I'm INTP, and last year I met a girl who I had an immediate and amazing bond with. She took an MBTI test, and was INTJ according to the results. I believed this for awhile and in some ways INTJ seemed to fit (yet in other ways it didn't).
In particular, I seemed to 'step in it' more often than I'd like. She'd perceive criticism and blame where none were intended and try to avoid conflict (I didn't think INTJs tended to be so afraid of conflict). If she didn't avoid the conflict, she'd get very angry and combative. A few weeks back we had a huge fight where I got to see just how sensitive to criticism/blame she was.
Anyway, today I was reading the INFP profile, and was struck that much of it seemed to fit her better than the INTJ one did! So now I'm wondering if that's her true type. Alot of ways it fits, but some ways it still doesn't. She seems more like a logical thinker, than an emotional feeler. But on the other hand she has told me that she has very strong emotions that she keeps to herself and doesn't let anyone see.
Anyway we had a bit of a relationship for a bit that kinda crashed and burned, but I've been trying to maintain a friendship with her since we connect so well. We still talk, but she's closed herself off to me somewhat because of things that happened between us (all of those were results of miscommunications between us).
I guess what I'd like to know is how to get her to fully trust me again, and what I can do to keep from starting fights that were unintentional.
so if any of you INFPs can give pointers on how you'd expect to be treated by a close friend and how they can win your trust, and tips on how to avoid triggering her criticism sensitivities, I'd appreciate it.