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This is a discussion on Mysterious INFPs emotional On-Off Switch?? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by BlackPixy13 The main purpose of this is that "we run away to see who will follow". It ...
There can be four reasons I can think of.
#1 - the INFP is just going through something and needs to be emotionally isolated to focus on working through the problem. (Because when we attach ourselves emotionally to someone, all our attention tends to go to that, and it's difficult to think clearly).
#2 - something you did (probably unintentionally) has thrown the INFP off. We have a really strong ethic which we tend to try to hold other people around us by, but we don't always verbalize it. And sometimes we can start to doubt based on the most flimsy things, and keep going in a downwards spiral of doubt.
#3 - the INFP realizes that your relationship has the potential to get even more close, and they're scared as hell of letting that happen.
#4 - it's a test to see if you care enough about the INFP to make things better.
Unfortunately, we can have the stereotypically female quality of expecting someone who really cares about us to just "know" what we need from them, or we can be too nervous to verbalize it. Or maybe even we don't know. Ha.
Well, I don't know about other people but when I feel like people don't like me or wont return my affection then I tend to distance myself emotionally so I don't get hurt. But sometimes I just go though random lows and feel like nobody likes me even when they do. So maybe that's what's happening here?
This is a very good, informative, helpful thread!
There isnt a lot more I can add to this thread. Reading it has been like having someone posting on the internet my most inner thoughts..
I wish all INTJs would read this!
Thank you all so much for your sharing your thoughts and pearls of wisdom I learned a lot reading all of your posts here, I appreciate it enormously!!
Well it could be that for some reason you haven't spent much time with him lately?
For me it is hard to re-connect with people if too much time has passed since the last time we saw each other, or it could be the other way around. Maybe you've spent too much time together and he feels a bit exhausted so he might need to spend some days alone.
Uhmm and if you think you've offended him someway then don't worry too much about it, we find it easy to forgive people and in 2 or 3 days he should be back to normal.
Well at least that's how I am.