[iChelsea]

As an INFP I struggle with communication in my relationship. It's hard for me to express what I am feeling and it just seems awkward/embarassing to me. The only way I can do this is through texting/instant messaging. I don't want to have to text my boyfriend everytime something is wrong, I want to be able to talk about it but I am so ridiculously shy about things for some reason.
I tend to bottle up my feelings until I get really mad and then I will just ignore him until I am not as angry.

[amanda32]

That's hard because you're afraid of showing you are unhappy with sth. he does and don't want to upset him or "cause problems".
How about writing an email or making notes so you can gather your thoughts and organize them and then once you think about them and practice enough, sit down and talk calmly with him?
Try to keep emotion at bay as much as possible and try to get him to see things from your perspective but also be open
to seeing things from his?

[RainbowShield]

This was what killed nearly all of my relationships.
Communication is everything in a relationship. They tend not to go that well when you suck at the most important part.

[amanda32]

What type is your guy?

[Eva]

i just try to remember that having problems is part of life and its not the end of the world when you have disagreements.
not that it always helps how the discussion turns out but it helps me at least get my feelings out there when i want to bottle them up

[iChelsea]

I think he is ENTP but I'm not really sure.

He's definitely extroverted. Very charming and polite, makes friends easily
He's really good at english class and elaborating on books and stuff like that.

And I'm pretty sure he's perceiving but I could be wrong.

[infpblog]

Communication is a skill. It's learned.

You learn to do something by doing it. There's no other way. Also, anyone who was ever good at anything, sucked at it first.

The longer you wait to start practicing, the longer it's going to be until you get good. Good communication skills saves relationships.

It's better to have those communications and not need them, then to need those communications skills and not have them.

[Patrick]

You should definitely just start practicing. Sure you will be a little awkward and will have a tendency to kick yourself often afterwards because things didn't come out quite how you planned but you will grow and get better. infpblog is right on in that you will learn and grow.

If you are like me, you are much more comfortable writing down how you feel and are likely more gifted at that form of expression than most people you know. Isn't it wonderful when someone reads what you wrote and it actually moves and inspires them or at least they understand clearly how you feel? Imagine how wonderful it would be if you could do the same thing with your words and outward expression. Anyone who does public speaking knows they need to practice. INFPs seems to have to start from scratch with this but we tend to start from very good scratch. So be encouraged and begin learning to to communicate genuinely with others. After a while, I think you'll begin to have fun with it. :)

[Phenix]

Same trouble, makes relationships difficult. However, there are some people that I just talk freely with, but hard to force it otherwise. On the other hand, what's wrong with sorting it out with texting, IM, PMs? It takes the emotional charge out of the equation and you can express what you really mean without getting derailed (especially by NT questions like: When did I EVER do that? /me = ). I say use whatever works, even if it just initiates the discussion, that's making progress.

[Staples]

ya at first when i'd have to talk about emotional things that were dead important sometimes i would go into like a feedback where i'd be so flooded with emotion i couldn't even put 2 thoughts together or remember what it was to be said. yeh
I've gotten better bout it though