[Lummex]

I was wondering how you other INFPs express anger (the rare times you do :P). I rarely, rarely get angry, and usually it just amounts to being a little annoyed. And even then, I don't really express it much and just let it pass. However, I live with my best friend (an ENTP, if that sheds light at all), and this weekend I just kind of had a weird outburst of all the things that had been really getting on my nerves about her. It kind of came out in a sarcastic, snotty, mocking tone. For example, I fake laughed really, really loud and strangely when she said something that I didn't appreciate. I also called her out for being a hypocrite in a certain way, and I mocked her music tastes by talking in a loud, obnoxious "stupid girl" voice. (we don't always enjoy the same type of music, and she makes fun of my poetic-type music tastes to no end. i can usually handle it, but when it's this constant, I just get very annoyed sometimes). Anyway, I really suprised myself!

The next few days we didn't acknowledge it really, except for she said "Dude, you were being crazy last night! LOL!" And that made me a little angry all over again, so i just said "no, I wasn't". and we dropped it.

She was just on the phone with her other friend, though, (who witnessed my outburst), and she was just saying "Oh my god I know! She was so crazy last night! I thought she was going to kill me! blablabla". And so I'm kind of annoyed all over again, but this time I'm just going to isolate myself in my room for the rest of the night, I think.

So yeah, just wondering what happens when you reach your braking point in regards to anger?

[Danse Macabre]

It kind of came out in a sarcastic, snotty, mocking tone. For example, I fake laughed really, really loud and strangely when she said something that I didn't appreciate.

I'm exactly the same. I just get viciously sarcastic and often fake laugh or mock whoever I'm angry at. I usually (Verbally O_O) cut them to pieces and once they go away I start crying. Lol xD
But I lose my temper about once a year, so...

[IamOpening]

Well, I have had countless violent outbursts. I've never had an outburst like one I am speaking of outside of home. They always happen at home. I haven't had one in a while, but my sophomore year I had them frequently. Basically, my anger erupts and I start screaming expletives and acting violently. You people will think I am a complete psycho, but two years ago I punched my mother in the side of the head. I had never consciously punched anyone like that before.
I did it because first of all I was trying a new anti-anxiety herbal supplement that I believe let my emotions loose. I heard her slap my four year old cousin while giving him a bath, and that instantly triggered terrible memories of her abusing me when I was young, about his age. So, later I confronted her about it and she said she didn't do it. Then I said some nasty things, and stormed out of her room. She then walked out into the living room and started cursing at me and I stood up and she started shoving me hard, so I lost it and socked her right in the head. I actually feel angry writing this. I just hated her for abusing me all those years, and then lying about it. My father, the sane one, always would ask her about these things, and she'd lie to him too. I couldn't stand it. After dealing with that for my childhood, I just lost it.
Anyways... I'm sorry I just shit my emotions on you, but I believe that conveys my INFP self having an outburst, "expressing anger."

[Gabbi]

I haven't expressed anger in the last two years. Living away from people who get on my nerve easily is helping.
However, my current housemate is beyond annoying. I should explode pretty soon.
Because yes, it's an "explosion" when I finally express my anger. I hide this feeling for so long that it gets out by itself. I yell and I say all the thing that makes me angry, without censorship. And it feels like it's someone else who talked for me, if that can be considered talking.

[IamOpening]

I haven't expressed anger in the last two years. Living away from people who get on my nerve easily is helping.
However, my current housemate is beyond annoying. I should explode pretty soon.
Because yes, it's an "explosion" when I finally express my anger. I hide this feeling for so long that it gets out by itself. I yell and I say all the thing that makes me angry, without censorship. And it feels like it's someone else who talked for me, if that can be considered talking.

YES. I do this too.

[starfruit]

I bottle up my feelings because I don't like to hurt other people by telling them off. Eventually I completely ignore the person who made me mad until I feel better. But on rare occasions, they say something to trigger my anger and I explode and cut them down which makes things worse..

[Lummex]

Thanks guys, it's interesting to hear about. It seems that in general, we all seem to hold stuff in for a long time in order to keep the peace, and then just explode.

I wanted to add, because it just came up again with my friend. I thought it would blow over (and hoped it would, to tell the truth), but she just came in my room with her other friend (the one who was there), and asked "hey, why were you so crazy on friday night?" And I just kind of smiled while boiling on the inside, and said "get the f*** out of my room". Which is COMPLETELY out of character for me... gosh, I don't know what is going on with me. I think it's because I am so angry that she is veiwing my outburst as me being drunk or crazy or something, which I wasn't. Anyway, she didn't leave, and laughed and said "i can't believe you don't think you were being crazy! LOLOLOL", my reply was just another smile with "What, you don't think I remember or something? I acted that way because I was angry. Please leave my room now."

Uggghhhhh... conflict time. Not good. Time for isolation and wallowing...

[NinjaSwan]

I rarely show anger, but like Gabbi said, when I do its an explosion. The little annoyances building up over a long period of time is what usually does it.

[Gabbi]

Thanks guys, it's interesting to hear about. It seems that in general, we all seem to hold stuff in for a long time in order to keep the peace, and then just explode.

I wanted to add, because it just came up again with my friend. I thought it would blow over (and hoped it would, to tell the truth), but she just came in my room with her other friend (the one who was there), and asked "hey, why were you so crazy on friday night?" And I just kind of smiled while boiling on the inside, and said "get the f*** out of my room". Which is COMPLETELY out of character for me... gosh, I don't know what is going on with me. I think it's because I am so angry that she is veiwing my outburst as me being drunk or crazy or something, which I wasn't. Anyway, she didn't leave, and laughed and said "i can't believe you don't think you were being crazy! LOLOLOL", my reply was just another smile with "What, you don't think I remember or something? I acted that way because I was angry. Please leave my room now."

It annoys me when people don't believe I can get angry.
It seems like they can't conceive I have a large variety of emotions... Just because I look peaceful and laid-back, I "must" act like that alllllllll the time, according to them.

Uggghhhhh... conflict time. Not good. Time for isolation and wallowing...

I wish I could isolate. But no, one of the things that's adding to my anger is the "hey, let's slam doors for nothing at 2am" game my housemate has decided to play since a week.
Sorry for the little rant

[OrangeAppled]

I can be passively irritable/moody on a regular basis, but it's usually around family because I tend to let my guard down and they tend to push me. It's passive in the sense that it's a rolling of the eyes, a sigh, or a terse retort in response to something and not an aggressive inflamed feeling. I should probably try having the same restraint with them that I show with people I am less close to though. With strangers and friends, I have a lot of patience & will swallow more without showing any irritation. If these people ever see me very angry, they are usually surprised, because they seem to think I am always easy-going and may even underestimate my backbone.

So like most here, any anger usually builds slowly and then finally explodes, sometimes seeming to come out of nowhere. That's usually because I have not addressed an issue because I was avoiding confrontation. With my family, something small that symbolizes a larger frustration will be the straw that breaks the camel's back, but to them, it seems to be over that specific triviality. That just demeans my feelings, and the cycle continues.... Of course, these larger frustrations are often traced back to a value mine bomb that has been tripwired.