feeling, I have too always seen myself as a wierd guy, but Im not, I assure you people dont think youre wierd either.
On the other hand Ive learned one thing, that people seem to act on how you think of yourself. If you approach with the selfimage as a wierd guy, people probably treat you that way then, but if u approach with confidence and with a "normal" image of yourself, people always seem to be treating you that way.
I halfspeculate but I think it works that way.

She's awesome, I really like her.

Wow sounds like a really good friend you have, I can only hope people get the same picture from me, they usually say that im warm, sympatic and/or deep.

[200600910]

I hate not to have control over my personality, when I see others, I feel they are almost all the time genuine people, they dont try to pretend to be something or act different. Now thats my perspective of others... What do others perspective of me/us look like?

My general view of my own personality is that I get reserved when Im shy, and I often forget how to act with people Ive known for years, I could even get reserved and insecure in front of my own mother.

I dont know anything about anything right now

Anyone with ideas?

I think it's because INFP's place huge importance on sticking to their values, while they are also accutely aware of how others percieve them.

So I guess the inner conflict that makes you feel uncomfortable springs when your integrity compels you to behave in a way that you believe is right and authentic but, on the other hand, you feel that behaving in this manner (which might be different to the way you usually behave) might result in the person (whose approval is important to you) not liking you. I think this is why INFP's can feel nervous even in front of the closest people.

[scude]

I seem to like all INFPs I come across, or at least can identify as one... I've known a few. My ex was one too. My favourite teacher was one. And a lot of them working in environmental organization with me. They're all different from each other of course, but something about 'em INFPs I just dig.

Conversation is never boring with one and I like their depth. I like their quirkiness, calmnness and humour. They can be secretive sometimes with their feelings and have a negative self-image. What I also like is that they tend to 'see' people as they are, warts and all, and be very accepting and patient and forgiving.

Anyways, as a conclusion INFPs imo = <3

[NeonBomb]

Just a bunch of losers really

[KC]

I don't know...

I generally my impression on INFPs are not very good because both my parents are INFPs and boy, do they really get on my nerves, but probably that's because they're not the mature kind of INFPs.

They're pretty quick to judge others and make their own negative assumptions, imposing heavy expectations on people and at the same time, do not accept criticism...

But that's just my experience anyway. Pretty sore now as well so IDK...