[Memphisto]

I don't agree that you need to give him notice as a professional. Being professional involves how you do your job. Do your job well but there is nothing that says you have to give notice. He should know as a boss that treating people like a jerk doesn't generally make people want to give him courtesies such as notice of quitting. If he doesn't already know this, it sounds like he will soon...

And just to add to this...most jobs are at will employment. The employer can legally let you go without any notice. And in return you have the right to walk out without giving any notice. You giving notice to your employer is a courtesy not the law.

[napoleon227]

...my district manager yells at me literally every hour about something else I did wrong. I understand I can't always be making mistakes but a lot of the times it isn't my fault but I get the blame. He tends to overreact and get very angry about things that aren't a very big deal like not cashing a customer out right when he says it because I am in the middle of something else that can't wait. He isn't professional about it at all and lets his emotions take over, which I think is completely inappropriate.

My manager was unprofessional and would yell at me. The last straw was when he stormed into my office and ripped my radio cord out of the wall because he decided to have a no music policy. I grabbed my purse, told him to fuck off and never came back...

"Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men."
~Lord Acton, 1887

A lot of managers get on power trips (both male and female). Often they get handed a position of authority, or create their own, and they don't know how to handle it. They don't understand or care about people. They think that being abusive is actually the way to get better production out of people, or they don't care about production at all and just want to lord it over others.

I don't understand this kind of behaviour. But I'm biased I guess. I was always a nice boss - too nice maybe (a consultant surveyed my staff once and reported that our office had exceptionally high moral - I was very proud of that). I realize that as a manager you can't be friends with the staff because the job is to get things done through others. But still, I think there are better methods of leadership than being abusive.

So this brings me to the point... Make sure you work for good leaders. Good leaders will be firm but fair. They will take the time to teach you. They will take the time to get to know you because they will want to know what motivates you. They will be patient with your mistakes, as long as you try.

I know it is really tough to get a job in this economy, but remember that a job interview isn't just them interviewing you - it is also you interviewing them.

More importantly, a job is not just a way to make money. It is also part of your life, usually a big part. Don't settle for being abused by your employers no matter what. No amount of money is worth that, in my view.

[iChelsea]

I've only walked out of one job before and it was similar to the situation you're describing. My manager was unprofessional and would yell at me. The last straw was when he stormed into my office and ripped my radio cord out of the wall because he decided to have a no music policy. I grabbed my purse, told him to fuck off and never came back... I can't even tell you how much satisfaction I got from that.

I'd just quit and not give notice if you don't really need the reference. I'm always wary of burning bridges because your next employer may want to contact your previous employer. Is there somebody at your job that you could get to give you a reference if you need it? If so...I'd just write a letter of resignation and email it or give it to him and not come back. Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

I know an employee that has worked there for a long time that might be able to give me a reference.
So for the references on a new application should I just put his cell phone number or something?

[Memphisto]

I know an employee that has worked there for a long time that might be able to give me a reference.
So for the references on a new application should I just put his cell phone number or something?

Yep, that's what I would do. :)

[iChelsea]

Okay thank you
I am wondering how to get it.
I have to work at 4 today and I am planning on just not showing up.
The person I am planning to put is working today, so calling work and asking for his number wouldn't make sense.

So I could either
- Go to work today at 4, write down his number from the list and then leave
- Go to work today and work my normal shift and get his number during that time
- Call him at work on Sunday when he is working but no managers are and ask him for his number then

I kind of want to do number 1 just because it will be funny and they probly won't realize what is going on for a while lol
And if they ask where I am going Ill just say brb lol
I love confusing people
But I think I should also call him on Sunday just to make sure he knows I am using him as a reference

[Memphisto]

Okay thank you
I am wondering how to get it.
I have to work at 4 today and I am planning on just not showing up.
Should I call today and ask the cashier to get Tim's number

That would probably work. You might want to give him a call though before putting him down as a reference and make sure he's ok with it. Otherwise if a future employer calls him and he's not expecting the call it could make you look bad if he says "oh yeah she just never showed up for work again...I don't know what happened to her." But yeah, I'd call somebody at your work and see if you can get his number...then give him a call in a few days and let him know what happened...and see if you can use him as a future reference.