[Kalifatidess]

I actually think its harder for a male INFP to find a partner than females. Females rarely have to take action when meeting someone new in love-cases.. Im tryin my best too not to feel sorry for myself but sometimes I wish I were born as a female.



Males: Is this correct?

Females: please correct me if Im wrong:)

[kusay]

I find it difficult meeting new people or starting a conversation with a stranger, but if they make the first move then it's not very difficult anymore, I just need the first move.

For me it's really difficult and I am a male, so ya...don't know about females though.

[Darity]

I actually think its harder for a male INFP to find a partner than females. Females rarely have to take action when meeting someone new in love-cases.. Im tryin my best too not to feel sorry for myself but sometimes I wish I were born as a female.



Males: Is this correct?

Females: please correct me if Im wrong:)

I partly agree. Then again that's something all men have to deal with, especially introverts. I think male INFPs got some bad luck when Zeus distributed the personalities (if you want an easy and adapted life, that is), but that hasn't much to do with finding a partner. At least for me the main problem is finding my niche where I belong, finding the place where I won't get disturbed.
Regarding relationships, I think we have a hard time getting into one (at least I have), but if I find myself in one, chances are good that it's a "real thing". I value that higher than getting into a relation easily.

I don't want to be female, I'd go crazy about my menses and would always touch my boobs
Nah, seriously, It's fine to be a male INFP - I think it just takes some time to find your place in the world, but ultimately it comes down this:

The harder the way the more worthwhile the journey. -Wilfred Thesiger

[Psilo]

I won't complain that I get to be on the passive and responsive side of the whole courtship thing. I got the better gender role in this instance, I feel. :p

This side of the fence has it's issues too. I don't like dating around. I really need a bond first before I start thinking about dating. So, I get skimmed over by guys who are afraid of the 'friend zone' (a concept I just don't understand). I don't catch 'signals' so I inadvertently lead guys on who ditch when they realize I don't want to rush into a fling, and that I want a close, long term, loving sort of relationship. I don't like having to turn people down, and I hate losing people I would have liked to get to know. Most of the guys that do approach me are not the type I want to date, and those that I do want to date are also passive, responsive types so they won't take any steps.

Then again, it all worked out. I accidentally got into a relationship with an INTP where we just grew together without having to worry about the silly dating rules neither of us understand.
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[elissabowden]

I tend to conform to whichever guy is hitting on me. In other words, I relate to them automatically. But, once the relationship starts, it's down hill. The last 2 guys I dated ended up crying for 3 months or in the fetal position smoking a big one.

You may have a problem with hitting on girls, but we have a problem with looking like the crazy girl I dated 3 times, if it even gets that far. With me, it barely gets past the first date.

[Kalifatidess]

Nah, seriously, It's fine to be a male INFP - I think it just takes some time to find your place in the world, but ultimately it comes down this:

I agree with you. That is probably what Im looking for... not to have to feel like a UFO.

Then again, it all worked out. I accidentally got into a relationship with an INTP where we just grew together without having to worry about the silly dating rules neither of us understand.
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Im glad it worked out for you! I can see the differences, but I can also se that both genders seem to work alike. Im selecting the people I trust, if they show me insecurity I brake loose from them in some way. but it gets me tired, been doing like this for 2 years, seems like Im searchin for something that is so perfect that it doesnt exist.

[gkolarik]

i would think its just as hard both ways. ether way the opposite sex has to be really outgoiingg

[NeedsNewNameNow]

This side of the fence has it's issues too. I don't like dating around. I really need a bond first before I start thinking about dating. So, I get skimmed over by guys who are afraid of the 'friend zone' (a concept I just don't understand)\

Do INFP women, in general, have a 'friend zone'?

[Psilo]

I can't speak for other INFPs, but to me the 'friend zone' is a necessary part for a relationship to develop. I need to know that I like a person, that they like me as well, and that I can see the two of us together long term. My partner should be my best friend in my opinion. I don't have the energy to play the dating game and 'test' potential boyfriends.
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[Kalifatidess]

dating game never works for me, usually stops at the coffe shops too